The Seven Dumbest Relationship Mistakes That Smart People Make

The Seven Dumbest Relationship Mistakes That Smart People Make

by Carolyn N. Bushong
     
 
A psychotherapist with over twenty years' experience, Carolyn Bushong is the host of the popular Denver radio show Passion Phones, as well as a frequent guest expert on such television programs as Oprah, Sally Jesse Raphael, and Ricki! In her many years of practice and media experience, Carolyn found that women were facing the same seven

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A psychotherapist with over twenty years' experience, Carolyn Bushong is the host of the popular Denver radio show Passion Phones, as well as a frequent guest expert on such television programs as Oprah, Sally Jesse Raphael, and Ricki! In her many years of practice and media experience, Carolyn found that women were facing the same seven problems in their relationships, over and over again. They look for approval in all the wrong places, get stuck in communications purgatory, tango with ghosts from the past, develop relationship gridlock, and forget about the real power of passion.

Illustrated with case histories of couples who have had these troubles and then solved them (or didn't) The Seven Dumbest Relationship Mistakes Smart People Make is a book that will ring true to men and women all over the country, and help them to develop healthier, more lasting relationships.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
While the "smart people, dumb mistakes" approach has been overused, this clear, honest and practical guide is smarter than its title. Bushong (Loving Him Without Losing You) is a veteran Denver psychotherapist and radio talk-show host whose practice focuses on relationships. She takes the unusual stand that "what is considered normal is not always healthy," and encourages readers to create and maintain relationships that are different than the norm. Bushong offers background on how and why people sabotage their relationships with unrealistic beliefs and poor role models from childhood. The resulting "seven mistakes" she sees most commonly in her practice include: forcing intimacy; expecting your mate to read your mind; playing the martyr; thinking you are always right; rescuing your mate; taking your mate for granted; and letting passion die. Explaining how to avoid and repair each mistake, Bushong encourages healthy personal boundaries along with an "It's you and me against the world" attitude toward primary relationships. She addresses herself directly to women in relationships with men, treating her readership as strong, smart and competent, and shows them how to balance taking and giving. Bushong's is a refreshing voice in the crowded field of relationship advice to women. Author tour. (June)
Library Journal
Shah, whose main claims to authority seem to be that he worked for Playboy and has had many failed relationships, has put together a self-indulgent book. He outlines the build-up and fall-down of his 13-year relationship with "Carmen." In the course of this expos, he spouts unproven theories about women and relationships that are regressive enough to make even Phyllis Schlafly blush. As if the content weren't bad enough, the writing style seems to be more Penthouse than Playboy: "The three days that followed saw us making love in every corner of my apartment, even at the top of the San Ynez mountains." It seems that Shah and "Carmen" could have benefited from reading Bushong's book. Bushong, a psychotherapist with years of media experience, has put together a no-frills guide to keeping relationships honest. She could well be called the great enumerator; in addition to the seven dumb mistakes, she includes the "16 essential elements of a healthy relationship," "four steps to healthy communication," "five great intimacy builders," and so on. There's not a lot surprising or controversial in this book, but it is clearly written, and most of the advice rings true. Most public libraries could benefit from acquiring Bushong's book, but Shah's book is not recommended.Pamela A. Matthews, Univ. of Maryland Lib., Baltimore

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780679448297
Publisher:
Random House Publishing Group
Publication date:
05/13/1997
Edition description:
1 ED
Pages:
230
Product dimensions:
6.44(w) x 9.55(h) x 0.94(d)

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Meet the Author

Carolyn N. Bushong's first book, published by Continuum Press, was Loving Him Without Losing You, a regional bestseller. She has written for many publications, including New Woman, Cosmopolitan, and The Rocky Mountain News. She lives in Denver, Colorado.

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