The Tender Scar: Life after the Death of a Spouse

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Offering hope and healing for the broken-hearted, The Tender Scar addresses the heart-wrenching pain of loosing a spouse. Using journal entries written after the death of his wife, Dr. Richard Mabry uses his own journey as a stepping-stone to a practical discussion of the ...

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Overview

Offering hope and healing for the broken-hearted, The Tender Scar addresses the heart-wrenching pain of loosing a spouse. Using journal entries written after the death of his wife, Dr. Richard Mabry uses his own journey as a stepping-stone to a practical discussion of the grief process, offering help on such topics as:

  • Finding a support group
  • Resigning your commission
  • Combating funeral flashbacks
  • Reviewing the souvenirs of a lifetime
  • Facing holidays
  • Remembering an anniversary

He connects with the reader in a way that makes them say, “Yes, I feel that way,” and “That might work for me—maybe I should try it.” He shares the emotions and situations he encountered, and acknowledges his own mistakes as well as his hard-won victories.

“These are powerful words won in the conflict between heartbreak and healing. They are authoritative inasmuch as Dr. Mabry speaks from the trench and not the pulpit.”

—Dr. Dan L. Griffin
Pastor of Christ Fellowship Baptist Church
Arlington, Texas

Richard L. Mabry, MD, has a background that includes more than thirty-five years of medical practice, both as a private practitioner and a professor at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center. He has authored three best-selling medical textbooks and edited two others. A deacon at his home church, Richard has taught several Bible courses and Sunday School classes over the years. Though now retired, he is still in great demand as a speaker and teacher both in the United States and abroad.

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Editorial Reviews

Agape Press
The Tender Scar should be purchased and given to anyone you care about who has lost a spouse. It offers valid, genuine help that well-meaning friends often cannot provide. It also gives the contact information for support groups. This is also a very valuable book for all pastors, counselors, ministers, and chaplains who so often deal with death issues.
— Rev. Austin Miles
americandaily.com
The Tender Scar should be bought and given to anyone you care about who has lost a spouse. It offers valid, genuine help that well-meaning friends often cannot provide. It also gives the contact information for support groups. This is also a very valuable book for all pastors, counselors, ministers and chaplains who so often deal with death issues. Reading this book will compel you to rethink how important your husband, wife or companion is. It will spur you to make every minute count with your spouse even if it means turning off your favorite program in order to pay full attention to a soul mate who at that moment wants to talk.
— Rev. Austin Miles
Baptist Standard
After reading this book, the grieving widow or widower—indeed anyone suffering the sting of a loved ones' deathóin left with the assurance that, although the scar left behind is tender, healing is possible.
— Dan Griffin
DJ Picks
He understands how gut-wrenching holidays and other social events can be without your loved one. If you've lost your spouse, get this book. If you know someone who recently lost a spouse, give this book (but first read it yourself—it will make you a better friend to the grief-stricken).
— Sue Kline
The Lamplighter
Thank goodness. The author of The Tender Scar has the ability to put into words his deepest feelings of when his wife of many years suffered a stroke and never recovered . . . . Richard Mabry, the author, was a teaching physician for 35 years but he knew he must share his grief with others such as his pastor, friends and family members. Not only did he keep a near daily journal of his feelings, he shared them word for word by means of e-mail. Each of the 26 chapters includes a verbatim copy of his e-mail to either his children or closest friends and he includes with each a Bible reference and a prayer . . . . I thoroughly appreciated this book and I recommend family members of all ages to read it, particularly members of the older generations. I further recommend that it be placed in our church library to be accessible for all to read.
— Gene Ludtke
Agape Press - Austin Miles
"The Tender Scar should be bought and given to anyone you care about who has lost a spouse. It offers valid, genuine help that well-meaning friends often cannot provide. It also gives the contact information for support groups. This is also a very valuable book for all pastors, counselors, ministers and chaplains who so often deal with death issues. Reading this book will compel you to rethink how important your husband, wife or companion is. It will spur you to make every minute count with your spouse even if it means turning off your favorite program in order to pay full attention to a soul mate who at that moment wants to talk."
Baptist Standard - Dan Griffin
After reading this book, the grieving widow or widoweróindeed anyone suffering the sting of a loved ones' deathóin left with the assurance that, although the scar left behind is tender, healing is possible.
DJ Picks - Sue Kline
He understands how gut-wrenching holidays and other social events can be without your loved one. If you've lost your spouse, get this book. If you know someone who recently lost a spouse, give this book (but first read it yourselfóit will make you a better friend to the grief-stricken).
The Lamplighter - Gene Ludtke
Thank goodness. The author of The Tender Scar has the ability to put into words his deepest feelings of when his wife of many years suffered a stroke and never recovered . . . . Richard Mabry, the author, was a teaching physician for 35 years but he knew he must share his grief with others such as his pastor, friends and family members. Not only did he keep a near daily journal of his feelings, he shared them word for word by means of e-mail. Each of the 26 chapters includes a verbatim copy of his e-mail to either his children or closest friends and he includes with each a Bible reference and a prayer . . . . I thoroughly appreciated this book and I recommend family members of all ages to read it, particularly members of the older generations. I further recommend that it be placed in our church library to be accessible for all to read.
Agape Press - Rev. Austin Miles
"The Tender Scar should be bought and given to anyone you care about who has lost a spouse. It offers valid, genuine help that well-meaning friends often cannot provide. It also gives the contact information for support groups. This is also a very valuable book for all pastors, counselors, ministers and chaplains who so often deal with death issues. Reading this book will compel you to rethink how important your husband, wife or companion is. It will spur you to make every minute count with your spouse even if it means turning off your favorite program in order to pay full attention to a soul mate who at that moment wants to talk."
Baptist Standard
After reading this book, the grieving widow or widoweróindeed anyone suffering the sting of a loved ones' deathóin left with the assurance that, although the scar left behind is tender, healing is possible.
— Dan Griffin
americandaily.com
"The Tender Scar should be bought and given to anyone you care about who has lost a spouse. It offers valid, genuine help that well-meaning friends often cannot provide. It also gives the contact information for support groups. This is also a very valuable book for all pastors, counselors, ministers and chaplains who so often deal with death issues. Reading this book will compel you to rethink how important your husband, wife or companion is. It will spur you to make every minute count with your spouse even if it means turning off your favorite program in order to pay full attention to a soul mate who at that moment wants to talk."
— Rev. Austin Miles
DJ Picks
He understands how gut-wrenching holidays and other social events can be without your loved one. If you've lost your spouse, get this book. If you know someone who recently lost a spouse, give this book (but first read it yourselfóit will make you a better friend to the grief-stricken).
— Sue Kline
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780825433405
  • Publisher: Kregel Publications
  • Publication date: 3/28/2006
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 112
  • Sales rank: 309,526
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.30 (h) x 0.30 (d)

Meet the Author

Richard L. Mabry, M.D., has a background that includes more than thirty-five years of medical practice, both as a private practitioner and a professor at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center. He has authored three bestselling medical textbooks and edited two others. Though now retired, he is still in great demand as a speaker and teacher both in the United States and abroad.
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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 2, 2006

    From The Author

    When my wife of forty years died, I was devastated. I used my journal entries over the next two years as the basis for a book that details the problems I encountered and how I faced them. I wrote about my successes and my failures, and gave the most practical advice possible, based on my experience. The reports I've received since the publication of the book confirm that it provides material that will help anyone who has lost a spouse in their journey through the terrible weeks and months that follow. I had to give the book a rating in order to post this information, so I used the rating given it by every reader to whom I have talked. I hope you find it helpful, as well.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 1, 2013

    I bought this book after my husband of 40 years passed away unex

    I bought this book after my husband of 40 years passed away unexpected. I read it probably 5 or 6 times. It really spoke to me. I recommend this book to anyone who has lost a spouse.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 22, 2008

    Wish I had it sooner!

    Everyone should read this. If you haven't lost a spouse it will help to understand those that have. I lost my husband two months ago (June 2008) after 42 years of marriage. So many of Dr. Mabry's suggestions I had already done so it helped me to know I wasn't crazy. Changing furniture around, writing letters to my husband, etc. It was as if I had written the book because it explained my feelings so well. I read it twice through the first night I had it. Thanks, Dr. Mabry!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 27, 2008

    good read

    A good book but can be like a lot of other grief books repeats same things as other general books. I enjoyed reading it but I have read other books similiar to this one.

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