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The Me I Want to Be Participant's GuideBecoming God's Best Version of You
By John Ortberg Scott Rubin
ZONDERVANCopyright © 2010 John Ortberg
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Chapter OneDiscovering the Spirit
Your flourishing is never just about you. It is a "so that" kind of condition. God designed you to flourish "so that" you could be part of his redemptive project in ways that you otherwise could not. He wants you to flourish "so that" people can be encouraged, gardens can be planted, music can be written, sick people can be helped, or companies can thrive in ways they otherwise would not. When you fail to become the person God designed, all the rest of us miss out on the gift you were made to give. The Me I Want to Be, ch. 2
DVD Teaching Notes
As you watch the session one video teaching segment, featuring John Ortberg, take notes below on anything that stands out to you. An outline has been provided to help you follow along.
Flourishing means becoming "you-ier"-restored, not exchanged; living up to your full potential!
"Counterfeit" versions of me that I sometimes choose:
The "me" I I try to convince people I am important pretend to be while secretly fearing I am not.
The "me" I think I have a need to try to be someone I should be I'm not, often motivated by comparison.
The "me"other people want me I don't feel free to be myself; I follow to be others' agendas.
The "me" I'm afraid I lack trust in God's love and plan; I God wants equate spiritual maturity with trying hard to follow the Bible's rules.
The "me" that I'm missing mental and emotional fails to be vitality, and my soul is weary.
But the best version of me is ...
The "me" I'm meant to be I am fully alive inside ... and growing!
DVD Group Discussion
1. Of the five versions of counterfeit "me's" noted in the chart on page 10, which one do you think you most gravitate toward? Why? What circumstances in your life affect this tendency?
2. God is highly concerned about you reaching your full potential-and he doesn't get discouraged in the process. John Ortberg says that we cannot follow God if we don't trust he really has our best interests at heart. Can you relate to this thought? Why or why not?
3. Where have you seen F.T.T. (failure to thrive) in the world? How about in your own life?
4. If someone were to ask you how your spiritual life is going, what factors would you consider in your response? How would you go about assessing yourself?
In The Me I Want to Be, Ortberg says that a wise man suggested answering this spiritual life assessment by responding to two questions:
Am I growing more easily discouraged these days?
Am I growing more easily irritated these days?
How would you answer these questions today? And from your answers, how would you gauge your spiritual life?
5. If flourishing is being full of joy, peace, and curiosity and possessing an openness to learning and a desire to lean into challenges, then the opposite-languishing-would mean lacking mental and emotional vitality and being uneasy, full of discontent, and self-focused. On a continuum, where would you place yourself between flourishing and languishing most of the time?
Have you ever thought of yourself as too young, too old, or too ___________________ (fill in the blank) to flourish? Is there any shift you need to make in your own perspective?
Group Bible Exploration
1. Have you ever undertaken a home improvement or restoration project? What was the end result? (Very briefly share your responses.)
In restoring or fixing something, we can experience its full effectiveness and its full magnificence.
Read together 2 Corinthians 5:17:
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!
Becoming a new creation doesn't mean becoming completely different but, as Ortberg explains, being "restored to [our] intended beauty." What holds you back from leaning into becoming all God intended you to be? How does your hesitation in that area affect those around you?
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