The Relationship Principles of Jesus

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What would you give to radically improve, even transform, what matters most in your relationships?

How about forty days of your time?

In forty days, bring new depth and health to your marriage, your family, and your friendships. Six weeks to explore and implement six foundational principles that Jesus taught and lived. You'll be equipped with insights and a practical path for fulfilling God's intention for all...

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Overview

What would you give to radically improve, even transform, what matters most in your relationships?

How about forty days of your time?

In forty days, bring new depth and health to your marriage, your family, and your friendships. Six weeks to explore and implement six foundational principles that Jesus taught and lived. You'll be equipped with insights and a practical path for fulfilling God's intention for all your relationships—even the difficult ones.

Shaped after Rick Warren's monumental bestseller, The Purpose Driven Life, this book invites you to learn from the Master of relationships. The Relationship Principles of Jesus will profoundly shape how you view relationships.

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Tom has written a truly useful and biblically sound guide to relational greatness. -- John Ortberg, Author, If You Want to Walk on Water, You've Got to Get Out of the Boat

Wow! Every follower of Christ needs to read this book! Never before has it been so easy to learn THE revolutionary relationship principles from THE relationship expert! You simply cannot afford to miss out on this great study. We love this book! -- Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, Founders of RealRelationships.com, Authors of Trading Places

The Relationship Principles of Jesus gives the biblical principles and practical tools to transform our relationships into all that God desires them to be. By pointing us to Jesus, Tom Holladay teaches us how to live the Christian life as it was really intended. Every follower of Jesus should take this forty-day journey, savoring each insight and applying it to every relationship they have. -- Dr. Kevin Leman, Author, Have a New Kid by Friday

I have had the honor of serving with Tom Holladay on the pastoral staff at Saddleback Church for the last sixteen years. He is a friend and accountability partner. Tom is a true example of how to live the relationship principles of Jesus. -- John Baker, Pastor and founder of Celebrate Recovery

Life's greatest joys and life's greatest pains are experienced in relationships. This book can help mitigate the pain and enhance the joy. -- Gary D. Chapman, Ph.D., Author, The Five Love Languages

Our generation craves close, intimate relationships, but we're imperfect people who can't seem to get what we want most. The Relationship Principles of Jesus centers us on what matters most, giving practical wisdom and daily doses of encouragement we all need to better love those around us. -- John Burke, Author, No Perfect People Allowed

No one communicates better on this topic of Christlike relationships than Tom Holladay, who walks the talk. A must-read for anyone who is passionate about becoming more like Jesus---today. -- Katie Brazelton, PhD, Mdiv, Author, Pathway to Purpose for Women

The Relationship Principles of Jesus could revolutionize your relationships with God and with others. This book provides the essential ingredients to deepen and strengthen every relationship in your life. -- Gary Smalley, Author, Change Your Heart, Change Your Life

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780310309345
  • Publisher: Zondervan
  • Publication date: 12/5/2008
  • Format: MP3
  • Edition description: Unabridged
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Meet the Author

Tom and Chaundel Holladay have three children and two grandchildren and have served together at Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, California, for over twenty years.
Tom, in addition to his pastoral leadership and weekend teaching ministries, is a part of Saddleback's ministry of training church leaders around the world and produces a weekly podcast through the Bible at drivetimedevotions.com He is author of The Relationship Principles of Jesus and, with Kay Warren, Foundations: 11 Core Truths to Build Your Life On.

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The Relationship Principles of Jesus

By Tom Holladay
Zondervan
Copyright © 2008

Tom Holladay
All right reserved.


ISBN: 978-0-310-28367-6



Chapter One Nothing Is More Important Than Relationships

Relationships are painful. Relationships are wonderful. We all live in the drama that plays out between these two truths.

I think of Neal and Robin when I think of the drama of relationships. Married for only a few years, their life together had started strong. And then, with a suddenness that tore their world apart, Robin suffered a brain hemorrhage. As I sat with Neal in the waiting room on the night it happened, we heard the doctor speak in hushed tones about high-risk surgery and low odds of success. Even if Robin were to survive the surgery, she would likely be in a semiconscious state for the rest of her life. Neal's immediate response was simple faith and sacrificial love. He believed that God had a plan even in this dire circumstance, and Neal was committed to love Robin, no matter what it would take.

Robin survived the surgery, and Neal kept his commitment to love. Day after day, he sat with Robin and spoke to her and nurtured her. Little by little, he loved her to unexpected restoration. Robin learned to speak haltingly and began to be able to use her hands and arms again. She has even taken a few victorious steps on her own. Almost every weekend at church, there they are - Neal, a shining example of overcoming love, and Robin, a powerful example of overwhelming courage and faith. Robin sometimes wonders just what she can accomplish for God in a wheelchair. The truth is, she speaks a life-changing sermon on the power of love by her mere presence. Those who have been involved in Robin's care see her life as a miracle. The greatest miracle, they say, isn't in the healing (they've seen bodies healed before) but in the love. This is the love of a couple who made the choice to continue to love, even in the most crushing of circumstances - Neal having chosen to practice sacrificial love in a marriage that wasn't close to what he and Robin had dreamed it would be, and Robin having chosen to accept and return Neal's love rather than allowing her own hurt to push him away.

Relationships are filled with both wonder and pain. When I think of the pain of relationships, literally hundreds of pictures flood into my mind from my thirty years as a pastor:

a couple on the verge of a divorce neither one wants yet both are choosing

parents who can't get through to their child, no matter how much time, money, and heartache they invest

a son whose dad has treated him with the cruel contempt of abuse

a friend whose feeling of betrayal is so deep that she never wants to trust anyone again

When I consider the wonder of relationships, I am equally overwhelmed:

a marriage no one thought could be restored - but it was

friendships in a small group that have become the bedrock of life a family that would surely fall apart when the pressure of an illness hit - and yet they all came together in the most amazing way

When Jesus came to this earth, he demonstrated that he understands both the wonder and the pain of your relationships. He experienced them both. He came to begin a new relationship with you - a relationship that will strengthen all your relationships. Jesus came to show you how to enjoy a new way of relating to God and to others. For these next forty days, we're going to focus on what Jesus did and what Jesus taught about relationships. Each week, we will focus on one of six basic relationship principles of Jesus.

Where Do We Begin?

We begin our journey with Jesus' teaching about priorities. Here's the truth Jesus taught us: Nothing is more important than relationships.

I don't remember the time or the place or the conference, but the question the moderator asked has stuck in my mind. What I recall most vividly is the answer that immediately flashed into my thoughts.

Here is the question:

Suppose you're in a rubber life raft with a friend. You're approaching an island. The raft is leaking, and you are within sight of land. In the raft with you are a set of signal flares, a week's supply of canned food, and a five gallon container of water. You must throw one of these items overboard if you're going to make it to the island. Which one do you choose?

I have to admit, the first answer that hit me was "the friend."

Now don't sit there with a pious "I've never thought anything like that" look! This silly thought that leaped into my mind was a reminder of how easy it is to value things over people. And who among us hasn't struggled with that feeling?

Priorities become most important when we must make choices. If we had enough time to do everything, everything could be a priority. But we don't have enough time to do everything. If we had the power to do every good thing we wanted to do, our choices wouldn't be so important. But we can't do every good thing we want to do.

When Jesus spoke about the priority of relationships, he could not have been clearer. He taught that relationships must be given the highest of values - and thankfully he also taught us how to give our relationships the highest value.

Experience the Truth

Throughout this book, we will come back again and again to experiences from the life of Jesus. I encourage you to allow these stories from the Gospels to draw you in! These relationship events from Jesus' life provide an opportunity to learn from the relationship expert. Consider what it would have been like to be an eyewitness to the things Jesus taught and did. As you read this experience from the life of Jesus, put yourself there in the crowd with Jesus on that day long ago.

Jesus' simple, clear answer to this question has the power to take our breath away. By choosing these two commands as the most important of all of the Old Testament commands, Jesus tells us how deeply he values relationships. He values our relationship with God, and he values our relationships with each other. Lesson one in Jesus' teaching about relationships is simply this: Nothing is more important than relationships!

From beginning to end, nothing is more important than relationships. In the beginning, God created you for relationships. He made you to relate to him and to others. Miss out on relationships, and you're missing the core reason for which God put you on this planet. And in the end, nothing is more important, because nothing will last longer than relationships. Your relationships with God and others will last all the way into eternity. Jesus knows full well that the swirling wonder and pain of our relationships tempt us to move them down our priority list. "Who needs this?" we say, and so reduce our lives to simple hobbies, tasks, and entertainments. That's not the answer! When I try to make less important that which is truly most important, it only causes more confusion. A life without relationships may well be a simpler life, but it is also an empty life. The path to the greatest life possible and the greatest joy possible is found in the priority that Jesus taught us to keep at the top of the list: Place the highest value on relationships.

Experience The Truth

One of the most noticeable things about Jesus' interactions with others is how people loved to ask him questions. Crowds press in with questions; Jesus' disciples call him aside for questions; and those who disagree with Jesus try to trap him with questions. It's easy to dislike this third group, and it often seems as though Jesus is wasting his time when talking with them. Doesn't he know that their questions are just thinly veiled attempts to trick him into saying something they can use to accuse him? Yet he patiently listens to their questions, and he answers them one by one.

This day the questions are coming fast and furious. One group asks a question about paying taxes; another group launches into a series of questions about marriage. Jesus' answers are brilliant and right to the heart, as always, but it seems that maybe it's time to move on and talk to some who are more open to what he has to say. Then a teacher from the edge of the crowd asks a question with a slightly different tone. There seems to be a genuineness to his question not heard from the others. He simply asks, "Of all the commandments, which is the most important?"

In Jesus' answer is the most important statement about relationships you'll ever hear. As Jesus speaks, he leaves no doubt as to the value he places on relationships:

"The most important [commandment] ... is this: ... 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.' The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'"

Based on Mark 12:28 - 34

DAY ONE

Thinking about My Relationships

Point to Ponder: Place the highest value on relationships.

Verse to Remember: "The most important [commandment]," answered Jesus, "is this: ... 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.' The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself'" (Mark 12:29 - 31).

Question to Consider: Have I asked Jesus if what I'm doing is what's most important?

Tomorrow: The attraction of lesser things

(Continues...)



Excerpted from The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay
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Table of Contents

Contents Foreword by Rick Warren....................11
Introduction....................15
RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE #1 Place the Highest Value on Relationships DAY 1 Nothing Is More Important Than Relationships....................21
DAY 2 The Attraction of Lesser Things....................29
DAY 3 Love God with All Your Heart....................41
DAY 4 Love God with All Your Soul....................49
DAY 5 Love God with All Your Mind and Strength....................57
DAY 6 Love Everyone as Your Neighbor....................65
DAY 7 Love Someone as Your Neighbor....................73
RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE #2 Love as Jesus Loves You DAY 8 The Impossible Challenge....................81
DAY 9 The Power of Jesus' Command....................89
DAY 10 The Power of New....................95
DAY 11 Feelings Are Important!....................101
DAY 12 Act Immediately, Act Radically....................109
DAY 13 Choose to Fellowship, Choose to Forgive....................117
DAY 14 Choose to Accept, Choose to Sacrifice....................125
RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE #3 Communicate from the Heart DAY 15 Communication Isn't Easy!....................137
DAY 16 The Foundation Is Trust....................145
DAY 17 The Connection between Mouth and Heart....................153
DAY 18 A New Kind of Honesty....................159
DAY 19 God Is in the Conversation....................167
DAY 20 How to Be Truly Heard....................175
DAY 21 Troubleshooting Communication....................183
RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE #4 As You Judge, You Will Be Judged DAY 22 The Danger of Judgment....................195
DAY 23 Say No toHypocrisy....................201
DAY 24 Say Yes to Integrity....................207
DAY 25 Say Now to Mercy....................213
DAY 26 Understanding God's Mercy....................223
DAY 27 Understanding God's Judgment....................229
DAY 28 Seeing the Truth about Yourself....................239
RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE #5 The Greatest Are the Servants DAY 29 The Desire to Be Great....................251
DAY 30 How Humility Handles Ambition....................257
DAY 31 How Humility Handles Our Need to Be Noticed....................263
DAY 32 How Humility Handles Our Tendency to Compare....................271
DAY 33 How Humility Handles Our Relationship with God....................277
DAY 34 Vine and Branches....................283
DAY 35 The Daily Decision of Humility....................289
RELATIONSHIP PRINCIPLE #6 Treat Others as You Want Them to Treat You DAY 36 The Big Question....................297
DAY 37 Love Is Sacrificial....................303
DAY 38 Love Your Enemies....................309
DAY 39 Forget the Ideal, Go for the Real....................317
DAY 40 The Relationship Principles of Jesus....................323
APPENDIX 1: Questions for Friends, Couples, and Small Groups....................327
APPENDIX 2: Bible Versions....................334
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    How would Jesus love?

    This book, written by a teaching pastor of the Saddleback Church, is solidly evangelical and scriptural in its viewpoint. It is laid out in 40 daily meditations. There is a study guide available the two can easily be used for a small group program.

    Each of the meditations is a deeper study of how Jesus related to various people during his ministry and gives concrete examples of how to apply the principles to modern life. There are also suggestions about projects for the group/individual to act upon, so it is not just an intellectual exercise.

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