The Men We Need: God's Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any Man Willing to Show Up

The Men We Need: God's Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any Man Willing to Show Up

The Men We Need: God's Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any Man Willing to Show Up

The Men We Need: God's Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any Man Willing to Show Up


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The world needs real men, real bad. And there are all sorts of conflicting ideas and messages about what a "real man" is (and is not). Is a real man one who hunts, loves sports, grills meat, fixes cars, and climbs mountains? Sure, sometimes. But that's not really the point of being a man and it's not the purpose for which men were made.

Into our cultural confusion, Brant Hansen paints a refreshingly specific, compelling picture of what men are made to be: "Keepers of the Garden." Protectors and defenders. He calls for men of all interests and backgrounds (including "avid indoorsmen" like himself) to be ambitious about the right things and to see themselves as defenders of the vulnerable, with whatever resources they have.

Using short chapters loaded with must-have wisdom and Brant's signature humor, The Men We Need explains the essence of masculinity in a fresh, thoughtful, and entertaining way that will inspire any man who dares to read it.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780801094521
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 03/29/2022
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 77,845
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Brant Hansen is an author, radio host, and advocate for healing children with correctible disabilities through CURE International. He's won multiple awards for "Personality of the Year" for his radio show, which airs on more than 200 stations nationwide. His podcast with his friend and radio producer, The Brant and Sherri Oddcast, has been downloaded more than 10 million times. The author of The Truth about Us, Unoffendable, and Blessed Are the Misfits, Hansen has written for, the Washington Post, U.S. News and World Report, the South Florida Sun-Sentinel, Relevant, and numerous other outlets on matters as varied as public policy, culture, sports, Asperger's syndrome, and faith. He and his wife, Carolyn, live in South Florida.

Table of Contents

Foreword Sherri Lynn 15

A Very Important Introduction 17

Keeper of the Garden

The Poster 23

Masculinity Is about Taking Responsibility 28

We Need You Out Here, Man 32

A Quick Word about Toxic Passivity 38

The Ancient Art of Blaming Other People 40

The Scariest Thing 45

The Six Decisions That Will Set You Apart

Decision 1 Forsake the Fake and Relish the Real

The Fake Life and Where It Leads 53

"That's Not a Girl. That's a Piece of Paper." 57

Here's Some Good News about Pornography, No, Really. 62

A Tale of Two Men, and Every Single Woman 68

About Video Games: I Love Them, and They're Just Too Awesome 71

Decision 2 Protect the Vulnerable

Your Neighborhood Should Be Safer Simply Because You're There 79

Lessons from Mouse Utopia 83

What You Do Actually Matters 87

The Ultimate Betrayal 91

Yes, You Should Shelter Your Children 95

Setting the Tone for the Vulnerable in Your Home 100

The Most Vulnerable Person I've Ever Met 104

Decision 3 Be Ambitious about the Right Things

Reality Is What Hits You When You're Wrong 111

If You Feel Meaningless, It Might Be Because You're Investing Time and Energy in Meaningless Things 114

Women Care about This a Lot, FYI 118

How to Be Incredibly Awesome and Somehow Less Attractive to Women 122

Ambition and Work: Even Terrible Jobs Are Great 125

Relationships Require Bravery 129

"That's Awesome, and I Don't Have to Have It": The Ambition for Contentment 133

Allow Yourself to "Lose" 137

Don't Be Afraid of Commitments-Be Afraid of Not Making Commitments 141

Decision 4 Make Women and Children Feel Safe, Not Threatened

How to Treat Women: The Bridger Master Class 147

How to Treat Women: The Jesus Master Class 150

Understand What "Love" Is and Isn't 154

Don't Live with a Woman Unless She's Your Wife 158

Protect Them … from You 161

If/When You Have a Wife and Kids, Remember, They Need You Right Now 165

More on Being a Husband and Father: Stay at Your Post 170

Decision 5 Choose Today Who You Will Become Tomorrow

Attention Is Everything 177

Foolishness = Pain 181

Walmart Shopping Cart Attack Guy Never Set Out to Be Walmart Shopping Cart Attack Guy 186

We Don't Need More Needy Guys-We Have Enough of Those 190

Become a Man without Fear (Seriously) 194

Don't Follow Your Heart-Open Your Eyes 199

Decision 6 Take Responsibility for Your Own Spiritual Life

What God Is Looking For: Loyalty 207

Angry Men Aren't Attractive to Women, but Men of Action Are 212

Don't Confuse Your Emotions-or Lack of Emotions-with Spirituality 217

You Know Enough to Act 221

The Dangerous Myth of "As Long As I'm Not Hurting Someone Else …" 225

People with Self-Control Are More Interesting 229

Boldly Ask God-Sarcastically, If Necessary 234

Conclusion: A Final Word about Adam … and Us 238

Discussion Questions 241

Acknowledgments 246

Notes 248

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