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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
     

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

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by Mark Manson
 

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New York Times Bestseller

In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.

For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k

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New York Times Bestseller

In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.

For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.

Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Editorial Reviews

The New York Times Book Review - Judith Newman
I had to get past my disdain for potty-mouth-as-marketing-tool to open The Subtle Art…and I'm glad I did…Manson devotes a lot of time to explaining what a jerk he was while growing up, and how his screw-ups ultimately compelled him to be a better person—which made him a happier person. Happier, not deliriously happy. The Subtle Art is not so much about finding happiness as about finding adulthood—which is not so terrible, when you think about it.
Ryan Holiday
“Resilience, happiness and freedom come from knowing what to care about--and most importantly, what not to care about. This is a masterful, philosophical and practical book that will give readers the wisdom to be able to do just that.”
Matt Kepnes
“Mark’s ability to dig deep and offer amazing, yet counter-intuitive, insight into the challenges of life makes him one of my favorite writers, and this book is his best work yet.”
Steve Kamb
“This book hits you like a much-needed slap in the face from your best friend: hilarious, vulgar, and immensely thought-provoking. Only read if you’re willing to set aside all excuses and take an active role in living a f***ing better life.”
Derek Sivers
“The opposite of every other book. Don’t try. Give up. Be wrong. Lower your standards. Stop believing in yourself. Follow the pain. Each point is profoundly true, useful, and more powerful than the usual positivity. Succinct but surprisingly deep, I read it in one night.”
-Ryan Holiday
“Resilience, happiness and freedom come from knowing what to care about--and most importantly, what not to care about. This is a masterful, philosophical and practical book that will give readers the wisdom to be able to do just that.”
-Matt Kepnes
“Mark’s ability to dig deep and offer amazing, yet counter-intuitive, insight into the challenges of life makes him one of my favorite writers, and this book is his best work yet.”
-Steve Kamb
“This book hits you like a much-needed slap in the face from your best friend: hilarious, vulgar, and immensely thought-provoking. Only read if you’re willing to set aside all excuses and take an active role in living a f***ing better life.”
Kirkus Reviews
2016-07-04
An in-your-face guide to living with integrity and finding happiness in sometimes-painful places.Popular blogger Manson (Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, 2011) criticizes self-help books for their fundamentally flawed approach of telling readers they're special, assuring them that they can surpass—but, notably, not solve—problems, and encouraging them to embrace their exceptionalism. The author sternly disagrees, showing readers "how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed values." Unlike simple affirmations or personal growth books designed to flatter or soothe, Manson urges readers to "change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success.” Having better values creates better problems to solve, and those achievements will lead to a legitimately improved life. Throughout, the author continually slaps readers sharply across the face, using blunt, funny, and deceptively offhand language when expanding on his key principle: "Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different….There’s absolutely nothing admirable or confident about indifference. People who are indifferent are lame and scared. They’re couch potatoes and Internet trolls….They hide in a gray, emotionless pit of their own making, self-absorbed and self-pitying, perpetually distracting themselves from this unfortunate thing demanding their time and energy called life.” Manson's cheeky but thoughtful opinions combine with in-depth advice in such sections as "You're Wrong About Anything (But So Am I)" and "How To Be a Little Less Certain of Yourself” (hint: “if it’s down to me being screwed up, or everybody else being screwed up, it is far, far, far more likely that I’m the one who’s screwed up”). This book, full of counterintuitive suggestions that often make great sense, is a pleasure to read and worthy of rereading. A good yardstick by which self-improvement books should be measured.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780062457738
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
09/13/2016
Sold by:
HARPERCOLLINS
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
224
Sales rank:
658
File size:
529 KB

Meet the Author

Mark Manson is a star blogger with more than two million readers. He lives in New York City.

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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 5 reviews.
Anonymous 11 months ago
Mark Manson has given us a lot to think about in this book. Although I am in no way close to being completely comfortabe with all things in life I have found that a lot of the concepts in this book give me ways of finding that comfort. I do feel after reading it a bit lighter and not so anxious about past failures. I think it also made me less likely to be judgmental of others. Thank you Mr. Manson for sharing your insight and wisdom with the rest of us. Only good will come from it.
Anonymous 4 months ago
This book, especially given my recent life changing events of. A. Returning to college at university. B. Divorce after nine years C. Failed business. D. Leaving the military after nine years. Was one of the books I happened to stumble upon and really truly cried at the end. I am better not perfect at really embracing what is truly a priority in life and what is not. What will be your legacy? Are your values lined up right? Or are poor values tripping you up? This book is a roller coaster of emotion, leaving you wanting more. 5 stars.
Anonymous 12 days ago
This has made slme very self aware, it even drove me to gping on a life journey and almost dying of hypothermia (just read avoiding pain is pain before reading have your suffering have meaning). Regret taking the ambulence, but not the act itself.
Anonymous 4 months ago
I liked this book a lot. Mark Manson says a number of interesting ideas. But I’m sure that most people will not be able to use his ideas in real life; they’re too philosophical. For me, this book works better together with “Secret Techniques for Controlling Sadness, Anger, Fear, Anxiety, and Other Emotions,” which is a very practical guide for mind state regulation. I highly recommend both these books.
chadbordes More than 1 year ago
Often times we feel that we need to be exceptional and great. We read self help books that tell us to attract positivity and love and money into our lives. We are taught that people should be more fair and caring and that everything is going to “be okay” Mark tends to push that envelope and say, life isn’t fair and that we have to choose the f*cks that we give and begin to accept that at some point we are all going to die. He gently reminds us that it's our ego impedes our ability to take chances and that by not committing to something, we are essentially being counterproductive. He lets us know as well as that it is okay to get your feelings hurt every so often. When we stop skirting around the issues, we can be liberated and free to live life and give the f*cks that need to be given. This is a wonderful read and a great gauge for where you stand in a modern world. I highly recommend this book to anyone and send a big thanks to Mark for giving a “f*ck” enough to share his brilliant insight.