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Reality, Perception, and Your Most Powerful Asset
Regard your good name as the richest jewel you can possibly be possessed of. . . .
The way to gain a good reputation is to endeavor to be what you desire to appear.
AS THE SUMMER turned to fall I took my car to the dealership for repairs.
The weather was just starting to turn cold and I just didn’t like the sound
when I turned the key and the battery started to crank the engine. “No
time like the present,” I thought. I wouldn’t feel right if my wife, Reina, or
one of my kids needed to use the car and it wouldn’t start, especially if they
were by themselves.
When I spoke with Louis Ciolino, the lead service consultant I always ask
for, I tried politely to let him know how important it was that the battery be
tested and, if even just starting to go bad, be replaced. To Louis, this could
have been an unimportant request that he didn’t have to take seriously. But
I had hardly started to talk, expressing my concern, when Louis looked up
from his computer and said, “I haven’t changed my face in 30 years.”
Yes, Louis does have an interesting way of phrasing things. But I knew
exactly what he meant. Over the years, he’s never changed his priorities: to
remain customer focused and caring. Needless to say, Louis takes pride in
what he does. He is a professional and is one of those remarkable guys who
knows his customers by first name. He never needs much more than that
in order to recommend the best course of action.
This time was no different.
Louis knows what it takes to build a solid reputation for service. He
knows it means working hard, being personally committed, and building
relationships. Most of all, he knows that he has to be trusted, not just for
one day or one service visit, but for the long run.
This is the reality behind his reputation. He has earned it through
offering true service in a friendly way that everyone appreciates. That’s
why so many of us keep asking for him, why we tell our friends and
acquaintances about him, and why his career is successful.
Reputation Is Powerful
I’m no different from any other guy who brings his car in for repairs. But
I am assured of quality and can avoid the apprehension that many experience
because I simply take my car to Louis.
As a public relations professional, professor, board member, manager,
volunteer, combat veteran, and, most of all, a father, I am acutely aware of
the importance of reputation. And I’m not alone in doing so—people
everywhere keep their ears to the ground and follow up when they get a
good recommendation. If their first, second, and third experience with
someone demonstrates that there is reality behind a reputation, they will
continue doing business there. Moreover, when trust is there and proven
over time, they may even ask for new services, expanding the relationship.
Everyone, in turn, benefits from the increased business.
Over the years, I’ve been fortunate to have had the opportunity to
speak with people at all professional levels and in different types of organizations
about their views on reputation. In those conversations, I’ve never
been able to resist the temptation to ask a very simple question: “Do you
believe that reputation is important?”
The answer often comes quickly. While holding back a slight chuckle—
or maybe a laugh—they say, “Of course.” Some might punctuate their
reply by rolling their eyes, while others just look at me quizzically. I sense
that more than a few of them seem to think that just asking the question
means that I must have been living on the moon.
When I push for an answer, no one minces their words. They come
right out and tell me that, if anyone thinks reputation isn’t important, they
must be crazy.
Perhaps the fact that they are so direct and blunt is because they took
the time and effort to build reputations that have withstood the pressures,
endured good times and bad, and continued to serve as the foundation for
their success. Or perhaps a few have even learned the hard way that a loss
of reputation or unwillingness to live up to a commitment and fulfill a
promise can prove to be the leading edge of a major problem, if not
advance warning of a looming collapse. When I ask them to rate reputation
on a scale of importance, from one to five, it always rates high. Some
tell me that it is the most important—number five—while others rank it
at number four. It seems everyone agrees that reputation is at or near the
top when it comes to the ability to be successful.
Clearly, reputation is among our most treasured and powerful assets.
At its simplest, it is what others think of us. This simple fact affects everything
we do, everything we say, everyone around us, and everything we try
to accomplish . . . private and public, personal and professional.
For some, reputation makes the difference between success and failure.
For others, it closes the gap between mediocrity and success by creating
special opportunities to move beyond the ordinary and accomplish
the extraordinary. For still others, it offers a unique advantage to overcome
challenges that otherwise might have been considered daunting or
In my experience, on the road to success there is nothing more important
than reputation when it comes to a strong foundation on which we
build our relationships, decisions, achievements, and careers.
Think of the way reputation affects the way you relate to the businesses
and organizations in your life. We judge organizations much the
same way we judge the people around us. We look them in the eye, listen
to what they say, notice what they don’t say, watch how they behave, and
then we make our judgments. Subconsciously, we ask ourselves: Do we
think they can be trusted? Do we think they are reputable? Do we think
they will do what they say, and do we think that what they do will be
meaningful? We ascribe human values and characteristics to every kind of
organization—whether a for-profit or a not-for-profit. We use our
answers to decide whether we want to relate to that organization, whether
through buying a product or service, investing in them, or taking them on
as a vendor or client.
How we perceive, and therefore describe, those organizations can vary
dramatically. The words we use to describe them are the ones that most
often relate to our own values. When we think well of a company or an
organization and have a positive view of the values that underlie its decisions,
we use endearing human terms such as “good,” “warm,” “fair,”
“ethical,” “responsible,” “trustworthy,” and “personable.” Or we describe
an organization as one that “we like” and “treats us well.”
When it is an organization we don’t like, our descriptions turn nasty:
“doesn’t care,” “takes advantage of us,” “rips us off,” “is dishonest,” “misuses
our donations,” “is unfair,” and “chases the almighty buck at our
To look at this from a completely different perspective, I asked some of
the people I’ve interviewed over the years to tell me what kind of animal
comes to mind when they think of some of the more widely recognized
companies. The answers were pretty graphic and telling. When they said
“snake,” it spoke volumes of what they thought about a company’s
integrity and honesty. Companies that were described as a lion or a tiger
suggested a reputation for aggressive competition. Sharks conjured up
images of financial avarice and ruthless behavior, with no compassion or
regard to the success of others. At the same time, puppies and house cats
were descriptions of kinder, gentler companies whose business activity was
mild, well meaning, pleasant, a Ma-and-Pop shop—and perhaps even easily
taken advantage of by ruthless companies.
It doesn’t take much thought to realize that these reactions to the reputations
of a range of companies tell an important story about our own
reputations as individuals. Reputation often has its base in an emotional
first reaction. It might be a gut response, based on what action has been
taken or what words have been communicated. The truth is that whether
or not a reputation has grounding in actions and experience, at the core of
reputation is simply a feeling or a belief.
This is why reputation can seem to be so hard to control or manage. Its
root is in the nebulous realm of emotions, in each person’s feeling about you
or your organization. The good news is that the seeds of a good reputation
are identifiable, and you can plant those seeds so that positive roots will grow
and positive experiences will flower. Plant the right seeds and success is yours.
Celia Berk, chief talent officer for Young & Rubicam Group, is often
called upon to help people with their professional development. She
explains it this way:
I tell them that they are the ones who must “manage” their own
careers. That includes their reputations inside and outside the
Most importantly, as they manage their careers and reputations,
they must remember that their actions have consequences. If there
are inconsistencies, there is little credibility.
Reputation Is Your Most Important Asset
If there is one message in this book to remember, it is just this: In every facet
of our lives, reputation is among our most treasured and powerful assets.
I intentionally choose to describe reputation as an asset, simply
because an asset is anything we own that has exchange value. This point
Think of it from two perspectives.
First of all, we own our reputation. Whether or not we feel we deserve
it, the responsibility for the views of us that have taken shape in other people’s
minds falls on us and us alone. When we take responsibility, when we
“own” our reputation—that is the moment we can do something about it,
when we can begin to consciously shape it.
Second, as an asset, reputation has an exchange value. We engage in
active exchanges based on our reputation—either attracting business,
attention, or support from those around us, or repelling it. Revenue
climbs, we earn a promotion, we land a long-term client, or we negotiate
great terms with a vendor we also respect. Or none of those things happen.
Margery Kraus is founder and chief executive of the worldwide consulting
firm APCO Worldwide, which developed a Return on Reputation
Indicator and Index in partnership with the Retail Industry Leaders
Association. Here’s what her research shows on the power of reputation to
affect the bottom line.
Our Return on Reputation research demonstrates that “doing the
right thing” is also “the right thing to do for business” . . . just as we
know that “doing the right thing” is so important to our success as
individuals. One of the interesting aspects of this research is that it
directly tracks the linkage from behavior to perception to action.
Using the retail industry research as an example, there is a direct
correlation between perceptions—those met, not met, or
exceeded—and the bottom line.
In any kind of reputation research, the underlying principles are no
different than those that determine the success of our own careers.
Through all of the work I have done with different organizations—
from trade associations to social service organizations, and from
governments to corporations—the data consistently show that reputation
and meeting expectations are key.
As you delve into this book, consider what your own reputation goals
are—what is your personal bottom line? Are you looking to build a business?
Do you want to earn a promotion? Lead a team effectively? Widen
your network of potential clients? Grow sales? Attract quality vendors
All these things are possible when you have a positive reputation
because it is a major determining factor in the choice that people make
when considering their options. More often than not, your good reputation
is the reason they choose you.
INTRODUCTION: Reality, Perception, and Your Most Powerful Asset
PART ONE: CHARACTER
1 This Is the Era of Personal Character
2 Experiences That Shape Character
3 Define Your Values
4 Authenticity Rules
5 Caring and Respect
PART TWO: COMMUNICATION
6 Seek to Understand
7 Effective Communication
8 Engaging Others
9 Be Personal
PART THREE: TRUST
10 Build a Circle of Trust
11 Overcoming Threats to Trust
12 When You Make a Mistake
13 An Enduring Reputation
14 Reputation Paves the Way
Posted July 12, 2012
This product teaches one important lesson, circumstances may vary, even change drastically but reputation, whether good or bad remains unchanged.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted June 11, 2012
I bought the Nook book and it is great. I just finished my undergraduate degree and started grad school and this is the best book to help me appreciate the importance of how others see me. I never actually thought about my reputation before but the stories bring alive how important my reputation is to my career as a teacher. The message that the book drives home is authenticity. If you fake it, you won't be successful. If you shade the truth, you won't be successful. You need to be genuine.
The book talks a lot about the importance of values, caring and being straightforward. Simple as those may seem, they are often overlooked. I like the simple concept of character, communication and trust.
I realize more than ever that, when I send out my resume as I look for a full-time teaching job, both my skills and my reputation are critical to the first step. There aren't a lot of jobs out there and the competition is tough. Reputation can make the difference in getting that job.
Great book. A must read.