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The Love-Shy Survival Guide
     

The Love-Shy Survival Guide

by Shockley, Talmer
 

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'In his groundbreaking book, Talmer Shockley (himself a love-shy individual) presents a thoroughly accessible and motivating read for those suffering from love-shyness... Pay attention to his words of wisdom. They will help you find the partner that you so richly deserve'

- Nick Dubin, author of Asperger's Syndrome and Bullying

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'In his groundbreaking book, Talmer Shockley (himself a love-shy individual) presents a thoroughly accessible and motivating read for those suffering from love-shyness... Pay attention to his words of wisdom. They will help you find the partner that you so richly deserve'

- Nick Dubin, author of Asperger's Syndrome and Bullying

For many people, romantic and sexual relationships are complex and cause feelings of anxiety. For people who are love-shy, this anxiety is so overwhelming that it can make finding a partner feel like an impossible dream. Although relatively unrecognised, and therefore often undiagnosed, love-shyness is a condition which causes an intense phobia of romantic and sexual situations. This book is designed to help Love-Shys overcome this fear and allow themselves to meet, date, and eventually maintain romantic relationships with members of the opposite sex.

A self-confessed Love-Shy, Talmer Shockley explores the condition, its links with Asperger's Syndrome and how it differs from normal shyness. He gives candid advice on how to deal with being love-shy, make dating an enjoyable experience, and survive the “relationship jungle”. While love-shyness is predominately a male problem, it can also affect women, and the book offers tips on relationship success for both sexes.

Refreshingly honest and insightful, The Love-Shy Survival Guide provides essential advice for love-shy people wanting to overcome their anxiety and form successful romantic relationships.

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Shockley, a high-tech research technician diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, presents an intriguing work designed to help readers with great anxiety in starting a romantic relationship (what he calls "love-shyness"). First defined in Brian G. Gilmartin's Shyness and Love: Causes, Consequences, and Treatment(1987), the label (not yet an official diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders-IV) describes people who, because of psychological problems, cannot have romantic relationships. For these individuals, any romantic or prospective romantic situation induces such a high level of anxiety that almost any dating and sexual relationship proves impossible. Shockley summarizes relatively recent research on love-shyness, explains its link with Asperger's, and discusses how love-shyness differs from normal shyness. In addition, for both male and female sufferers of the syndrome, he provides candid advice on how to survive the jungle of relationships and make dating an enjoyable experience. He includes helpful suggestions on how to approach children with extreme shyness, and he provides valuable suggested readings and web sites. VERDICT The author's pragmatic, sometimes brutally frank take on a little-discussed subject nicely updates Gilmartin's work. People who are on the high end of the autistic spectrum or who have other developmental disorders would benefit from reading this singular self-help guide.—Dale Farris, Groves, TX


—Dale Farris

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781843108979
Publisher:
Kingsley, Jessica Publishers
Publication date:
05/15/2009
Pages:
286
Product dimensions:
6.00(w) x 9.20(h) x 0.60(d)

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Talmer Shockley lives in the United States and has spent most of his career as a high-tech research technician. Talmer has been diagnosed with both Asperger's Syndrome and love-shyness and speaks professionally about Asperger's, love-shyness and the spiritual aspects of Autism Spectrum Disorders.

Talmer Shockley lives in the United States and has spent most of his career as a high-tech research technician. Talmer has been diagnosed with both Asperger's Syndrome and love-shyness and speaks professionally about Asperger's, love-shyness and the spiritual aspects of Autism Spectrum Disorders.

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