The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child

The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child

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by Marti Olsen Laney
     
 

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Do you have a child who hangs back at birthday parties? Who dreads being called on in class? Who hugs the sidelines, and who surprises you by seeming withdrawn or aloof in public but turns into a chatterbox at home?

The plight of the introverted child is to be often misunderstood. Parents, siblings, classmates, teacher, and—most devastatingly—the

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Do you have a child who hangs back at birthday parties? Who dreads being called on in class? Who hugs the sidelines, and who surprises you by seeming withdrawn or aloof in public but turns into a chatterbox at home?

The plight of the introverted child is to be often misunderstood. Parents, siblings, classmates, teacher, and—most devastatingly—the child himself feel that there's something wrong with him. With The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child, Dr. Marti Olsen Laney brings wisdom and science together to provide parents with an essential guide to raising a successful, well-adjusted innie. It covers the hard-wired introvert temperament; introvert-extrovert family dynamics; navigating school, sports, and social life; and especilly, how to draw out your introvert's hidden gifts, which may include a love of learning, empathy, creativity, and flexibility—virtues easily lost in the bluster of an extroverted world.

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Introverts, or "innies," as psychotherapist Laney (The Introvert Advantage) calls them, use the brain's front lobe for thinking and more often rely on the right side of the brain than the left. Consequently, innies enjoy in-depth discussions, take longer to make decisions, use their short-term memory less often than extroverts, and are less likely to engage in risky behaviors. Laney offers parents tips on how to help their innie child of any age succeed socially at school and during family reunions. She tackles myths surrounding introversion and warns against confusing introversion with shyness. Yet even though Laney describes extroversion and introversion as being part of a temperament continuum, the portrait she paints of introverted children sometimes lack nuance (e.g., all innies are calm, intelligent, thoughtful, and disciplined). Also, comments about hiring caregivers without too "thick" an accent so as not to interfere with language development could offend certain communities. Nevertheless, the message that temperament is hardwired at birth and that parents should adapt to their offspring by better understanding them, instead of trying to change them, rings true. Large public libraries can consider.-Maryse Breton, Baldwin P.L., Birmingham, MI Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780761139874
Publisher:
Workman Publishing Company, Inc.
Publication date:
02/01/2006
Pages:
256
Product dimensions:
6.13(w) x 9.28(h) x 1.21(d)

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"Dr. Laney's insights ino introverts are invaluable....Behavior that in the past I found baffling, now makes sense. Parents will find her explanations a wonderful help."
—Deborah Tannen, author of You Just Don't Understand and You're Wearing That?

Meet the Author

Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D., is a researcher, educator, author, and psychotherapist. One of America’s foremost authorities on introversion, she speaks and leads workshops on the topic in the United States and Canada. She and her extroverted husband have two grown daughters and four grandchildren. They live in Portland, Oregon.

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The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child 4.1 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 19 reviews.
KCK_Blogger More than 1 year ago
A FB friend posted the Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World by the same author, but it is not available in Nook so I got this one instead. I am an introvert (innie) and reading this book makes me understand myself and others including the outies more. I hope that teachers, parents and anybody who look after kids will have access to this book. It makes us realize that not everybody can fit into a mold. Our innie and outie temperaments are hardwired into our system and nobody can change one into the other. But we can learn to understand the why and how to deal with each other. The first few chapters explain the different chemical pathways and physiology that make up both innie and outie. The rest will help you understand and deal with both types of temperaments. An innie will learn how to develop their extroverting muscle while an outie will learn to take a breather and slow down. Innies are not necessarily shy. But their energy drains in loud, crowded environments. While outies are charge up when put in the same situation. Innies can teach outies to calm down and smell the flowers. While an outie can help an innie to get out there. Innies need downtime to get recharged. While outies (extroverts) thrive in this zoom -zoom fast pace world. Although there are lots of innies who have achieved high positions, they refuse to be on the spotlight. While outies need and want the spotlight. They get energized by being out there, talking and doing. Innies can freeze when put on the spot. Sometimes innies are diagnose to have ADD because they don't show interest. While outies are sometimes diagnose to have ADHD because of their need to be constantly moving and talking. An outie will be bored and edgy in a quiet room. While an innie will be completely satisfied and even be energize in a calm atmosphere. An innie can have meltdowns if you don't give them a chance to recharge. Outie parents/grandparents/teachers/caregivers, etc. will learn how to accept and help an innie child flourish. While innie parents/grandparents/teachers/caregivers, etc. will learn how to cope with a outie child's constant chatter and need to be moving and be out there. Great book for anybody who wants to understand both temperaments.
watkd25 More than 1 year ago
At the time of this writing, I am in my upper twenties, I have no children and I am not married. I also go to a four year university. I read this book because I consider myself an extreme introvert and because of the lack of data about introverts that exists. Compared to Marti Laney's first book,"Introvert Advantage," the first two chapters have more and updated research regarding introverted physiology which I found helpful. Just like her previous book, my favorite portion of her books is in dealing with and explaining the biological underpinnings she describes about this temperament along with basic pictures of the brain. I found this book to be beneficial because while I was reading it I reflected on my childhood and compared and contrasted the characteristics of introverted children and what I did (to the best of my memories ability). The chapters dealing with children in school, while only describing grade school for the most part, was, I feel, beneficial for me as a college student and I appreciate her placing studying tips within the book for introverts and I will try to utilize them. The innie and outie references get a bit tiring and I hope that if she decides to write more about introversion in the future, she will use the terms introvert and exrovert more often. This takes the childishness out of her books. If you come across this book, just because the title implies that the book is written about introverted children, does not mean adults cannot benefit from the data within this book, since, I believe, as well as the author, that our temperaments do not change. There were a few errors throughout the book but it did not bother me too much and you can still comprehend the few errors throughout.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The boy from yesterday whom we haven't seen for a long time emerges from the Hades cabin, hands in his pockets and shades turned to the sky. It's already dark, being winter and all. He sighs.
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Left.
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She looked at Syren and Jacob and then turned toward the forest.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
"Okay." She walked to 'nero' res.
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Busy__Mom More than 1 year ago
My child is "shy" - not usually a trait society sees as a good one. ParentsDigest sent this summary to my inbox, and as I read it, it was like getting a message from someone who knew my child. Introverted doesn't necessarily equate to inept, or incapable. I was so happy to read something that confirmed my belief in my child's worth and abilities - even if they don't include public speaking!
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