...but you didn't know where to start. If that's you,
than this could be the most important letter you ever read.
You could cut the tension in your home with a knife.
You love your spouse, and they love you. You've been married for years, and at one time happily. But now it's just a memory; and you can't believe this is happening to YOU.
How did it happen? Where did your marriage skid off course? More importantly, can your relationship ever be restored to the way it was on your honeymoon?
What if you just gave up? Say you went forward with a divorce. Is that really what you want? What if you could save your marriage when you...
--Wash away the negative thoughts that are chipping away at your relationship.
--Follow the unwritten 2nd contract of marriage that successful couples do.
--Restart the conversation that has stalled behind hurt feelings.
--And more relationship-saving strategies that have proven to bring couples back together!
If you didn't act to save your marriage, could you ever forgive yourself?
You didn't think it'd end up this way on your wedding day.
But now you can't get a straight answer. Their sarcasm hurts. And making one simple request feels like you're asking them to do the impossible. Like you want them to throw a rope around Venus and pull it down or something.
Most marriages start to fail when you stop listening to each other. There's a lack of respect between you. And sexual intimacy isn't doing so hot either. Does that sound familiar?
They never want to admit to being wrong. Say one thing and do another.(i.e. "I'll change"). You suspect they're not always being honest. And maybe you're guilty of some of these things as well.
What Every Married Couple Ought To Know About Divorce
In situations like this, it's no wonder why people think divorce is the only way out. (But I know that when most people think they want a divorce, what they really want is a change.)
There's a real ugly side to divorce. It’s the easy way out. Unraveling what took years to nurture.
And the people who benefit most are the greedy lawyers who will use every trick in the book to try and destroy your partner's life. (And vice versa.)
The truth is, divorce rarely makes you happier. And usually leads to being even more miserable. What can hurt more than leaving the person you love?
To People Who Want To Save Their Marriage - But Don't Know Where To Start
In the late 80's some researchers started collecting contact information from unhappy married couples. Five years later, 86% of the couples who stayed together were more happy than they were before. Things DO get better.