The Pressure's Off: Breaking Free from Rules and Performance

The Pressure's Off: Breaking Free from Rules and Performance

by Larry Crabb
The Pressure's Off: Breaking Free from Rules and Performance

The Pressure's Off: Breaking Free from Rules and Performance

by Larry Crabb

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Overview

You can stop trying to get everything right.
 
Is the pressure getting to you? Do you try to make everything work, only to find that your best efforts are largely ineffective?
 
Christians have unknowingly embraced two errors: that following the rules guarantees a good life, and that God is important because He dispenses blessings. When God’s blessings seem to taper off and when life doesn’t work out, people take it upon themselves to make things work. And that creates pressure that we are all too familiar with.
 
In The Pressure’s Off, best-selling author and counselor Larry Crabb introduces you to the New Way of living. God does not guarantee ease or convenience—or even a good outcome as the result of your obedience. But he does promise himself, no matter what the circumstances of your life.
 
When you seek God and nothing else, the pressure truly is off you.

Workbook included!

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780307730534
Publisher: The Crown Publishing Group
Publication date: 04/17/2012
Pages: 368
Sales rank: 307,429
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

Dr. Larry Crabb is a well-known psychologist, conference and seminar speaker, Bible teacher, author, and founder-director of NewWay Ministries. His many popular books include Shattered Dreams, The PAPA Prayer, SoulTalk, Inside Out, Connecting, and his life work, 66 Love Letters. He currently is scholar in residence at Colorado Christian University, visiting professor at Richmont University, and serves as spiritual director for the American Association of Christian Counselors. Dr. Crabb and his wife, Rachael, live in the Denver area. For additional information visit www.NewWayMinistries.org.

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Two Paths

Right now, at this very moment, you’re walking one of two paths through life.

Either

you’ve decided that what you most want out of life is within your reach, and you’re doing whatever you believe it takes to get it

or

you’ve realized that what you most want is beyond your reach, and you’re trusting God for the satisfaction you seek. You want Him. Nothing less, not even His blessings, will do.

If you’re walking the first path, your life is filled with pressure. Inside, where no one sees, your soul is weary. You see no way to step off the treadmill. Or life is going well, and you’re satisfied. But you sense something’s wrong, something’s missing. The pressure is still there.

If you’re walking the second path, you have hope. Your soul may be weary, your interior world may be filled with struggles no one sees, but you have hope. At times you rest. Something is alive in you; the desire of your heart is not smothered. You can taste freedom. And the taste brings joy. The first path is the Old Way. It involves a quid-pro-quo arrangement with God or, if not with God, then with the order in the universe, with the rules that make life work. If you do what you should, then you get what you want, either from a moral God who rewards good behavior or from an orderly world that you effectively use. It leaves you in control of how things turn out in your life. The Old Way promises a better life filled with good things that make you happy.

But it never delivers, though it may seem to for a long time. The Old Way doesn’t work for one reason: You never keep your end of the bargain, not completely. No one does.

The second path is the New Way. In this arrangement, God first plants a desire in your heart, a longing that actually values His presence over His blessings; then He invites you to live out that desire, to abandon yourself to what you most want. It takes you out of control, but it sets you free. The New Way promises a better hope than the good things of life. It promises nearness to God, and it delivers, though not right away and often through suffering.

Most people live the Old Way all of their lives; most people who go to church live a religious version of the Old Way. It goes something like this: If you want good kids, raise them according to Christian principles. If you want a good marriage, understand a biblical model for marriage and live up to it as closely as you can.

If you want God to bless your ministry, follow godly principles of leadership. If you want to be emotionally healthy, practice spiritual disciplines and trust Jesus for your needs.

If you want close friends, learn to accept yourself and to be vulnerable, authentic, and forgiving.

People who live the Old Way believe the Law of Linearity, a law that states there is an A that leads to the B you want. Figure out what A is, do it, and you’ll have the life you most desire. The pressure’s on.

People who live the New Way believe the Law of Liberty. They come as they are. They do not bathe before they approach God. They come to God for the bath. They feel no pressure to change either their inner life or their outer life, but they desire change in both spheres. And they are eager to do whatever will create the opportunity for change, even if it means dipping themselves seven times in a muddy river or marching around an enemy’s wall for seven days and blowing trumpets. They live for the truest desire of their hearts: to know God and to enjoy Him. They do not live for a better life in this world. And when their life here is hard, when things fall apart, they most clearly reveal who they are. They’re citizens of another world who most want what this world can never provide. So they wisely indulge their deepest desire and trust God to reveal Himself to them. That’s the Law of Liberty.

Most of us are living the Old Way. Some of us can feel the emptiness it never fills. We’re working hard to make life work so we can feel good. The pressure’s on.

There’s a new way to live that takes the pressure off. Join me as together we search for it.

Table of Contents

A Parable: Night Question 3

Introduction: Two Paths 11

Part I There's a New Way to Live: I Think We're Missing It

1 Rules to Live By 17

2 Our Set Patterns 23

3 Three Passages Tell the Story 29

Part II The Weary Generation: The New Way: What It Isn't

4 A Worm in the Apple 41

5 What Dark Forces? 50

6 The Left-Out Dragon 61

7 What's So Wrong with What We Want? 71

8 Blinding Deception 82

Part III Can You Feel the Wind?: The New Way: What It Is

9 Behind a Door Marked Private 95

10 Coming Dirty and Dancing 100

11 Reaping What We Sow 109

12 The Immanuel Agenda 118

13 The Barn Door's Open 125

14 Story of God 132

Part IV Let the Revolution Begin: The New Way: How to Live It

15 Enjoying God 145

16 Five Building Blocks of New Way Living 156

17 Where Am I? Finding the Red Dot 162

18 Your Choice of Cycles 173

19 First Thing Focus 183

20 God Is in Control-of What? 192

21 The Papa Prayer 208

Epilogue: With God in the Bathroom 219

Afterword: A Ten-Year-After Afterword 225

Workbook: Questions You May Have About This Workbook 231

Week 1 Old Way or New Way? 235

Week 2 A Worm in the Apple 249

Week 3 What's So Wrong with the Old Way? 263

Week 4 What the New Way Is 277

Week 5 The Immanuel Agenda 289

Week 6 How to Live the New Way 299

Week 7 Taking a Deeper Look 309

Week 8 Counting on God 325

Appendix: Introducing New Way Ministries 345

Acknowledgments 353

Notes 355

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