The Heart of Relationship: 5 Ultimate Truths for Understanding the Couple Relationship, 25 Suggestions for Making Your Relationship Work

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781585009831
  • Publisher: Authorhouse
  • Publication date: 12/28/2000
  • Pages: 152
  • Product dimensions: 5.04 (w) x 8.00 (h) x 0.39 (d)

Table of Contents

Forward 9
Preface 11
Introduction: Innocent Tourists 15
Book I Love's Five Ultimate Truths
The Truth of Struggle & Suffering 18
The Truth of Fundamental Need & Fear 23
The Truth of Awareness 28
The Truth of Self-Care 34
The Truth of Power & Selflessness 40
Scenic Views
Sex & Communication 45
War of the Sexes 46
Why Some Survive 48
Book II Twenty-Five Suggestions
Reducing Struggle & Suffering in Relationship
Determine What Means Most to You 54
Go As Slowly As Possible 56
Consider an Alternative to Committed Relationship 59
Marry for the Right Reasons 62
Do Not Even Think About Having Children 66
Develop A Solid Economic Foundation Before Having Children 70
Do Not Collaborate With Abuse 72
Developing Awareness In Relationship 75
Don't Leave Your Partner If You're Only Running Away From Yourself 77
Wake Up From the Nightmare That Your Partner Is Your Original Parent 84
Do Not Stunt Your Own Growth 89
Watch Out For Roommate Land 92
Assume You Contribute 50% To All Couple Dysfunction 94
Attend To and Resolve Your Own Issues 98
Plan on Cycles of Withdrawal & Return 100
Self-Care in Relationship
Changing Your Partner Without Saying A Word--Part 1 106
Changing Your Partner Without Saying A Word--Part 2: The Magic of Opposites 112
Changing Your Partner Without Saying A Word--Part 3: No-Fault 116
Turn the Great Wheel of Change 121
Have Your Own Life 124
Take Significant Comfort Time Alone With Each Other 127
Love and Accept Yourself 129
Do Not Expect Too Much of Yourself Too Quickly 131
Personal Power & Selflessness in Relationship
Wield Personal Power 135
Place Yourself In the Arms of the Universe 140
Give Selfishly 142
Receive Selflessly 144
Committed Relationship 147
A Note On Psychotherapists 150
Favorite Quotes 152
Suggested Reading & Viewing 154
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  • Posted July 21, 2010

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    A Beautiful Read

    I highly recommend this book for anyone who is experiencing relationship problems. Although it is written with the couple in mind, the advise and approach is appropriate for anyone experiencing trouble with relationships in general. This book is warm, wise, and most important it does not allow one to shift the blame by encouraging a one-sided relationship.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 5, 2009

    Anyone could write this book

    Don't waste your time or money... anyone with a quarter of a brain of logic could write a book like this. Relationships are hard, of course. This book lacks any true insight and is not at all what one expects from a "professional".

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