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From the Trade Paperback edition.
|Part 1||The Evolved Bachelor||5|
|Chapter 1||Beyond the Black Book||6|
|Matrons & Maidens|
|Living in Sin|
|Chapter 2||Nocturnal & Naughty||58|
|Toys & Tolerances|
|Demystifying the Flogger|
|The Swing Set|
|Night on the Couch|
|Day on the Couch|
|Alcohol & Pharmacopoeia|
|The Red House|
|Ethic of Infidelity|
|Interlude: Phineas's Phlames & Tesauro's Trysts||131|
|Part 2||The Transitional Man||135|
|Chapter 4||The One||136|
|The Brady Bunch Factor|
|Last Fling Before Palookaville|
|Chapter 5||Ring Bearer||175|
|Mr. & Miscellany|
|The Guest List|
|Saber the Day|
|Wedding Table Pecking Order|
|The Dynamic Groom|
|Part 3||The Stalwart Husband||209|
|Chapter 6||Love's Labour||210|
|Lights & Darks & Dishes|
|The Gentleman's Cellar|
|The Bitchin' Kitchen|
|Finances & Common Cents|
|In-Laws & Outlaws Monthly Review|
|His & Hers|
|Going to Pot|
|Part 4||The Polished Spouse||279|
|First 100 Days|
Posted May 12, 2005
TML digs deeper into the complexities of a maturing relationship, starting with how to recognize when the chemistry is there. The authors presume a certain level of intelligence among their readers, and for the beau with a growing intellect there is plenty of inspriration to enlighten oneself. As a married woman, I really appreciate the section on Toys and Tolerances. It offers fun and naughty suggestions for adding some spice to the bedroom, in turn strenghtening the marital bond, which the authors cleverly refer to as the 'We Cycle'. As a mother, one of my favorite sections is New Dad. Tesauro and Mollod offer very honest info on what the 'First 100 Days' are like and how to be sensitive to the new mother's needs while taking care of himself. It's a scary but managable time and great that a (prospective) father can get some straightforward insight from another man. All in all, I loved this book and think it's just as good a read for women as it is for men. The authors cover a lot of topics, so many different types of relationships and inspire the reader to be a more 'Evolved Bachelor', all the while maintaining his personal style. The charts, graphs and illustrations are fun too.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted May 12, 2005
When I saw in Newsweek that Tesauro and Mollod had come out with a new book I went right out to the bookstore. I own their first book, The Modern Gentleman, and it continues to provide a manner pick-me-up years later, so I couldn't wait to pick The Modern Lover. In their new book, the authors pick up where they left off. Dating, wooing and filling your head with jazz and literature and a touch of vice was handled in the first book, now this is the stuff you need to know now that you've landed a semi-serious mate. They start with a witty description of 'One-Night Stands' - everything from the memorable ones to those better left out of the memory box. They cover the ins and outs of Valentine's Day and dating someone out of your age bracket. They also touch on the ever enjoyable phrase p-whipped - the syndrome when one is so infatuated with a lover that you sacrifice your own wants and needs leading even your best friends to mock you. As the book evolves, so does the relationship as they delve into more serious matters like living in sin, infidelity and a night on the couch. Througout the book they use similar stimulating graphics like those in the Modern Gentleman as in the section on compatability - determining if the person you are with is really the right one for you. They then touch on proposals, engagements, weddings and they even have a section for ringless carousers - those in a committed relationship who never legalize it. Thrown in are the original sections akin to the Modern Gentleman--Daddy Detox, The Brady Bunch Factor, The Red House, not to mention a list of essential modern cookbooks--I have already dogeared that page for future reference. The last three chapters are dedicated to being a good partner, in the house and out of the house - from lights and darks to green thumb, who doesn't like a guy who can do the laundry and plant bulbs all in the same day. The book even has a list of all the appropriate anniversary gifts to give your wife - who could really keep track of all of those without it, and one-night stands is capped off with two sections on being a New Dad. They make even the mundane, exciting: simply the best and most scathingly funny material on Inlaws (and Outlaws), Guest Lists, Aphrodisiacs. This book fits in every room: the coffee table, nightstand, gentleman's briefcase, lady's handbag, and required reading for every serious suitor, hubby, wife, and consort. And, it fits many moods, whether you want advice (practical and long-range), good writing, or just a laugh. Heartily recommended.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted May 12, 2005
Finally, there are men on the relationship scene who can talk about the ins and outs of more than just the ol' in-n-out. These guys skip the usual blather on playiing games in romance and get right down to the foundations and funnies of love's nuances. The chapter on weddings is absolutely the best thing written on modern nuptials and without a doubt captures all that's wrong with by-the-book, cookie-cutter weddings. I especially appreciate the tips on long-term love that you'll never find in some Idiot's Guide to a Happy Marriage or one of those sappy, fall-in-love-every-day books. They cover the naughtiness of bachelorhood's twilight, but devote much of the book to the nitty gritty of running a marriage after the honeymoon. Best of all, the writing is exceptional. I first read about the authors in Writer's Digest, and then heard one of them on CNN. I read their first book, but this one's even better. Not recommended for high schoolers, but any college grad will thank you.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted May 12, 2005
I repeat...What a gem! Tired of tired, vapid, books that spout the same tired advice on dating, love, relationships, and marriage? Yes, yes, we've all seen the recycled sentences that pass for 'expert advice.' The Modern Lover is a supreme book, something for everyone--for males and females, single or committed, married or single (or ringlessly connected). What an honest look at wild oats and single life--the authors really put it all in perspective, showing the lessons that are learned from younger days that can and should be put to use for landing The One and maintaining a healthy marriage. The writing is so polished and original, and the ideas so fresh, and above all, the humor is second to none. It makes a great gift. Everything from one-night stands to new dads, compatability tables to chococlate, cheese and wine cellars, to improving a flagging sex life to handling a night on the couch. The good, the bad and the sexy, all mandatory reading for any couple or sexy single. Your nightstand is bare without this great book. Highly, highly recommended.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted November 19, 2004
Extremely helpful. Very pleasant read. Five stars. Phineas is a great and influential writer, and very quirky. Highly recommended. This book will make you laugh but will recommend some positive changes. Enjoy, Ms. NerhaWas this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.