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The Gift of Presence: A Guide to Helping Those Who Suffer

by Joe E. Pennel

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"Near the end of Hemingway's A Farewell to Arms, there is a word that has continued to stay with me. He said, 'The world breaks everyone. Then some become strong at the broken places.' As a pastor, I have seen people become strong at the broken places, and I have seenpeople become broken up at the broken places of life. I hope that the reader will learn how


"Near the end of Hemingway's A Farewell to Arms, there is a word that has continued to stay with me. He said, 'The world breaks everyone. Then some become strong at the broken places.' As a pastor, I have seen people become strong at the broken places, and I have seenpeople become broken up at the broken places of life. I hope that the reader will learn how to assist those who are suffering, and will, at the same time, learn something of great value for living in these days." - Author Joe Pennel

Unfortunately, suffering is a part of living. None of us have escaped this fact. Even so, it's difficult to know how to console someone going through a broken place.

In The Gift of Presence, Bishop Joe Pennel offers practical help to give confidence and skill to clergy and laity serving the broken hearted. With a central message on the importance of simply being there, Pennelcombinespractical "how-to's" with prayers, readings, and services. This small, caseboundbook outlines real ways to help through planning visits, writing notes, finding scriptures and prayers to read, avoiding cliches, and thinking through the theology of God, humans, and suffering.

The Gift of Presence includes pertinent topics such as: the ministry of presence, quietness, sincerity, and the art of helping.

"I found Bishop Pennel's book to be concisely written, compassionately expressed, extremely helpful tool for anyone in relationship with someone suffering. Because all of us will be in such a relationship at some time in our life,[The Gift of Presence]would be a great read in preparation for life's difficult events." - Rev. Lori Lampert, Lead Associate Pastor, SchweitzerUMC, Springfield, Missouri

" [The Gift of Presence]is both practical and contemplative encouraging the reader to remember why we are in ministry but also to pay attention to how we engage in ministry. I would definitely recommend this to any Stephen Minister program. We also have a Lay Counseling program where it would be very helpful. Frankly it would have been a wonderful book to receive before I started making hospital visits as a new pastor. Bishop Pennel has given us his gift of presence in the writing of this book. I appreciated his willingness to share his own stories of ministry and life as well as the knowledge he has gathered from several years of practical experience." - Rev. Barbara Miner, Assoc. Pastor, Floris UMC, Herndon, Virginia

"I appreciated the sample letters and prayers found in The Gift of Presence. The chapters on 'Seven Simple Do's and Don'ts' and 'Common Responses to Suffering' will be helpful to Stephen Ministers." - Rev. Rick Plain, Minister of Pastoral Care, Los Altos UMC, Los Altos, California

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The Gift of Presence

A Guide to Helping Those Who Suffer
By Joe E. Pennel, Jr.

Abingdon Press

Copyright © 2009 The United Methodist Publishing House
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-4267-0214-3

Chapter One

Following the Example of the Good Samaritan

The teachings of Jesus encourage us to reach out to those who suffer. For example, the parable of the good Samaritan has a word for us about how a follower of Christ should respond to those who are caught in the web of suffering. The story goes like this:

"A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell into the hands of robbers, who stripped him, beat him, and went away, leaving him half dead. Now by chance a priest was going down that road; and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side. So likewise a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. But a Samaritan while traveling came near him; and when he saw him, he was moved with pity. He went to him and bandaged his wounds, having poured oil and wine on them. Then he put him on his own animal, brought him to an inn, and took care of him. The next day he took out two denarii, gave them to the innkeeper, and said, 'Take care of him; and when I come back, I will repay you whatever more you spend.' Which of these three, do you think, was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of the robbers?" [The man answered Jesus], "The one who showed him mercy." Jesus said to him, "Go and do likewise." (Luke 10:30-37)

This parable of Jesus vividly reminds us that the Gospel does not give us permission to pass by on the other side as did the priest and the Levite. The story beckons us to stop by and care for those who are wounded and broken down by life.

Becoming a "Good Samaritan"

Consider how we become the good Samaritan each and every time we turn to those who are suffering. The title "good Samaritan" fits every person who is moved by the misfortune of another. It is far more than having a casual curiosity about another's pain. It is the heart moving toward availability.

The indwelling Christ does not make our hearts cold toward those who are torn by the bite of suffering. The reverse is true. The more we are open to the living Christ, the more we will have a hunger to reach out to those who are beaten down by life.

It is worth noting that the Samaritan does not remain detached from the man who has been beaten and robbed. He does not limit his response to merely feeling sorry for the one who has been injured. He is moved to offer tangible help to the man who was half dead. So, a good Samaritan is anyone who offers the kind of embodied help that flows from a heart that is filled with the love of Christ. It is the kind of help that carries a price tag. It costs something.

If we are to reach out to those who are impaired by suffering, we must have the will to do so. If we are turned in upon ourselves, we will have great difficulty in giving ourselves to the needs of others.

It is here that we are put in touch with one of the key teachings of the Christian faith: We cannot have fruitful and meaningful lives without reaching out to those who walk the road of suffering. Likewise, we cannot truly find ourselves until we are willing and able to give ourselves to others.

Suffering also has the strange power to unleash love. This happens in two ways. First, when we suffer, we are more in tune with the suffering of others, which opens us to respond with compassionate love.

For example, a few years ago I developed a strange but real travel anxiety. I had traveled widely in both the United States and many parts of the world, and I had never felt anxious while traveling. On one occasion we were on a ship, and I put one of those motion sickness patches behind my ears. Without knowing what was happening, I suddenly had a physical reaction to the chemicals. I started perspiring, and I had a severe discomfort in my chest. My mind jumped to the conclusion that I was having a heart attack while we were in a very remote area off the coast of Alaska. To say that I was frightened would be to minimize the entire episode.

When we arrived home, I went to my physician and discovered that people do react to these patches in strange ways. However, this information did not wipe out my anxiety about future ventures. The same feelings were triggered each and every time we were away from home. The experience was so severe that I had to turn to professional help. I am happy to say that drug therapy, self-talk, and meditation have contributed to solving ninety percent of my problems with travel.

My suffering with anticipatory travel anxiety has given me an instant connection with persons who have had similar experiences. I am also more compassionate toward those who have walked the same path. Because of my experiences, it is more natural for me to reach out to such individuals with empathy and compassion.

Second, suffering calls us to respond with unselfish human love. Some people answer that call and some do not, but the call is still present. A good Samaritan will not, with indifference, pass by the suffering of another person. Whether in major or minor ways, a good Samaritan has a helpful and powerful solidarity with those who suffer in either major or minor ways; and he or she cannot and will not withhold love from those who are in need.

Organized Responses to Suffering

Let us not forget that there are times when the many responses to suffering need to be organized so that more comprehensive help can be given. We see this with physicians, nurses, clinics, hospitals, counselors, congregational care groups, and clergy. I call these "good Samaritan" organizations, and we need each of them in a rather crucial way. It is important for us to find many ways to offer gratitude and encouragement to those whose lives are spent in reaching out to broken people.

Also, we must not forget the importance of having many webs of caring. Many of these groups are woven into the fabric of congregational life. We see this voluntary work in Stephen Ministers, lay hospital visitation, prayer groups, and various networks of caring. Larger tasks require careful organization, and we should be grateful to those who care enough to order the life of the congregation around the needs of those who suffer. When we order congregational life around the pain of the community and the pain of the world, we are following the example of the good Samaritan.

Of course, the parable of the good Samaritan goes far beyond functional and organized ways of reaching out. The eloquence of the parable calls upon every individual to bear witness to love in the face of suffering. Organizations and institutions are important, but they cannot be a replacement for deeds of mercy and kindness that grow out of love for others. Every time we practice love for a neighbor, we open up the possibility of giving birth to a civilization of love.

This moving parable teaches us to reach out to those who suffer –whether we do so as individuals or communities –because in so doing, we join the living Christ who is also compassionate toward those who are suffering. We can be a vessel through whom Christ can work if we follow the example of the good Samaritan.

As you thumb through the pages of this book, you will find many practical and constructive ways to reach out to those who are wearing the garments of suffering. As you do, you will become a modern-day good Samaritan; and as you are present to others, you will meet Christ there.


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Meet the Author

Joe E. Pennel, Jr. was born and raised in Memphis, Tennessee. He graduated from Lambuth University and Vanderbilt University Divinity School.

He served as pastor in local churches in Memphis and Nashville over a period of thirty years. Then, in 1996, Pennel was assigned Bishop of the Virginia Conference of the United Methodist Church where he served for eight years.

Now retired, he continues to serve as a vibrant teacher, preacher, and member of the Vanderbilt Divinity School in Nashville as the Professor of Pastoral Leadership where he shares his experience and heart for ministry with a new generation of church leaders. Joe and his wife Janene reside in Franklin, Tennessee.

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