The Second Half of Marriage: Facing the Eight Challenges of the Empty-Nest Years

The Second Half of Marriage: Facing the Eight Challenges of the Empty-Nest Years

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by David and Claudia Arp, Dave Arp
     
 

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Your children are gone or leaving soon. It's time to focus once again on your own future and especially on your marriage. What's in store for the second half? David and Claudia Arp provide answers and practical help in this groundbreaking book. Drawing on their national survey of hundreds of "second-half" couples, the Arps reveal eight marital challenges every…  See more details below

Overview

Your children are gone or leaving soon. It's time to focus once again on your own future and especially on your marriage. What's in store for the second half? David and Claudia Arp provide answers and practical help in this groundbreaking book. Drawing on their national survey of hundreds of "second-half" couples, the Arps reveal eight marital challenges every long-term marriage faces, and they offer strategies and exercises for meeting each of them. The Second Half of Marriage will challenge you to create a vision for the rest of your life together -- and inspire you to make that vision a reality.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780310219354
Publisher:
Zondervan
Publication date:
01/01/1998
Series:
Second Half of MarriageSeries Series
Pages:
256
Sales rank:
751,530
Product dimensions:
6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.70(d)
Age Range:
18 Years

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The Second Half of Marriage

Facing the Eight Challenges of the Empty-Nest Years with Other
By David Arp

Zondervan Publishing Company

Copyright © 1998 David Arp
All right reserved.

ISBN: 0310219353


Chapter One

Session 1

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Getting Ready for the Second Half

Overview of This Session

During today's session we will be discussing:

Symptoms of the second half of marriage

What other couples report as being important to them in marriage

Taking your own survey

Video Clip Notes

Marriage Forum

Why are you taking this class? What do you hope to gain as a result? Are you approaching the beginning of the second half of your marriage, or are you in the middle of it? Is your nest in the process of emptying, or has it just refilled? Perhaps you're in a new marriage but you're in midlife or beyond.

One on One

Look at the survey results on pages 34-35. Find your age group for each of the charts given, and share your reactions to each one.

My Reflection Time

Take a moment to complete the Marriage Builder ("Surveying the Second Half of Marriage") on page 47. There is another survey form on page 217 for you to copy and use at later dates, as you desire.

One on One

Share your survey with your spouse. Remember, your spouse may see things differently than you do.

Identify those areas where your responses are within one point of each other-areas you mutually agree are relatively good, neutral, or need attention.

Identify those areas where you mildly disagree-a 2-3 point difference. Find out why your spouse rated that category the way he or she did. If it is an area you believe needs further discussion, place a check mark to the left of the category for future reference.

Identify those areas where there is a drastic difference of opinion. Definitely flag those areas but save for later discussion. In challenges 2 and 3 we will learn new skills for discussing our differences in a productive, non-attacking way. For now we're simply performing a marriage checkup and looking at our relationship as it is presently.

Go over your responses to questions 1-4 that follow the survey. Again, remember that your spouse may very well see things from a different perspective. The objective is not to change your spouse's opinion to match yours. It is rather to help each of you understand the other's viewpoint.



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Meet the Author

Claudia Arp and David Arp, MSW, founders of Marriage Alive, are authors of numerous books with more than 1,000,000 in print including the award-winning 10 Great Dates series and The Second Half of Marriage. The Arps have been featured in media like The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Time Magazine, and on NBC Today, CBS This Morning, and PBS. When they are not writing or speaking, you’ll probably find them hiking trails in Northern Virginia where they live or in the Austrian Alps where they love to write and hike. Visit them at www.10GreatDates.org.

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