The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums and Tears

by Elizabeth Pantley

Overview

Another breakthrough title in the No-Cry series--for parents of children ages 2 through 8

“The No-Cry Discipline Solution is a definite must-have for all parents and caregivers of young children. If you are looking for understandable, effective, and nurturing tools to raise good human beings, let this book be your guide.”

--from the foreword by Tim Seldin, president of the Montessori

Foundation and chair of the International Montessori Council

The No-Cry Discipline Solution is based on one important fact: parents know their children best. This book turns discipline into a positive, affirming experience by offering a collection of proven techniques that you can custom-tailor to your child's unique personality. This groundbreaking approach allows you to:

• Achieve the big Cs of parental discipline: cooperation, communication, and consistency
• Defuse or prevent tantrums and eliminate whining
• Manage your own anger
• Uncover and solve the real problem fueling your child's misbehavior

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780071471596
Publisher:	McGraw Hill LLC
Publication date:	04/25/2007
Series:	Pantley Series
Edition description:	List
Pages:	320
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Elizabeth Pantleyis the creator of McGraw-Hill’snow-classic No-Cry series ofparenting books: The No-Cry SleepSolution, The No-Cry Sleep Solutionfor Toddlers and Preschoolers, andThe No-Cry Potty Training Solution.She is the president of BetterBeginnings, a parent educationcompany, and her school newsletter,Parent Tips, is distributed nationwide.

Table of Contents

Foreword     xv
Acknowledgments     xvii
The Foundation for No-Cry Discipline: Essential Parenting Attitudes
Discipline: A Complex Job Made Easier with the Right Outlook     3
Banish the Myths     7
Planning Ahead, Looking Ahead: Your Child as a Teenager     17
Building a Strong Foundation     24
Discipline and Emotional Control     38
The Four Parts to Discipline     42
No-Cry Discipline Parenting Skills and Tools
Everyday Challenges     49
First, Solve the Real Problem     53
Discipline and Cooperation: Choose Your Adventure     69
Reminder Page: No-Cry Discipline Parenting Skills and Tools     106
Tantrums, Fussing, and Whining: The Big Three     107
Reminder Page: Stop the Tantrums, Fussing, and Whining     125
A Peaceful Home: Staying Calm and Avoiding Anger
Searching for Peace     129
Anger: The Shame and the Secret     130
Why Do Parents Get Angry at Their Children?     133
Different Levels of Anger     151
Your Anger: Do You Accidentally Make Things Worse?     154
Having a Plan to Manage Your Anger     162
Reducing Anger-Producing Situations     185
Do You Need More Help?     186
Reminder Page: Six Steps to Staying Calm     188
Specific Solutions for Everyday Problems
Applying No-Cry Parenting Skills to Everyday Problems     191
Baby Talk     194
Backtalk     196
Bath, Not Behaving In     199
Bath, Not Wanting One     201
Bath, Won't Get Out     203
Biting, Child to Adult     205
Biting Other Children     207
Bossiness     211
Car Problems     215
Dawdling     218
Day Care or Preschool, Dropping Off and Picking Up     220
Doesn't Come When Called     222
Hitting a Parent     224
Hitting, Kicking, and Hair Pulling     227
Interrupting     231
Lying     234
Manners     237
Mealtime Behavior     240
Messiness     242
Other People's Undisciplined Children     244
Playtime Behavior     246
Restaurant Behavior     249
Roughhousing or Wild Play     252
Sharing     254
Shopping Misbehavior     258
Sibling Fights     262
Sleep Issues-Bedtime     265
Sleep Issues-Naps     268
Swearing, Bad Language, and Bathroom Jokes     271
Teasing and Name Calling     274
Toothbrushing     277
Traveling     280
Yelling, Screaming, and Shouting     283
Index     287

Editorial Reviews

The author of The No-Cry Sleep Solutionreturns with this guide to helping parents remain in control of their two-to -eight-year-olds. "A child," Pantley points out, "is emotion in motion." She provides a variety of techniques to help rein in out-of-control children, based on a four-part plan that corrects the current behavior, teaches a lesson, helps the child learn control and builds the relationship between the parent and child. Her techniques are not unusual, ranging from telling stories and giving timeout warnings to distractions and simply looking away ("Every once in a while, the best thing you can do for family peace is to turn around, pretend you didn't see it, take a deep breath, and move on to something else"). Where Pantley does break away from the parenting pack is explaining how parents can control themselves. Her suggestions won't be easy for parents to follow, but they make solid sense. The final part of the guide will be the most thumbed-through section: concrete advice for specific problems such as bossiness, sleep issues and sibling disagreements. Attachment parents as well as those looking for a gentle approach will appreciate the wisdom Pantley shares. (July)

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Publishers Weekly

Children and parents are not perfect; discipline is about teaching and learning. These are the basic premises of best-selling parent educator Pantley (The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers), a mother of four who shares her experience-based knowledge of methods of discipline. Stating that all children, parents, and situations are different, she provides readers with a practical selection of tools to correct children's misbehaviors. These are not radical solutions but the oft-repeated practices of enforcing time-outs, building routines, and using praise. Chapters about anger, less common to discipline manuals, cover why parents experience it and include a practical six-step plan for learning to control it. The book concludes with a section on solutions to common behaviors like dawdling, not sharing, and refusing to brush teeth. Sprinkled throughout with quotes from other parents, the text reassures the reader that parenting requires love and effort but not perfection. This book is a practical and easy read as well as a handy reference for parents facing the day-to-day issues of child rearing. Recommended for public libraries.
—Janet Clapp

Library Journal