The Me I Want to Be Participant's Guide: Becoming God's Best Version of You


In this five-session small group Bible study, The Me I Want to Be, John Ortberg reveals how you can become the unique, fully alive person God intended you to be.

There is a me each of one of us wants to be… someone who’s more kind and generous, patient, and loving. But there is a gap between the me I am and the me I want to be. Oftentimes we find it easy to trust God to bridge the gap between and us and him, but we struggle to really live by grace and trust God to close the gap ...

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In this five-session small group Bible study, The Me I Want to Be, John Ortberg reveals how you can become the unique, fully alive person God intended you to be.

There is a me each of one of us wants to be… someone who’s more kind and generous, patient, and loving. But there is a gap between the me I am and the me I want to be. Oftentimes we find it easy to trust God to bridge the gap between and us and him, but we struggle to really live by grace and trust God to close the gap between the me I am and the me I want to be. Becoming God’s best version of you is both God’s desire and the greatest task of your life. And here’s the good news… he’s already working on it. Your life is God’s project, not yours.

The Me I Want to Be small group Bible study is a powerful look at becoming the unique, fully alive, flourishing person God intended. Pastor and author John Ortberg teaches through fives sessions how you can move toward becoming God’s best version of you in four specific areas: your mind, your time, your relationships, and your experiences.

Spiritual growth can seem difficult or intimidating, but John Ortberg’s humor and innovative thinking in The Me I Want to Be will leave you challenged, inspired, and hopeful about true spiritual growth happening in you and your small group.

This Participant Guide is designed for use with The Me I Want to Be DVD (sold separately) and includes discussion questions for individuals and groups. When used together they provide you with a practical tool than can transform your faith.

Sessions include:

  1. Discovering the Spirit
  2. Renewing My Mind
  3. Redeeming My Time
  4. Deeping My Relationships
  5. Transforming My Experience
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780310823421
  • Publisher: Zondervan
  • Publication date: 11/4/2014
  • Edition description: Reissue
  • Pages: 96
  • Sales rank: 260,539
  • Product dimensions: 5.80 (w) x 8.80 (h) x 0.40 (d)

Meet the Author

John Ortberg is the senior pastor of Menlo Park Presbyterian Church (MPPC) in the San Francisco Bay Area. His bestselling books include Soul Keeping, Who Is This Man?, and If You Want to Walk on Water, You’ve Got to Get out of the Boat. John teaches around the world at conferences and churches, writes articles for Christianity Today and Leadership Journal, and is on the board of the Dallas Willard Center and Fuller Seminary. He has preached sermons on Abraham Lincoln, The LEGO Movie, and The Gospel According to Les Miserables. John and his wife Nancy enjoy spending time with their three adult children, dog Baxter, and surfing the Pacific. You can follow John on twitter @johnortberg or check out the latest news/blogs on his website at

Scott Rubin has been on staff at Willow Creek Community Church for 18 years, and he's currently the director of Elevate, the junior high ministry at Willow Creek. Scott, along with an entirely-fantastic team of staff and volunteer leaders, has the privilege of helping young adolescents follow Jesus. He also co-authored two books in the Middle School Survival Series with Mark Oestreicher.

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The Me I Want to Be Participant's Guide

Becoming God's Best Version of You
By John Ortberg Scott Rubin


Copyright © 2010 John Ortberg
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-310-32079-1

Chapter One

Discovering the Spirit

Your flourishing is never just about you. It is a "so that" kind of condition. God designed you to flourish "so that" you could be part of his redemptive project in ways that you otherwise could not. He wants you to flourish "so that" people can be encouraged, gardens can be planted, music can be written, sick people can be helped, or companies can thrive in ways they otherwise would not. When you fail to become the person God designed, all the rest of us miss out on the gift you were made to give. The Me I Want to Be, ch. 2

DVD Teaching Notes

As you watch the session one video teaching segment, featuring John Ortberg, take notes below on anything that stands out to you. An outline has been provided to help you follow along.

Flourishing means becoming "you-ier"-restored, not exchanged; living up to your full potential!

"Counterfeit" versions of me that I sometimes choose:

The "me" I I try to convince people I am important pretend to be while secretly fearing I am not.

The "me" I think I have a need to try to be someone I should be I'm not, often motivated by comparison.

The "me"other people want me I don't feel free to be myself; I follow to be others' agendas.

The "me" I'm afraid I lack trust in God's love and plan; I God wants equate spiritual maturity with trying hard to follow the Bible's rules.

The "me" that I'm missing mental and emotional fails to be vitality, and my soul is weary.

But the best version of me is ...

The "me" I'm meant to be I am fully alive inside ... and growing!

DVD Group Discussion

1. Of the five versions of counterfeit "me's" noted in the chart on page 10, which one do you think you most gravitate toward? Why? What circumstances in your life affect this tendency?

2. God is highly concerned about you reaching your full potential-and he doesn't get discouraged in the process. John Ortberg says that we cannot follow God if we don't trust he really has our best interests at heart. Can you relate to this thought? Why or why not?

3. Where have you seen F.T.T. (failure to thrive) in the world? How about in your own life?

4. If someone were to ask you how your spiritual life is going, what factors would you consider in your response? How would you go about assessing yourself?

In The Me I Want to Be, Ortberg says that a wise man suggested answering this spiritual life assessment by responding to two questions:

Am I growing more easily discouraged these days?

Am I growing more easily irritated these days?

How would you answer these questions today? And from your answers, how would you gauge your spiritual life?

5. If flourishing is being full of joy, peace, and curiosity and possessing an openness to learning and a desire to lean into challenges, then the opposite-languishing-would mean lacking mental and emotional vitality and being uneasy, full of discontent, and self-focused. On a continuum, where would you place yourself between flourishing and languishing most of the time?

Have you ever thought of yourself as too young, too old, or too ___________________ (fill in the blank) to flourish? Is there any shift you need to make in your own perspective?

Group Bible Exploration

1. Have you ever undertaken a home improvement or restoration project? What was the end result? (Very briefly share your responses.)

In restoring or fixing something, we can experience its full effectiveness and its full magnificence.

Read together 2 Corinthians 5:17:

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!

Becoming a new creation doesn't mean becoming completely different but, as Ortberg explains, being "restored to [our] intended beauty." What holds you back from leaning into becoming all God intended you to be? How does your hesitation in that area affect those around you?


Excerpted from The Me I Want to Be Participant's Guide by John Ortberg Scott Rubin Copyright © 2010 by John Ortberg . Excerpted by permission.
All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc. solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site.

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Table of Contents


Session ONE: Discovering the Spirit....................7
Session TWO: Renewing My Mind....................21
Session THREE: Redeeming My Time....................37
Session FOUR: Deepening My Relationships....................57
Session FIVE: Transforming My Experience....................73
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