The Gift (Russian Edition): 14 Lessons to Save Your Life

by Edith Eva Eger, Esmé Schwall Weigand

Overview

Eta kniga — prakticheskoe i vdohnovlyayushchee rukovodstvo po isceleniyu dushi i obreteniyu vnutrenney svobody. Edit Eva Eger myagko podskazyvaet put' izmeneniya mysley i povedeniya, uderzhivayushchih nas v plenu, razbiraet dvenadcat' rasprostranennyh destruktivnyh psihologicheskih ustanovok i predlagaet instrumenty dlya ih ustraneniya.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9785001695134
Publisher:	Mann, Ivanov and Ferber
Publication date:	03/12/2021
Sold by:	Bookwire
Format:	eBook
Pages:	219
File size:	2 MB
Age Range:	16 Years
Language:	Russian

About the Author

Эдит Ева Эгер — женщина, пережившая холокост. Выдающийся клинический психолог, работала с ветеранами войн, военнослужащими и перенесшими физические и психологические травмы. Живет в Калифорнии, в месте, которое называется Ла-Хойя. Автор книги "Выбор", удостоенной нескольких премий.

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Chapter 1

• That was then, this is now. Think of a moment in childhood or adolescence when you felt hurt by another’s actions, large or small. Try to think of a specific moment, not a generalized impression of that relationship or time of life. Imagine the moment as though you are reliving it. Pay attention to sensory details—sights, sounds, smells, tastes, physical sensations. Then picture yourself as you are now. See yourself enter the past moment and take your past self by the hand. Guide yourself out of the place where you were hurt, out of the past. Tell yourself, “Here I am. I’m going to take care of you.”
• In every crisis there is a transition. Write a letter to a person or situation that has caused you pain, recently or in the past. Be specific about what the person did, or about what happened that you didn’t like. Put it all on the table. Say how the actions, words, or events affected you. Then write another letter to the same person or situation—but this time write a thank-you letter, expressing gratitude for what the person has taught you about yourself or how the situation has prompted you to grow. The goal of the thank-you letter is not to pretend to like something you didn’t like, or to force yourself to be happy about something painful. Acknowledge that what happened wasn’t right and that it hurt. And also notice the healing power in shifting your point of view from a powerless victim to who you really are: a survivor, a person of strength.
• Harness your freedom to. Make a vision board—a visual representation of what you want to create or embrace in your life. Cut out pictures and words from magazines, old calendars, etc.—there are no rules, just see what attracts you. Paste the images and words to a sheet of poster board or a big piece of cardboard. Notice what patterns emerge. (This is a wonderful practice to do together with dear friends—and with plenty of good food!) Keep your vision board close by and look at it every day. Let this intuitive creation be an arrow to follow.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Unlocking Our Mental Prisons 1

Chapter 1 What Now? 11

Victimhood

Chapter 2 No Prozac at Auschwitz 29

Avoidance

Chapter 3 All Other Relationships Will End 51

Self-Neglect

Chapter 4 One Butt, Two Chairs 71

Secrets

Chapter 5 No One Rejects You but You 81

Guilt and Shame

Chapter 6 What Didn't Happen 91

Unresolved Grief

Chapter 7 Nothing to Prove 107

Rigidity

Chapter 8 Would You Like to Be Married to You? 121

Resentment

Chapter 9 Are You Evolving or Revolving? 133

Paralyzing Fear

Chapter 10 The Nazi in You 149

Judgment

Chapter 11 If I Survive Today, Tomorrow I Will Be Free 163

Hopelessness

Chapter 12 There's No Forgiveness Without Rage 177

Not Forgiving

Conclusion: The Gift 189

Acknowledgments 193

Editorial Reviews

I can’t imagine a more important message for modern times. Eger’s book is a triumph, and should be read by all who care about both their inner freedom and the future of humanity.

New York Times Book Review - Lori Gottlieb

"The Choice is a gift to humanity. One of those rare and eternal stories that you don't want to end and that leave you forever changed. Dr. Eger's life reveals our capacity to transcend even the greatest of horrors and to use that suffering for the benefit of others. She has found true freedom and forgiveness and shows us how we can as well."

Desmond Tutu

"This book is partly a memoir and partly a guide to processing trauma. Eger was only sixteen years old when she and her family got sent to Auschwitz. After surviving unbelievable horrors, she moved to the United States and became a therapist. Her unique background gives her amazing insight, and I think many people will find comfort right now from her suggestions on how to handle difficult situations."

Bill Gates

Dr. Edith Eva Eger is my kind of hero. She survived unspeakable horrors and brutality; but rather than let her painful past destroy her, she chose to transform it into a powerful gift – one she uses to help others heal.

Jeannette Walls

I’ll be forever changed by Dr. Eger’s story...The Choice is a reminder of what courage looks like in the worst of times and that we all have the ability to pay attention to what we’ve lost, or to pay attention to what we still have.

Oprah Winfrey

Praise for Dr. Edith Eger's THE CHOICE

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