The Real Win: A Man's Quest for Authentic Success

The Real Win: A Man's Quest for Authentic Success

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by Colt McCoy, Matt Carter

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“I can't speak highly enough about the way this book addresses manhood in our culture. Biblically challenging and radically applicable, it honestly addresses the deepest longings and fears a man faces.”   --Matt Chandler
Prepare for a paradigm-shifting view of biblical manhood.
Every man wants to succeed. But for so

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“I can't speak highly enough about the way this book addresses manhood in our culture. Biblically challenging and radically applicable, it honestly addresses the deepest longings and fears a man faces.”   --Matt Chandler
Prepare for a paradigm-shifting view of biblical manhood.
Every man wants to succeed. But for so many, life seems to get in the way. We all have friends—good men, followers of Christ even—who start out well but before long, they’re failing at relationships, bending ethical standards, or driving themselves so hard at work they’re losing the hearts of their wife and kids.
In The Real Win, Colt McCoy and Matt Carter wrestle deeply and personally with this challenge, then deliver down-to-earth, biblical answers. Based on their personal experiences and a close study of Scripture, McCoy and Carter show men:
• Why so much depends on who you trust and who you serve
• Why every man is called to lead and why every man can
• How to man up to temptation—and conquer it
• How to fi nd the “win” even in your biggest failure
“The real win means trusting the Lord and walking with Jesus no matter what,” write Matt and Colt. “That kind of faithfulness is possible for any man who follows God with all his heart. No matter what circumstances threaten him, a faithful man is the most truly confi dent man in the room.”
Complete with practical study guide for personal or small group use.

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“Colt McCoy and Matt Carter have joined arms to lead men to win. Not just win in athletics or careers, but to win in life. The pages of this book are packed with inspirational words and practical guidance. I heartily recommend it.”
—Max Lucado, pastor and best-selling author
The Real Win: Pursuing God’s Plan for Authentic Success is a really good book.
It is honest, transparent, convicting, challenging, and instructive. It makes plain what it really means to ‘be the man!’ Colt McCoy and Matt Carter invite men to a higher and greater calling as they follow hard after the real man’s man, Jesus of Nazareth.”
— Daniel L. Akin, president of Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary
“Men hate asking for directions a little more than they hate to read. It isn’t that we can’t read; it’s just that we need something that keeps our interest and gives us practical help. Welcome to that book. The Real Win will help you grow in your faith so that you can be the man God has called you to be.”
—Darrin Patrick, lead pastor of The Journey

“A gut-wrenching, soul-piercing book that wrestles honestly with questions every man asks and emotions every man feels, whether he ever admits it or not.
I will recommend this book to all the men in my church. You won’t be able to put it down.”
— J. D. Greear, author of Stop Asking Jesus into Your Heart:
How to Know for Sure You Are Saved and Gospel: Recovering the Power That Made Christianity Revolutionary

“A wonderful and raw work that gets to the heart of all the areas in which men have historically struggled. This book is immensely valuable, not because it points men to success, but because it points men to Jesus and practically walks through how to win by seeking Him in every area of life.”
— Nathan Lino, senior pastor of Northeast Houston Baptist Church
“I can’t speak highly enough about the way this book addresses manhood in our culture. Biblically challenging and radically applicable, it honestly addresses the deepest longings and fears a man faces.”
— Matt Chandler, author of The Explicit Gospel and Creature of the Word
“This is not your typical formula for a book on success and manhood. By humbly and honestly walking through their failures, Matt Carter and Colt McCoy teach the difficult truths we face as men and leaders. I have great hope that through this book, more and more men will begin to see their struggles in marriage,
career, and family as a way to point them to the ultimate picture of success:
Jesus Christ.”
— Brad Lomenick, executive director and key visionary of Catalyst
“As a young man fresh out of college, I know I’m going to chase something with the rest of my life. The Real Win helps me lock in on exactly what that should be. This book identifies what’s truly satisfying, what’s worthy of being chased. I’m in for the win.”
—Cory Cotton, cofounder of Dude Perfect and author of Go Big
“We live in a world full of scoreboards. Matt and Colt have experienced both wins and losses, and I’ve seen them both want God more than all of it. They are men who fight well, and they will lead you to fight well. This is worth it. In The Real Win, Matt and Colt will move you from a life of striving to one of fulfillment, living for the God who has already won the ultimate victory.”
—Jennie Allen, Bible teacher and author of Anything

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The Real Win

A Man's Quest for Authentic Success
By Colt McCoy

Multnomah Books

Copyright © 2013 Colt McCoy
All right reserved.

ISBN: 9781601424822

It’s Time to Redefine Winning

Guys, quick! Can you name who won last year’s…
• Super Bowl?
• World Series?
• NBA Finals?
• Daytona 500?
• PGA Tour Championship?

How did you do?

If you’re like a lot of guys, you’re probably surprised by how few of the winners you can recall, especially considering what a big deal those championships felt like to a lot of people at the time.

Inside each man is a desire to set goals and achieve them, to get ahead and finish strong. And God Himself put a desire within us to drive hard and live with excellence. But things can go terribly wrong as we pursue our goals, can’t

So many men start out to achieve what they think is the real win, but at the end of their lives they feel a sense of defeat, even though they achieved everything they set out to win. They think they’re achieving what matters most in
the long run, but it doesn’t pan out the way they had hoped. Or they find that their goals disappoint them, or their accomplishments are quickly forgotten, or they achieve their goals but destroy their marriages and families in the process, or they never fulfill their destinies and end up frustrated, angry, hurt, and cynical. What then?

Lately, the two of us have been doing a lot of thinking about what constitutes authentic success for a man.

Raised to Be a Winner

Since boyhood, I (Colt) have been trained to win. I have wanted to win and have been expected to win. I even grew up thinking that if I did everything right, God would make sure I won.

A few years back, when I graduated from college, I ended up being the winningest quarterback in college football history. (That record’s been broken now, but it felt good to achieve that goal at the time.) Yet even with all those
successes, I still came up short with my goals and didn’t achieve a couple of big wins I really wanted. And that hurt. I’ve gone on to play in the NFL, where I’ve had some successes as well as some challenges. My professional story is still being lived out even as we’re writing this book.1

I get that most men don’t play professional sports for a living. And some men reading this book aren’t even football fans. But I’m pretty sure you can relate to my story, because no matter what you do for a living or how you
like to spend your free time, all of us can relate to this: we hate to lose. All of us want to be a success, in one way or
another. That’s why we want to talk about what real winning—winning according to God’s definition of success—means, and how you can build a life as a man who makes winning a sure thing.

I’m still learning a lot as I go along, and that’s one of the reasons I’m writing this book along with my friend and
pastor, Matt Carter.

Winning or Losing?

Some people think of pastors as guys who don’t have a competitive drive, who don’t have a desire to succeed like everybody else. But I (Matt) am wired like every other man reading this book. I know what it’s like to want to win. The
church I planted started with a core group of fifteen people and now has more than eight thousand active attenders. Only God can bring dead souls to life, and He gets every bit of the glory for what’s gone right at my church. But still,
on my end there was a lot of work to do, and I know what it’s like to drive hard. When it came to planting Austin Stone Community Church, humanly speaking, I did succeed.2

But I’ve also learned a thing or two about losing in the process. For one thing, I’ve faced death (more about that later). For another, I’ve faced a crisis in my marriage—a crisis that showed me how close I had come to losing everything when I actually thought I was winning. Through these events and many more, I’ve realized that if you’re going to win in the short time you have here on earth, you have to redefine success. You have to make sure you’re winning, not according to human standards, but according to God’s.

Today Colt and I want to deliver a cautionary tale for men: If the pursuit of God and trusting Him fully isn’t at the core of your life, then it’s going to be impossible for you to really win. In fact, in every way that really matters, you’ll lose. That’s what we want to talk about in this book. What does true success for a man, particularly a follower of Christ, look like?

It’s been great to work on this book with my good friend Colt. Even though I’m an Aggie and he’s a Longhorn, and the two don’t normally get along (that’s an understatement!), we’ve developed a great respect for each other over the
years. Colt’s got a lot of insights in this area. He’s a man of wisdom well beyond his years.

Sometimes in this book Colt will be talking to you directly, and sometimes I will be, but every part of the message between these book covers is something that we both fully own and that we can’t wait to share with you.

This Is for You

If you’re concerned about winning at what really counts before your life on this earth is done, then this book is for you. Maybe you’ve had some successes, maybe many successes (though probably not as many as you would have liked),
but you still have a nagging sense that what you’re working so hard for may not be the right goal after all, at least not entirely. All of us know the awkward feeling when we start to wonder if we’ve got our ladder up against the wrong wall.

As a Christ follower, you want whatever God wants for you, because deep inside you sense that that’s where the real win for you must lie. We respect your desire. And we believe God does too. But what you do with that desire is what
really matters.

Your quest for authentic success starts here.

Now, if you’re a woman and you’re checking out this book to see what it’s got to say, no need to feel guilty about peeking! There are no secrets here, only revelations from the Word of God and the lives of men. Maybe you have a son, a husband, or some other important male in your life, and you want to know how to better encourage him in his
pursuit of godly manhood. That’s great—this book will open your eyes as well as his. Share with him the insights
you read here, or propose that the two of you read the book together and discuss it.

And that brings us to another opportunity.

You see, we need to acknowledge that men have a tendency to remain in their own isolated silos, trying to work on their problems all alone. So, male reader, while you can read this book alone and try to apply it to your life individually, we encourage you to read it and talk it through with others, especially a group of men you can trust. Use the study guide at the back of the book with a male friend, with your mentor, in a men’s small group, on a men’s retreat, or in any other setting where you can be honest with some other guys. Iron sharpens iron, and if we’ve been getting spiritually dull, we can help each other get our edge back.

Our promise to you is this: the teachings in this book are based on biblical principles, and if you learn and pursue God’s way of doing things, your definition of success will change in the key areas of your life for all the seasons of your life. We want to help you win the way God intended, because it’s the only way that lasts.

If that sounds promising to you, then turn the page.


Excerpted from The Real Win by Colt McCoy Copyright © 2013 by Colt McCoy. Excerpted by permission of Multnomah Books, a division of Random House, Inc.
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
“The real win means trusting the Lord, walking with Jesus, and living your life in the way He defined it.” Truly, the definition of an inspiring yet challenging book that deals with the importance of burgeoning in Christ- must begin with a passion. Therefore, reading this book, “The Real Win,” is a must for anyone seeking simple remedies to help cure addiction, idolatry, temptation, and man’s drive for meaningless success. Through multiple anecdotes, Colt McCoy and Matt Carter illustrate, with meaningful necessity, the doors God has opened to them. Colt’s struggle to define himself as more than just a specimen of professional quarterbacks, and Matt’s drive to a purposeful church would have clouded both their ways had Gods divine providence not interceded. In the only way a Professional Football Player and Mega Preacher can, this book was written with simplistic understanding. The contents are crafted, and purely designed, to attract men to Godly nature; introducing the readers to a plethora of scripture focused primarily on ways to advance discipleship and discipline. If you find reading mundane overcome your weakness with audacity and enjoy the meaning God has fashioned the hearts of two men (Colt McCoy and Matt Carter) with. This book is by no means and exegetical work of biblical interpretation, however, this book is a work of biblical meaning within the lives of two men. Colt McCoy and Matt Carter demonstrate the goodness of Gods Omni-Benevolence in their lives, and how Gods Omnipotence is already working within your life. I would recommend this book to anyone seeking spiritual development within Family, Marriage, discernment, and vocational life. Since we are all of imperfection, this book is a must read for all men. Why? Well since we are all of imperfection there is continual reminders needed to further our formation for Heaven. This book is that reminder.
ReadersFavorite More than 1 year ago
Reviewed by Faith Farrell for Readers' Favorite I have to use the cliched phrase: this is not a book to set aside lightly. The Real Win by Matt Carter and Colt McCoy is direct and grace-filled at the same time, conversational and yet deep, filled with examples that may make you laugh. The examples always make you think, and point you straight to solid theology. The two co-authors' own life stories reassure young men that these principles can be lived out daily, and that such a life is the best life, the one where, like the title says, you really win. Why Ladies Should Read This: first let me say that I read this book and I was blessed by it. I would certainly give this one to my young male cousins and I would recommend it to their sisters. The truth in this book applies to both men and women, and this study of the way a Godly man will live before his Lord should be essential reading for young women who will one day be courting and marrying. Why Men Should Read This Book: because it strikes at the heart of the fact that men are designed to live with purpose, to fight to succeed, to win. Men are true men when they seek and serve God, when they win His way, and when they succeed according to His definition of success. As The Real Win reminds us, any other win is really idolatry. Colt McCoy and Matt Carter continually remind us that we don't life live God's way ever by our own willpower alone, but through the strength of Christ in us.  Just a few examples of the wealth of wisdom in this book: loving and cherishing your wife; sanctification; knocking down idols. There is an essential chapter about men working at their employment in a way that pleases the Lord, doing all things before His eyes and seeing the inherent dignity in working at something, whatever honest, gainful work it is. There is advice on what single men need to look for in a wife. These are a tiny bit of what this book covers, and it covers a lot in a healthy 224 pages.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
THE WINNING SIDE  This was such a great book (The Real Win) that I did not want to put it down. The authors’ personal experience and spiritual connection brought this work into the forefront of what it takes to win in Christ. The book is inspiring, very touching and highlighted numerous factors that can either hinder or reward your life.  I ask my husband to read the book as well and he enjoyed the book as well. The authors’ shared personal stories to get readers to understand that without a life of Christ, it is impossible to live a life of success and be happy. Living in Christ brings balance and peace, oftentimes we try to take the credit for our life successes, but that is far from the truth.  Remember the old cliché: a happy wife leads to a happy home, well if you want happiness in your home, at work, and throughout your lifetime, you must be obedient to God’s word. The Bible states, "every good and perfect gift comes from above" (James 1:17), this can be applied to your life in every area. If there is a love worth working hard for and worth saving, than why not do it. What drives your passion? What drives you to be successful? Is it money, family, or self-elevation? Whose side are you on? Whom are you trying to impress? Trusting in Christ takes more than mere words, but your actions are louder than words. How you treat others is a factor that is look upon as well as your relationship with Christ. The Bible says “Happy is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding” (Proverbs 3:13).  I would recommend that marriage ministries share this book as a tool for counseling and rebuilding the broken relationships. I recommend this book to small groups, blended families, husband-wife, and husbands-to-be. “I received this book free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.
MyBookAddictionandMore More than 1 year ago
THE REAL WIN: A MAN'S QUEST FOR AUTHENTIC SUCCESS by Colt McCoy and Matt Carter is a non-fiction/Christian living. What do you get when you combine quarterback legend, Colt McCoy and mega-church pastor,Matt Carter? A mega book written from personal experiences,their struggles,their triumphs, using principles from scriptures. This book is written for men,but being a woman,a non-sports fan and a reviewer I found this a very well written book. Rather you are male,female,well-known or not so well-known we all need faith and trust. It has a great bible study guide at the back to use with a small study group. A great addition to any library,rather it be personal or church library. Great for young men to start quest for authentic success. Received for an honest review from the publisher. RATING: 4 HEAT RATING: NONE(NON-FICTION/CHRISTIAN LIVING) REVIEWED BY: AprilR, Review courtesy of My Book Addiction and More
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This book is amazing! For anyone who wants to see an authentic perspective on authentic manhood, read this book. Carter and McCoy have taken a fresh, sincere and biblical look at manhood. With our culture continuing to define men by empty accomplishments, this book points to the means for lasting impact a man can have on his family and the world. I read this book in one sitting. It is an incredible read for any man or any woman raising a future man!