The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships: Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspectives of Autism

The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships: Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspectives of Autism

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by Sean Barron, Temple Grandin
     
 
Silver Award Winner in the 2005 ForeWord Book of the Year Awards! Born with autism, both authors now famously live successful social lives. But their paths were very different. Temple's logical mind controlled her social behavior. She interacted with many adults and other children, experiencing varied social situations. Logic informed her decision to obey

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Silver Award Winner in the 2005 ForeWord Book of the Year Awards! Born with autism, both authors now famously live successful social lives. But their paths were very different. Temple's logical mind controlled her social behavior. She interacted with many adults and other children, experiencing varied social situations. Logic informed her decision to obey social rules and avoid unpleasant consequences. Sean's emotions controlled his social behavior. Baffled by social rules, isolated and friendless, he made up his own, and applied them to others. When they inevitably broke his rules, he felt worthless and unloved. Both Temple and Sean ultimately came to terms with the social world and found their places in it. Whether you are a person with autism, a caregiver in the autism community, or just someone interested in an "outsider" view of society, their powerful stories will enthrall and enlighten you. Helpful sections include:

  • Two Perspectives on Social Thinking
  • Two Minds: Two Paths
  • The Ten Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships, which include:
    • Rule #1: Rules are Not Absolute. They are Situation-based and People-based
    • Rule #2: Not Everything is Equally Important in the Grand Scheme of Things
    • Rule #3: Everyone in the World Makes Mistakes. It Doesn’t Have to Ruin Your Day.
    • Rule #4: Honesty is Different than Diplomacy
    • Rule #5: Being Polite is Appropriate in Any Situation
    • Rule #6: Not Everyone Who is Nice to Me is My Friend
    • Rule #7: People Act Differently in Public than They Do in Private
    • Rule #8: Know When You’re Turning People Off
    • Rule #9: “Fitting In” is Often Tied to Looking and Sounding Like You Fit In
    • Rule # 10: People are Responsible for Their Own Behaviors

       

     

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781935274476
Publisher:
Future Horizons, Inc.
Publication date:
12/01/2011
Series:
The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships Series
Sold by:
Barnes & Noble
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
383
Sales rank:
276,632
File size:
2 MB

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The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships: Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspectives of Autism 4.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book gives some great insight for people on both sides of the fence: those with and those without problems with social interaction. It is very difficult for somebody with Asperger's or ADHD to understand nonverbal cues. Likewise, most people that read nonverbal cues well are unaware that it can be a problem for anybody. Barron and Grandin explain concretely what the disconnects might be. In sum, this book opens many doors for whoever reads it.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago