Territory of Men: A Memoir / Edition 1by Joelle Fraser
Pub. Date: 07/08/2003
Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
Born into the turmoil of mid-sixties San Francisco, the daughter of a flower child and a surfer, Joelle Fraser grew up with no bedtime, no boundaries, and no father. But “dads” she had in abundance, as her mother worked her way through boyfriends and husbands, caught between the traditional rules of her upbringing and the new freedoms of the “me generation” and women’s lib. Moving every few months, from houseboats and beach shacks to run-down apartments, Joelle came to learn that a woman’s life, free or not, is played out on men’s territory.
Set in northern California, Hawaii, and the small coastal towns of Oregon, Fraser’s engrossing memoir captures this centerless childhood in wonderfully vivid, frank writing, then goes on to show how a legacy like this affects a girl as she grows up. Pretty, blond, precociously aware of her own sexuality, Joelle was drawn to men early, eager to unlock their mysteries. Working in bars, prisons, and firing ranges, she liked to hang out where they congregated. To her the only worlds that counted were men’s worlds. Men held the power; they made life matter.
Fraser’s sharp vignettes of her intense relationships, brief, turbulent marriage, and itinerant life are haunting echoes of her early memories. In The Territory of Men, she brilliantly portrays the way a rootless childhood leads to a restless adulthood, and how a mother’s aimless life serves as a blueprint for her daughter.
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The book The Territory of Men is a memoir of Joelle Fraser¿s life. She starts from when she was born and ends when she is in her 30¿s. Fraser was very descriptive. She kept me reading her book by the way she described each person or object. I would read another one of her books if she has any or if I come across any. This book only took me a couple days to read. My favorite parts were when she was describing her young childhood and when she was in high school. The way she ended the book was very good. There was only one chapter of the book that I didn¿t like. With the way she described her childhood to when she was an adult, showed she had a very rough life. But that didn¿t stop her from what she wanted and loving everyone.
I think this book was a good classification in a way. It classified all the different types of men a woman could date and how each of them have their own appeal. It was different than what I thought it would be but not in a bad way. It showed how the relationship between a mother and a daughter and the relationship between a father and a daughter can influence how the daughter lives her life and the different types of men she would date because of those relationships. It was about the life of a little girl growing up, times changing, and how parents react to different problems. It was also in a way, about the mother and how she lived her life, all the different men she dated and how she finally deals with that. I think the way the mother reacted to men and dealt with men influenced the daughter MAJORLY in the way that SHE dated men. It was a good book overall and I hope parents will read it so they know what kind of influence they really truly have on their kids.
Words cannot be put into what I feel about this book. It is so diffrent than anything I have ever read. This book is about a girl that grew up in the 60's and 70's. So she would be old enough to be my mother. Lots of diffrent things happen in that time period that she fell into. I can't really relate to what this girl is going through because I haven't done the things or gone through the things that she has gone through. I think the only thing that we have in common is that her mother has been divorced a number of times and remarried and my mother has been divorced and remarried. Even though this girl has lived a totaly diffrent life than me it seens as though I can relate to her. She is such a good writer that I can feel what she feel and know what she knows. It was as though I was there with her in the book. In some cases I don't understand the reason why she did the things she did, but I realize that how she grew up and the situations she grew up in, the reasons she does the things that she does was because it wasn't wrong or she was never taught that it was wrong. I thing that all girls should read this book if they get the chance to. It is the most interesting book I have ever read. It is great.
I really enjoyed this book. It was hard to put down. Being the same age as the author but raised in a more traditional conservative two parent family it was intresting to sense how my childhood, teens years and young adulthood differed from hers.
I was going to wait till next week to write this review, but the book was just to good. Disappointed I was to have missed the book signing here in Ukiah. In my line of work, which is seasonal the summer days get shuffled like a deck of cards. You never know for sure what's coming up next. Good excuse? Actually I just forgot. It slipped my mind. I knew when I read the advertisement in the local paper a few weeks earlier that I needed to be there. Something said don't miss this. Being a new writer and author I felt that I need to read this writers stuff. The day after the signing I tried to buy a copy, but the bookstore here in Ukiah had sold out. I was glad for the Author and perturbed at the same time. After all I am a man and I wanted my cake now. I waited a week for my copy to come. Intrigued, I read some parts twice. Coming of age for most of us can be horrifying, intimidating, painful and awkward, but necessary. Five stars to Joelle for trying to pinpoint men. We are territorial. I hadn't realized how much so until I got my first dog at age forty-three. Women have an advantage though. You have those secret metting where women congregate and share their ideals, thoughts, feling and give advice to each other. I wish as men we could do that. My grandmother when I was in my teens, and the lessons I learned on the streets of San Francisco helped to raise me in the sixties. Years later I raised two daughters, and thank Cod they escaped much of my sphere of influence; surviving without too much damage. I'm rambling on because Joelle's book gets you to think, frown, twist, turn, smile, spit and laugh at all the good and bad that's in her book and in our own lives. Nostalgic is a word that comes to mind, but it's not enough of a word to pinpoint her book. Cleverly written, honestly written. It is a good book for all men and women to read if one has inkling. Joelle paints many pictures of life that you may or may not relate to. But for sure she gets into your mind, heart, and even your sole and sometimes under your skin, but in a good way. Thanks Joelle.