The Smart Stepfamily Marriage: Keys to Success in the Blended Family

The Smart Stepfamily Marriage: Keys to Success in the Blended Family

The Smart Stepfamily Marriage: Keys to Success in the Blended Family

The Smart Stepfamily Marriage: Keys to Success in the Blended Family

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Make This Marriage Last a Lifetime

Leading blended family authority Ron Deal and marriage and family expert David Olson show you how to build on your relationship strengths and improve your weaknesses. Whether you're dating, engaged, a young stepfamily, or an empty-nest couple, The Smart Stepfamily Marriage gives you the tools you need at any stage to create a remarriage that will last.

Each chapter of this book explores one of the key qualities of happy remarriages as identified by research. Like a GPS for your relationship, this book has built-in discussion questions that can help you and your partner discover where you are, where you'd like to be, and how to get there. The online survey gives you a report with personalized results for your relationship.

"The Smart Stepfamily Marriage is the road map to a healthy marriage."—Gary D. Chapman, PhD, author, The Five Love Languages and When Sorry Isn't Enough

"Remarried or marrying again? This book is loaded with specific, useful ideas for helping your marriage reach its full potential."—Scott Stanley, PhD, author, A Lasting Promise; research professor, University of Denver

"This book is a must-read for any remarried couple. It includes the tools needed to create and maintain a wonderful remarriage."—from the foreword by Evelyn Husband Thompson, widow of Space Shuttle Columbia Commander Rick Husband, now remarried to Bill Thompson

"The Smart Stepfamily Marriage is the most up-to-date, relevant, complete guide for remarried couples—I know of no other resource like it."—Francesca Adler-Baeder, PhD, professor and director, Center for Children, Youth, and Families, Auburn University; director, National Stepfamily Resource Center

"This book will help you thrive in your marriage and beat the odds of divorce. The preventative information is the best I have ever seen, and the practical application covers it all. I have put The Smart Stepfamily Marriage at the top of my resource library for couples who find themselves in this beautiful and yet challenging world of remarriage."—Jim Burns, PhD, president, HomeWord, author of Creating an Intimate Marriage, Confident Parenting, and The Purity Code

"Remarriages have unique challenges and different relational needs than first marriages. Based on a national study of 50,000 couples, this book is a wonderful resource for remarriage couples. Take the online Couple Checkup and get a report about your relationship, read the book, and build a relationship that lasts!"—Dr. Gary Smalley, author of The DNA of Relationships

"You want a marriage that lasts forever, right? Blended family couples can beat the odds—this book will tell you how."—Dr. Dennis Rainey, president of FamilyLife, author of Stepping Up

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780764213090
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 05/19/2015
Edition description: UK ed.
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 526,770
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Ron L. Deal is founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, Director of FamilyLife Blended™, the author of The Smart Stepfamily, The Smart Stepdad, and Dating and the Single Parent, and coauthor of The Smart Stepmom. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist who frequently appears in the national media, including FamilyLife Today, Focus on the Family, and The 700 Club. Ron and his wife, Nan, and their sons live in Little Rock, Arkansas. For more information, visit and

David H. Olson, PhD, is founder and president of Life Innovations, which produces a variety of products designed to build stronger marriages. A national and international marriage and family expert, Olson is professor emeritus at the University of Minnesota and the author of more than twenty books. Dr. Olson has appeared on a variety of television programs including Today, The Early Show, Good Morning America, and Oprah. He lives in suburban St. Paul, Minnesota.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 11

Foreword 13

Preface: Discover Your Couple Positioning System (CPS) 17

1 Checkup and Check-in 21

2 Building on Your Strengths 29

3 Beating the Odds of Divorce: The Step-family Connection 43

4 Positioning Yourself for Change 51

5 Mapping Closeness and Flexibility 65

6 Eyes Wide Open: Finding Realistic Expectations 87

7 Children and Parenting: When Kids Are Part of the Package 101

8 SCOPE Out Your Personalities, With Peter J. Larson, PhD 119

9 The Vital Importance of Healthy Communication 139

10 Managing the Fires of Conflict 157

11 Extinguishing the Fires of Conflict 169

12 Leisure: Maximize Your Fun Factor 185

13 Remarriage Finances: Yours, Mine, and Oursf 191

14 The Sex Connection 207

15 Finding Your Spiritual Core 223

16 Can We Get There From Here? 233

Appendix A National Sample of Couples and Remarriage 239

Appendix B If You Have Ongoing Relationship Problems: Finding Help When You Need It 243

Notes 247

About the Authors 253

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