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The Me I Want to Be Participant's Guide: Becoming God's Best Version of You

The Me I Want to Be Participant's Guide: Becoming God's Best Version of You

by John Ortberg, Scott Rubin

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If God has a perfect vision for your life, why does spiritual growth seem so difficult? Pastor and bestselling author John Ortberg has some intriguing answers to that question, and he has organized his thoughts and God's words into a straightforward and timely guide for living your best life in The Me I Want to Be. In this study you will learn how God's


If God has a perfect vision for your life, why does spiritual growth seem so difficult? Pastor and bestselling author John Ortberg has some intriguing answers to that question, and he has organized his thoughts and God's words into a straightforward and timely guide for living your best life in The Me I Want to Be. In this study you will learn how God's perfect vision for you starts with a powerful promise. All those who trust in God "will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit" (Jeremiah 17:7-8). Ortberg urges you to recognize your brokenness, understand that God is the project manager, and follow His directions. He also helps gauge your spiritual health and measure the gap between where you are now and where God intends you to be. The Me I Want To Be Participant’s Guide is a guidebook to the great task and joy of your life … becoming God’s best version of you. Designed for use with the video.

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The Me I Want to Be Participant's Guide

By John Ortberg, Scott Rubin


Copyright © 2010John Ortberg
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ISBN: 978-0-310-69212-6



Discovering the Spirit

Your flourishing is never just about you. It is a "so that" kind of condition. God designed you to flourish "so that" you could be part of his redemptive project in ways that you otherwise could not. He wants you to flourish "so that" people can be encouraged, gardens can be planted, music can be written, sick people can be helped, or companies can thrive in ways they otherwise would not. When you fail to become the person God designed, all the rest of us miss out on the gift you were made to give.

The Me I Want to Be, ch. 2

* Video Teaching Notes

As you watch the session one video teaching segment, featuring John Ortberg, take notes below on anything that stands out to you. An outline has been provided to help you follow along.

Flourishing means becoming "you-ier"—restored, not exchanged; living up to your full potential!

[Your Notes]

"Counterfeit" versions of me that I sometimes choose:

The "me" I pretend to be

I try to convince people I am important while secretly fearing I am not.

The "me" I think I should be

I have a need to try to be someone I'm not, often motivated by comparison.

The "me" other people want me to be

I don't feel free to be myself; I follow others' agendas.

The "me" I'm afraid God wants

I lack trust in God's love and plan; I equate spiritual maturity with trying hard to follow the Bible's rules.

The "me" that fails to be

I'm missing mental and emotional vitality, and my soul is weary.

[Your Notes]

But the best version of me is ...

The "me" I'm meant to be

I am fully alive inside ... and growing!

[Your Notes]

* Video Group Discussion

1. Of the five versions of counterfeit "me's" noted in the chart on page 10, which one do you think you most gravitate toward? Why? What circumstances in your life affect this tendency?

[Your Response]

2. God is highly concerned about you reaching your full potential —and he doesn't get discouraged in the process. John Ortberg says that we cannot follow God if we don't trust he really has our best interests at heart. Can you relate to this thought? Why or why not?

[Your Response]

3. Where have you seen F.T.T. (failure to thrive) in the world? How about in your own life?

[Your Response]

4. If someone were to ask you how your spiritual life is going, what factors would you consider in your response? How would you go about assessing yourself?

[Your Response]

In The Me I Want to Be, Ortberg says that a wise man suggested answering this spiritual life assessment by responding to two questions:

• Am I growing more easily discouraged these days?

• Am I growing more easily irritated these days?

How would you answer these questions today? And from your answers, how would you gauge your spiritual life?

[Your Response]

5. If flourishing is being full of joy, peace, and curiosity and possessing an openness to learning and a desire to lean into challenges, then the opposite—languishing—would mean lacking mental and emotional vitality and being uneasy, full of discontent, and self-focused. On a continuum, where would you place yourself between flourishing and languishing most of the time?

Have you ever thought of yourself as too young, too old, or too [Your Reponse] (fill in the blank) to flourish? Is there any shift you need to make in your own perspective?

[Your Response]

* Group Bible Exploration

1. Have you ever undertaken a home improvement or restoration project? What was the end result? (Very briefly share your responses.)

[Your Response]

In restoring or fixing something, we can experience its full effectiveness and its full magnificence.

Read together 2 Corinthians 5:17:

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!

Becoming a new creation doesn't mean becoming completely different but, as Ortberg explains, being "restored to [our] intended beauty." What holds you back from leaning into becoming all God intended you to be? How does your hesitation in that area affect those around you?

[Your Response]

2. Read together Psalm 92:12–13:

The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the LORD, they will flourish in the courts of our God.

God is interested in your individual restoration and growth. If you were an acorn, God would not want or expect you to become a rosebush ... he designed acorns to become oak trees. Flourishing is becoming more of what God made you to be.

Is there something you're trying to be that God did not design you for? Have you given up (consciously or not) on some God-given dreams? What experiences, thoughts, or reasons have contributed to that?

[Your Response]

3. Joy is a gift that God gives us when we are flourishing ... and in step with the Holy Spirit. Read together 1 Peter 1:8:

Though you have not seen him [ Jesus], you love him ... and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy.

Have you ever experienced this kind of "inexpressible and glorious joy" that Peter describes? How would others describe your joy factor? What would be their evidence?

[Your Response]

4. Rest is another factor in becoming who God made you to be. Rest is important enough that even God rested when he created the world. And Jesus tells us in Matthew 11:29 that he desires us to find rest. Read together his words:

"Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls."

What are some ways you receive rest, rejuvenation, and vitality from God that allow you to flourish? How would your calendar from the last few weeks or months reflect your engagement in these practices?

[Your Response]

5. Imagine that you are wandering in the desert and desperately need water. What words would you use to describe your feelings upon finding it?

[Your Response]

Read together Psalm 42:1:

As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God.

Why do you think the psalmist chose this picture to illustrate his longing for God?

[Your Response]

Tell about a time when you experienced this desperate, needGod-to-survive kind of desire. What would it take for you to experience a deep longing for God as a regular part of your life?

[Your Response]

* In Closing

As you wrap up your group study, close in prayer. Ask God to help each member of your group to identify the "me" they sometimes struggle with ... and to take steps to flourish and become the "me" God intended. Pray for God's promptings this week to be strong in each person's life—and that they'd have the courage to follow them.

Before your next meeting, complete the "On Your Own Between Sessions" section that begins on the following page. Consider starting the next group meeting by sharing together what you learned from this individual exercise.

* On Your Own Between Sessions

Look back at the "counterfeit me" chart in the video notes section. On a piece of paper or in a journal, make

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Meet the Author

John Ortberg is the senior pastor of Menlo Park Presbyterian Church (MPPC) in the San Francisco Bay Area. His bestselling books include Soul Keeping, Who Is This Man?, and If You Want to Walk on Water, You’ve Got to Get out of the Boat.  John teaches around the world at conferences and churches, writes articles for Christianity Today and Leadership Journal, and is on the board of the Dallas Willard Center and Fuller Seminary. He has preached sermons on Abraham Lincoln, The LEGO Movie, and The Gospel According to Les Miserables. John and his wife Nancy enjoy spending time with their three adult children, dog Baxter, and surfing the Pacific. You can follow John on twitter @johnortberg or check out the latest news/blogs on his website at www.johnortberg.com.

Scott Rubin has been on staff at Willow Creek Community Church for 18 years, and he's currently the director of Elevate, the junior high ministry at Willow Creek. Scott, along with an entirely-fantastic team of staff and volunteer leaders, has the privilege of helping young adolescents follow Jesus. He also co-authored two books in the Middle School Survival Series with Mark Oestreicher.

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