The Pleasure of their Company

The Pleasure of their Company

by Doris Grumbach
     
 

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Using the occasion of her eightieth-birthday party to reflect on the past, Doris Grumbach delivers an enchanting memoir of the writers, friends, and loves who have accompanied her in mind and body through an extraordinary life of letters.See more details below

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Using the occasion of her eightieth-birthday party to reflect on the past, Doris Grumbach delivers an enchanting memoir of the writers, friends, and loves who have accompanied her in mind and body through an extraordinary life of letters.

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Buoyant. . . . The reader doesn't want this party to be over. —Leslie Chess Feller, The New York Times Book Review

"Triumphant. . . . [Grumbach] is tireless in her passion for ideas." —Steven Harvey, Atlanta Journal-Constitution

"[Grumbach] lives simultaneously in the past with departed friends, in the present with daily chores, in her imagination with well-known and remembered books, and she is completely alive in each sphere." —Barbara Fisher, The Boston Globe

"Grumbach writes effortlessly and beautifully. She has led a life passionately devoted to books and writing, and as she approaches 80 the passion is still there." —David Guy, Washington Post Book World

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
"We see only what we look for in need," notes novelist and memoirist Grumbach, quoting Roger Fry at the end of this new collection of meditations on, among other things, turning 80. While Fry was commenting on the human ability to experience art, Grumbach's concern is our ability to remember and appreciate life. In her recent memoirs (Extra Innings, etc.) and meditation daybooks (Life in a Day, etc.), Grumbach has turned from fiction to highly personalized, often idiosyncratic ruminations on the past and on the role of prayer and contemplation in everyday life. Here, she combines the two forms to produce a provocative, beautifully crafted personal history and meditation on death. Remembrances of friends who have died--Kay Boyle, Dorothy Day, May Sarton--mix with a nostalgia for the past without becoming sentimental or dogmatically traditional. Grumbach's stories and observations are always unusual and astute: she recounts being sexually assaulted by Bertrand Russell, wonders about the propriety of Gordon Lish's intrusive editing techniques and notes May Sarton's feat of "projecting a noble, unselfish... generous and warm-hearted public persona, entirely unlike her true self." After reading this slim volume, readers will be convinced that Grumbach's private self is as intelligent and generous as her public persona. (May) Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information.|
Library Journal
Venerable novelist, literary editor, columnist, and reviewer Grumbach has penned her fourth memoir. Her reminiscences are interwoven with concerns about the preparations she is making for her 80th birthday party at her home in Maine. While considering who to invite, she recalls family and friends, living and dead, and muses about her satisfying career as a member of important literary circles. She quotes from favorite books, gossips about fellow authors, and writes candidly about her loving relationships with her longtime lesbian helpmate and her ex-husband. This collection of wise ramblings reveals a vibrant and perceptive older woman who has lived the fullest of lives and delights in sharing her surprising and meaningful observations. Recommended for public and academic libraries. [Grumbach has won the Bill Whitehead Award for Lifetime Achievement presented by the Publishing Triangle.--Ed.]--Carol A. McAllister, Coll. of William and Mary Lib., Williamsburg, VA Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information.\
Booknews
Using the occasion of her 80th birthday party to reflect of the past, Grumbach, author of many books, delivers a memoir of writers, friends, and lovers who have accompanied her in mind and body through an extraordinary life of letters. She recalls a parade of celebrities, from Gypsy Rose Lee to Carson McCullers. Lacks a subject index. Grumbach has been a literary editor of , and a book reviewer for National Public Radio. Annotation c. Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)
Leslie Chess Feller
[A] buoyant memoir...The reader doesn't want this party to be over.
The New York Times Book Review
Le Anne Schreiber
[Grumbach's] prose shines with a serene grace.
The New York Times

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780807072233
Publisher:
Beacon
Publication date:
05/28/2001
Pages:
128
Product dimensions:
5.51(w) x 8.45(h) x 0.37(d)

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Chapter One


The Pleasure
of Their Company

* * *


I planned a party in July. I would be eighty. I had never had a large party before. I would look back to find friends to invite. My address book had their names, but a few of them were no longer here.


* * *


One grows old, and the people one loved have died and, strangely, taken on vitality in contrast to the living. The sad part of having old friends is that they are gone long before you are ready to have them leave. But still, they remained, leeches on the memory, suddenly coming alive to me when I least expected them. They appear by involuntary memory, never through an act of will, certainly not of reason. Effort could not bring them back. Yesterday, because it was her birthday, I remembered that Maggie would be one hundred if she had lived.

    I see Margaret Schlauch as she was sixty years ago, a whiz at languages and an always-smiling-as-she-lectures professor of the history of the English language, Geoffrey Chaucer, medieval literature, seated on a bench in the zocalo in Mexico City reading a Spanish newspaper aloud to me, me, the dullard-at-acquiring-languages student of seventeen. I was so slow at learning Spanish that she had adopted this oral method to accustom my ear to the sounds. We had been in Havana for a month, in Mexico for two weeks, and she, who knew hardly a word of the language when we sailed on the Morro Castle (later to sink tragically) from New York, now spoke fluently and had no trouble reading the paper.

    "Why does itcome so quickly to you, and so slowly to me?" I remember asking her.

    "Well, it grows easier the more languages one knows, I suppose."

    "How many do you know?"

    "About fifteen, I think," she said, putting down the newspaper. She opened a slim pamphlet that contained lists of words in Nahuatl, the language of the Aztecs. She came to Mexico to begin constructing the first Nahuatl grammar.

    "Oh well," I thought as I opened my beginner's Spanish grammar and began to work on verb tenses.

    Maggie was my guide (I think the correct current terms are "mentor" or "role model," but I dislike them both), as well as my friend and teacher. She made medieval literature so compelling as a scholarly endeavor that I changed my undergraduate major from philosophy to English (to Sidney Hook's disgust who assured me Professor Schlauch was not "a thinker"). In 1952 when she refused to take the loyalty oath required of college teachers at that time (she was a member of the then-legal Communist Party, I believe), she went to Poland to live and establish the department of English philology at the University of Warsaw.

    Did she know Polish when she left? I doubt it but still, in the bibliography that appeared in a Festschrift to her published in 1971, there is listed a scholarly article on Chaucer's Troilus and Cressida written in Polish less than two years after her arrival in Warsaw.

    We stayed in touch by means of her serious publications and my very slight novels in the early sixties. Always, hers came inscribed and one of mine was dedicated to her. Oddly, she stepped far outside her scholarly medieval world in 1969 to review for the Southern Review two books on the poetry of meditation. At the top of the offprint of it she sent to me she wrote: "A strange subject for a life-long non-believer, don't you think? They asked me for it. I must have a former student on that magazine."

    One year I received a little treatise, "The Doctrine of Vera Nobilitas as Developed after Chaucer," which was inscribed: "With Chaucerian Greetings." She noted that initials were often like names, of persons, i.e., indicative of their occupations. She said that the Germans talk of Namenzwang (Dr. Footer the podiatrist, de Gaulle the warrior). Our initials might be called Initialszwang, hers (MS) for her lifelong work on manuscripts, mine (DIG) because "you have learned to dig the younger generation."

    During one of her semester visits to this country (on a diplomatic passport), she spent a day at the college in Albany at which I taught, talking about the commonality of languages (I believe I was the only person there who had ever heard of the illustrious scholar before, so the attendance was very sparse). Another time I went to visit her at the University of Connecticut, where she was teaching. We talked for hours about her life abroad (she was reticent about whether she had found there what she had gone to find, true equality and opportunity for all people) and my humdrum domestic life here. After that we lost touch.

    In 1979 I asked the Polish cultural attaché (who was spending a day at the Villa Serbeloni in Bellagio, where I was working) if he was acquainted with Professor Schlauch, if he knew how she was, and if he would carry an unsealed letter to her upon his return. He said he did, he thought she was well, and he promised to deliver it. I never heard from her again. She seemed to have slipped silently into that vast behind-the-iron-curtain territory from which we rarely had news. At the last I read a brief obituary in the New York Times that told me nothing except the usual facts of her birth, education, publications, and death.

    It is a truism that one must have some sort of "closure" to be at peace with the death of a beloved. I have learned that to me the absence of closure is preferable. Without it, the dead exist somewhere, out of time and place, in permanent residence in my memory. So Maggie lives on in a remote corner of Paraguay, hard at work on the acquisition of a new language and planning a grammar of it for the Guayaki Indians.


* * *


A Few weeks later, it would have been Kay Boyle's ninety-fifth birthday. She has been dead for fifteen years. In my acute memory of her, she is sitting in a sunlit, meticulously furnished room in her Haight-Ashbury townhouse, dressed and coifed elegantly, her face crossed with deep lines, her prominent nose rising aristocratically beneath her high white forehead, and in her lobes the large white earrings she has worn in one form or another every day of her adult life.

    She told me once about participating in a Vietnam peace demonstration in San Francisco and burning the draft cards of young men on the steps of the federal courthouse so that she would be arrested, not they. She supported the protest of black students at San Francisco State College, where she taught in her seventies. Everything about her erect, elegant person ran counter to the cliché of the young, disheveled, often violent radical. Her tired eyes lit up as she described the asservating events.

    In my mind, still seated on her Victorian sofa in her tasteful living room, she is planning to go to Washington to protest the signing of the welfare bill by the president, or his betrayal of his gay and lesbian supporters in the military by making wrongheaded demands on them, or angrily on the telephone to her senator to object to the pointless, wag-the-dog bombings of sites in the Balkans, or to protest the injustices that are being perpetrated against the poor, the homeless, the sick, the wrongly imprisoned, the conscientious objectors.


* * *


Barbara Probst, who died this summer, was my friend in Mademoiselle days in the early forties, when that women's magazine was young and vigorous. She and I were in awe of the notable persons who would come by to see George Davis, the fiction editor who had published one excellent novel, The Opening of a Door. Gypsy Rose Lee, the famous stripteaser, came regularly to visit him in his minuscule office at lunchtime. Novelist Carson McCullers would take him off for drinks at the Russian Tea Room at four. Sometimes Wystan Hugh Auden and his friend Christopher Isherwood would wait in the reception room to take him to dinner.

    Probst and I had no part in this parade of celebrity. I was a proofreader. She was responsible for getting the publication out on time. She was smart, vigorous, reliable, and possessed of a dream that one day she would have a bookstore as far from New York City as she could get. Almost sixty years later she succumbed to a multiplicity of illnesses to which she was always good-humoredly resigned.

    Probst was born in Florida to a military family, I believe, and sent away to a girls' camp in her early teens. Together with her serge bloomers, middy blouses, and Keds, she insisted on taking with her a gift from her father, a small cannon. Years later she still had it when she sold her manual typewriter for a small part of the down payment on a farm in upstate New York that she converted into a bookstore, turning the pigpen into an annex to the huge barn. In that small outbuilding I found a book by Ellen Terry, the actress friend of Bernard Shaw, on an unexpected subject, the ballet. Probst sold it to me for a dollar. Later I discovered it was worth many times that. Then I knew it was a gift.

    I remember she was the first person I knew to own a riding lawn mower. I see her astride it still, reducing the lawns she had created on the farm to green perfection. The bookstore, named the Owl Pen (why, I do not know), was on a dirt road off a dirt road (her description), and very difficult to find, a problem she added to by placing a very few signs at crossroads, signs so small they were easy to overlook. Customers brought their lunch with them when they planned a visit, taking into account the time it would take to get lost, find the place, browse, buy, have their picnic on the lawn, then turn around and get lost again.

    After Probst was no longer able to run the store, even with the help of Jean, her companion of many years, she retired to a small house nearby (the road she lived on had a splendid view of the Vermont hills). She maintained her lifelong affection for cigarettes and whiskey, studied the stock market, and invested. The last time we saw her, in June of her eighty-third year, she had oxygen as constant companion for her emphysema. But she blithely ignored its presence and was still smoking.

    We brought her a present, a bottle of Canadian Club. She was having trouble standing erect and breathing. Osteoporosis had shrunk her, but she smiled broadly when we came and expressed delight at the appropriateness of the gift.... I am certain she is now seated in the book-lined pigpen, smoking and sipping whiskey, her hand resting on the gray shank of her beloved little cannon.

(Continues...)

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