The Power of Two Workbook: Communication Skills for a Strong & Loving Marriage


This step-by-step guide is for couples who want to enhance their communication skills and maximize their relationship s potential for mutual support and growth. Troubled spouses will discover how to hear without becoming defensive, clean up after verbal toxic spills, and convert moments of anger into opportunities for growth.

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This step-by-step guide is for couples who want to enhance their communication skills and maximize their relationship s potential for mutual support and growth. Troubled spouses will discover how to hear without becoming defensive, clean up after verbal toxic spills, and convert moments of anger into opportunities for growth.

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Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
“Susan Heitler and Abigail Hirsch have written a gem of a book that will help couples, whether newlywed or long-married, break out of the marital gridlock. No matter how solid your marriage, the skills and strategies clearly outlined here offer do-able ways to unscramble problems with which you’ve struggled—as well as new ones that crop up along the way.”
—Margery D. Rosen, contributor to the long-running column, “Can This Marriage Be Saved?” in Ladies Home Journal

The Power o f Two Workbook is wonderfully sensible and user-friendly. It’s aimed at real people coping with the real problems of living together—particularly new couples, and those with pretty good marriages and very good intentions but a faulty instruction book on life and relationships. This workbook is wise, optimistic, and a lot of fun.”
—Frank Pittman, MD, author of Grow Up! How Taking Responsibility Can Make You a Happy Adult

“This workbook is deceptively fun to fill out. The exercises help to develop skills that can make all the difference between a difficult marriage and a loving partnership.”
—Marilyn Van Derbur, former Miss America and author of Miss America by Day

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781572243347
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
  • Publication date: 10/1/2003
  • Series: Workbook Series
  • Edition description: Workbook
  • Pages: 208
  • Sales rank: 384,772
  • Product dimensions: 8.36 (w) x 11.20 (h) x 0.43 (d)

Meet the Author

Susan Heitler, Ph.D., a Denver clinical psychologist, specializes in helping couples build strong marriages. Her book for couples The Power of Two, which has been published globally in five languages, forms the basis both for this workbook and for Power of Two Marriage Skills Workshops (see Dr. Heitler’s earlier book From Conflict to Resolution and her master therapist video The Angry Couple are staples in marriage counseling training programs, and her self-help audiotapes (see have helped thousands of listeners. Dr. Heitler and her husband, blessed with four children and ever-increasing numbers of grandchildren, have enjoyed over thirty years of strong and loving marriage.

Abigail Hirsch is a teacher and math curriculum writer who now is completing her Ph.D., as a clinical psychologist. She used her teaching and curriculum-development background to cocreate The Power of Two Marriage Skills Workshops and then this workbook, both of which augment the book The Power of Two, written by her mother, Dr. Susan Heitler. Abigail, her husband, and their two young sons live with Abigail’s paternal grandparents on a tree farm.

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Table of Contents

Introduction 1
"... And They Lived Happily Ever After"
What You Will Learn, and How
Getting Started and Keeping Going
Chapter 1 Talking Directly 5
Say It
Verbalize Feelings
Chapter 2 Talking Safely 25
Respect Boundaries
Talk with Tact
Chapter 3 Effective Listening 41
Listen to Learn
Digest Aloud What You Hear
Chapter 4 Balanced Listening 53
Listen to Feelings
Bilateral Listening
Chapter 5 Dialogue Skills 67
Braid Your Dialogue
Use the Four S's
Establish Climate Controls
Chapter 6 Understanding Anger 87
Build Your Anger Awareness
Anger Is a Stop Sign
Prevent Wildfires
Chapter 7 Receiving Anger 113
Respond Constructively, or Exit
Return to Problem-Solving
Chapter 8 Dealing with Differences 127
The Three Steps of the Win-Win Waltz
Conflict Resolution and Shared Decision-Making
Fix-It Talk
Chapter 9 Win-Win Tips, Traps, and Costs 143
Traps to Avoid
Costs of Conflict
Chapter 10 Handling Upsets 157
After Upsets
Prevent Affairs, Addictions, and Abuse
Chapter 11 Supporting Your Spouse 173
What Helps?
Be a Super Supporter
Chapter 12 Intimacy and a Loving Home 185
Keeping Your House a Loving Home
References 199
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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 11, 2005

    Practice makes perfect

    Reading about how to make your marriage better helps, but this workbook helped me learn more solidly. It's chock-a-block full of practice exercises. I liked also the short explanations of how to do each skill, and why it's important.

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