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Posted April 23, 2003
I always felt the original version of the Topping Book provided good solid advice and ideas for anyone wishing to explore the 'Top' side of consensual power play activities. This updated edition includes all of the excellent material covered in the book's first publishing, but adds new information (ie about meeting people online and general info about the BDSM community has changed since the book's first printing). The authors speak of 'ritual' in SM. They devote a whole chapter to 'spiritual SM,' describing ways to incorporate ritual into your scene. I know there have been times when I do SM scenes (especially when in a public playspace), I do a form of ritual to get into my proper headspace. Another important point they discuss is 'shadow play,' which is doing a scene that may entail major emotional risk. They discuss ways to do this kind of play, how to do them and end them safely, and what to do if something goes wrong. In fact another major point the authors discuss early on is what to do when something goes wrong in a scene, and how to handle this, or when either partner 'crashes' or has 'guilt feelings' about the play right after doing it, or even a day or several days later. This also goes for after care, for even when a scene goes great, one or both participants may want or need this. I know from personal experience this is often the case, either for myself or my partner. Like the original edition, there are chapters featuring topics Rights and Responsibilities of a Top (almost a 'Bill of Rights'), Learning to Play, Ethics, even where and how to meet others, be it at a munch, play party, or SM group event. And of importance too, is the admonition to look the part. Somehow a Top wearing shorts and a white T shirt at an event isn't going to look too convincing, at least to me. It's great to see an update for this classic, especially with the great job the two authors have done with it.
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