The Girl Code: The Secret Language of Single Women (On Dating, Sex, Shopping, and Honor Among Girlfriends) [NOOK Book]


This good-humored, Generation-X inspired, illustrated "love dictionary" contains tongue-in-cheek slang terms for the different stages of love and dating, for body parts and common sexual experiences, ways of making up and breaking up, and the basic rules of play that every woman should know. 50 two-color illustrations.
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The Girl Code: The Secret Language of Single Women (On Dating, Sex, Shopping, and Honor Among Girlfriends)

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This good-humored, Generation-X inspired, illustrated "love dictionary" contains tongue-in-cheek slang terms for the different stages of love and dating, for body parts and common sexual experiences, ways of making up and breaking up, and the basic rules of play that every woman should know. 50 two-color illustrations.
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Editorial Reviews

Jennifer Wulff
The Girl Code is stacked with clever observations about relationships and cutely packaged advice. From types of dates to wedding-party politics, the laughs are plentiful here...[A] lively lexicon of love.
People Magazine
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780316054959
  • Publisher: Little, Brown and Company
  • Publication date: 12/14/2008
  • Sold by: Hachette Digital, Inc.
  • Format: eBook
  • Sales rank: 894,987
  • File size: 3 MB

Meet the Author

Diane Farr

Diane Farr is a television actress, TV and magazine writer, nationally syndicated columnist, and the author of The Girl Code. She is the female lead on CBS’s most-watched Friday night drama, Numb3rs, starred on the critically acclaimed FX series Rescue Me, and played a supporting role on Showtime's Californication in its third season; and she contributes to Glamour, Esquire, GQ, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Jane, Parents, Los Angeles, Gotham, Self, and O magazine.

Farr lives in Los Angeles, CA with her husband and three children.

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Speaking in Code

You know those little disclaimers on the sides of cigarettes and alcohol? Well, if your next date came with a warning label, it would contain the following information down the side of his leg. This is the common language of girlfriends who've been there.
"We don't see
things as they are,
we see them as we are."
- Anaïs Nin
If you change suitors so fast that they rarely achieve name status, a man must be around for at least six weeks before you make your friends bother to learn his first name. Until such time, he should be referred to by this generic title.
For Women Who:
Need to explain to numerous people what's going on in their love life,
Are between the ages of sixteen and twenty-one or over twenty-seven,
Have overbearing mothers and aunts in their life, Have called off more than one engagement.
As a Modifier: "It's been two months now; I think the boy has reached name status: His name is Dick, and I'm pretty sure he isn't one."
This is the guy friend of yours who doesn't have a real job, and is always ready and available when you want to party till dawn, and do things you wish you didn't remember in the morning. He's not "Mr. Right," but he may be good enough to be "Mr. Right Now."
When to Retire Him:
Immediately after college,
When you're not so afraid of a real man,
When he asks you for cab fare home,
After a particularly lonely holiday season.
As an Excuse: "It's not that I'm afraid of a committed relationship; at the moment all I need is to find a new keg and to pull Mr. Right Now out from underneath the empty one."
THE [fill in the blank] GUY
When you've just met a man and know little to nothing about him but you need to identify him during girl talk, so you use one example of who he is, something he has, or what he does, and he becomes... that guy.
Best Types of References:
The kind of car he drives (The Camaro Guy),
His occupation (The Personal Trainer Guy),
Where you met him (The Four a.m. in the Taxi Guy),
The way in which he behaved in the morning if you've already woken up with him (The Cuddle Guy,
The Bad Breath Guy, The Up and Run Guy, etc.).
As an Object: "He's the guy that slipped the maître d' twenty dollars for the table, spoke to the waitress like a human, and never had to use his napkin through all of dinner-you know, the Good Manners Guy."
When you feel like ignoring some larger issues in your own life, so you invest in a fixer-upper guy-who will cost you nothing but time, money, energy, and happiness. Inevitably, you learn that someone else has recouped his resale value.
Hello! You Will Never:
Fix him to your liking,
Change anything but the window dressing,
Turn him into the guy who got away,
Build the bionic man (...Farrah tried and she couldn't do it, even with all that hair).
As a Reminder: "Forget him, he can't even dress himself and you don't have the patience for a take-home project."
This is a polite title for that 35-45-year-old man who dates 19-25-year-old women. Having one always seems so original (and economical) at first, because he takes you to many more exciting places than guys your own age do and, of course, he pays for everything. (But don't think you invented this: In the old days they just called him a Sugar Daddy.)
Things to Look Out for:
A wife,
Some kids,
The fact that you're a grown man's Barbie doll,
That anyone who can hang out with someone who's fifteen years younger than him is a loser.
As a Reprimand: "No, he's not my father... he's my benefactor; and who cares if he's bald, he pays!"
The guy you go out in public with and agree to hold hands with, kiss, hug, sit on the same side of the booth with, or show any other Public Display of Affection, before determining boyfriend status.
Usually Causing:
Your friends to abuse you,
Your feelings for him to escalate unrealistically,
One person to suspect the other likes him or her too much too soon,
An inappropriate use of the boyfriend title or "I love you" phrase.
As an Error: "So there's me and P.D.A. boy making out in the pizza place, and in walks my boss: Kill me now."
This is what your friends call you when you keep taking back the guy who only comes a-knockin' on your door for one thing: sex, drugs, or rock 'n' roll. (We could have just called you a doormat, but you're always so damn friendly when he shows up.)
When Did You Decide:
To act like AstroTurf?
That he's so much better than you are?
That you didn't need therapy anymore?
That the girl who tortured you in grammar school was right?
As a Wake-Up Call: "Yeah, I'm sure he meant to call you, because everyone wants to check in on a welcome mat after they tread on it."
After you or your man has told the other to get lost and you keep finding each other at events of mutual interest. If you tossed him, he's the luggage, and what's required is a game of ditch. If he tossed you, then you're the luggage, and this is a game of looking as though you're having a good time without him.
Necessary Requirements: At least one ally to help you ditch or save face,
A mineral water because alcohol will kill you here,
A good seat for viewing or hiding,
A ladies' room to escape to if the game gets too intense.
As a Plea to God: "I must have 'Samsonite Customer Service' stamped right on my forehead, because I cannot lose this luggage for the life of me."
Copyright (c) 2001 by Diane Farr
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Table of Contents

How Do You Know a Single Girl's Home When You See One? 9
Introduction: Get On Your Broom and Go 11
I Speaking in Code
Titles 20
Types of Dates 29
Stages 38
Long-Distance Operators 47
Seasonal Lovers 56
Before, During, and After 65
Hairy Situations 72
Fighting 78
Gifts 86
When the Fat Lady Sings 95
II The Code of Behavior and Ethics
Girls' Night Out 106
Making Your Move 114
First Date Forget-Me-Nots 121
Rules of the Wild 128
Shopping at the Mall 133
Wedding Party Politics 139
Lines to Never Cross 145
Tests 153
Kinds of Love 158
Chick Tricks 164
III The Boy Code
What They Say 170
What They Do 178
IV The Mother Code
The Top Five Laws of The Girl Code 188
In Closing: One Sentence of Advice 192
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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 16, 2002

    Michael Burke

    I love this amazing book by Diane Farr. It has helped me pick up so many attractive men.

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  • Posted December 9, 2008

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    Amusing 'reference' book

    In the year 3000 when archeologists look to the end of the previous millennium they will not have to wonder about where to find a Rosetta Stone to interpret the secret code of an influential club: the single American woman. Instead they will turn to the works of a leading translator of the language of that day Diane Farr to explain what the club members shared. <P>THE GIRL CODE is a humorous interpretation with definitions of idioms that make up modern day single life. The vernacular has never had a more complete glossary than this one. Those who need a laugh, an interpreter while on a date with a recycle reject, or just a better understanding of the travesties of the single adult will gain amusing insight into the code, behavior and warning labels of one of the most virile subcultures in this country. <P>Harriet Klausner

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