The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us / Edition 2

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Overview


The Whole Lesbian Sex Book was the first-ever sex guide to offer information and encouragement for all women who desire women — lesbian, bisexual, butch, femme, androgynous, and transgender. First published in 1999, it’s been lauded for its thoroughness, enthusiastic tone, and creative, nonjudgmental approach to lesbian sex in all its rich variety. (Library Journal lamented, "Why can’t more heterosexual sex manuals be this good?") Now, five years later, sex educator Felice Newman has completely updated this classic guide. There is new information throughout, up-to-date research, fresh quotes from women who share their real-world experiences, a greatly expanded resource guide, new illustrations, and an entire new chapter on sex and partnership.

Topics include:
Where to find sex partners (and how to talk to your lovers about sex).
Discovering your desires and fantasies.
How to have all the orgasms you desire—G-spot orgasms, multiple orgasms, extended orgasms, and ejaculation.
Why communication is the most important erotic skill you can offer your partners.
How masturbation can improve your sex life.
Expert how-to information on cunnilingus, anal sex, vaginal fisting, and other favorite lesbian sex techniques.
How to choose vibrators, dildos, and harnesses, and get the most out of your sex toys.
And much more.

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Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

"Superb.… Sets a standard for which all popular sex writers should aim. Not just for lesbians—heterosexual women could learn a great deal about themselves, as could the men who aspire to please them." —Library Journal

"Infectious and empowering and extremely well researched. I highly recommend this book to every woman: bi, lesbian, almost queer, totally straight, or boy-girl. Getting off is good, and this book will help you get off better." —Bust

"A classic." —The Advocate

"The encyclopedia of lesbian sex that every good girl needs in her library." —On Our Backs

"The most complete, all-questions-answered, savvy guide to lesbian sex. Keep it next to the bed." —Good Vibrations

"Urban and diverse in topic, this new guide is a cool drink of water in a drought of good sex info for dykes. This book gives tips, toys and tidings you’ll wonder how you lived without." —Babeland

"Desire, fantasy, every twist and turn of the erotic imagination—it’s all here." —Planet Out

"Filled with great advice, practical support, and steamy, imaginative suggestions." —Girlfriends

"Felice Newman has her latex-covered finger on the clit of Lesbian Nation." —San Francisco Bay Guardian

"Kinky people may consider themselves past needing sex manuals, but anyone involved in a sexual relationship with a woman, be they male or female, would be well advised to study this book carefully." —Skin Two

"Up-to-date, inclusive, and hot." —Sexuality.org

"The most thorough and up-to-date lesbian sex guide around. Don’t buy Newman’s book expecting a clone of the genteel Joy of Lesbian Sex. The author describes everything in delicious and explicit detail…" —LesbiaNation

"The lesbian sex information you've always wanted but could never find. The Whole Lesbian Sex Book is intelligent, sexy, humorous and emotionally savvy." —Staci Haines, author of Healing Sex

BUST Magazine
The Whole Lesbian Sex Book is infectious and empowering and extremely well-researched.
Library Journal
In this second edition of her lesbian sex manual (the first was released in 2000), Newman, founding publisher of Cleis Press, covers oral, manual, anal, and insertive-vaginal techniques with loving care. She includes a whole chapter on breast play, addresses safety in each section as well as in a separate chapter, and even discusses transgender and bisexuality issues, masturbation, S/M, sex parties, and sex toys while giving equal attention to monogamous and polyamorous sex styles. The text expands the orgasm section to a full chapter, includes an additional chapter on sex and partnership, and updates other sections, especially those on health (including how to talk to your physician), sexual response, sex toys, and communicating about sex. The excellent bibliography and resources sections have also been updated; detailed source notes and an index complete the package. This comprehensive and superbly competent manual sets a standard for which all popular sex writers should aim. Not just for lesbians-heterosexual women could learn a great deal about themselves, as could the men who aspire to please them-this is highly recommended for all collections.-Martha Cornog, Philadelphia Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781573441995
  • Publisher: Cleis Press
  • Publication date: 12/28/2004
  • Series: Sex Guides
  • Edition description: Second Edition
  • Edition number: 2
  • Pages: 376
  • Sales rank: 132,169
  • Product dimensions: 7.02 (w) x 9.98 (h) x 1.13 (d)

Table of Contents

Illustrations x
Preface to the Second Edition xi
Introduction xv
Chapter 1 Welcome 1
Chapter 2 Desire and Fantasy 3
What's Your Fetish? 5
Run Wild 7
Make Your Dreams Come True 8
Nurture Your Libido 10
Sex + Intimacy 14
Fantasy 14
Lesbian Porn 16
Chapter 3 Anatomy and Sexual Response 19
Anatomy 19
Sexual Response 27
Sexual Response over a Lifetime 30
Chapter 4 Orgasm 45
This Is Taking Too Long 46
If You Can't Have an Orgasm 47
Does Viagra Work for Women? 48
How Do You Come? 49
Getting Her Off 51
Multiple Orgasms 52
Tantra and Extended Orgasms 53
Ejaculation 55
Chapter 5 The Road to Heaven Leads to You 59
A Love/Hate Relationship 60
Take a Good Look 62
Appreciate Yourself 63
Take It In 63
Join the Crowd 63
Get Into Your Body 65
Somatic Healing 66
You Are What You Eat 68
Get a Pelvic Exam 68
Safer Sex, Please 69
Be Present 72
Life Changes 73
Chapter 6 Masturbation 75
What Will Masturbation Do for You? 75
The Masturbation Workshop Adventure 78
Teach Yourself Some New Tricks 81
How-To's of Masturbation 82
Solo Toys 83
Erotica and Fantasy 84
How-To's of Orgasm 84
Masturbating with a Partner 86
Chapter 7 Communication and Finding Sex Partners 89
Geography, Not Destiny 90
Talk Talk Talk 91
Tongue-Tied? 94
Who Are You Looking For? 95
Making Your Move 97
"No, Thank You" 98
Personal Ads in Newspapers and Magazines 99
Sex on the Internet 100
Play Safe 102
Sex Parties 102
Sex Talk Guidelines 103
Where to Learn More 104
Chapter 8 Sex and Partnership 107
Erotic Intimacy 108
What Kind of Sex Life Do You Want, Anyway? 109
What Kind of Partnership Do You Want? 117
You Make It Happen 121
What's Holding You Back? 130
Low Libido High Libido One Libido No Libido 132
What? No Sex? 137
Find Your Passion 139
Sexual Community 140
Keep It Happening 143
Chapter 9 Breast Play 147
Sensitivity 148
Teach Your Partner 149
How-To's of Breast Play 150
Nipple Piercings 151
Toys for Breast Play 152
Chapter 10 Clitoral Play 155
The Art of the Hand 156
Take a Tour 156
What If Your Hand Gets Tired? 158
Frottage 160
How-To's of Clitoral Stimulation 160
Genital Piercings 161
Genital Shaving 162
How-To's of Genital Shaving 163
Toys for Clitoral Play 164
Clitoral Play-Safely 166
Where to Learn More 166
Chapter 11 Oral Sex 167
Cunnilingus 169
Going Down on Your Girl 171
How-To's of Cunnilingus 172
Analingus 173
How-To's of Analingus 175
Positions for Oral Sex 176
What a Pain in the Neck! 176
(Detachable) Cocksucking 177
How to Suck (Detachable) Cock 180
Oral Sex-Safely 180
So What's a Girl to Do? 182
Chapter 12 Vaginal Penetration 185
Take a Tour 185
Finger-Fucking 187
Vaginal Fisting 189
Strap-On Dildos 193
How-To's of Vaginal Penetration 197
Positions for Vaginal Penetration 198
Toys for Vaginal Play 200
Vaginal Penetration-Safely 201
Where to Learn More 202
Chapter 13 Anal Penetration 205
Take a Tour 205
Basic Preparations 208
Finger-Fucking 211
Anal Fisting 213
Strap-On Dildos 215
How-To's of Anal Penetration 219
Positions for Anal Penetration 219
Toys for Anal Penetration 221
Anal Penetration-Safely 222
Where to Learn More 223
Chapter 14 Gender (Not Destiny) 225
What Is Gender? 226
Intersexuality 227
Transgender and Transsexual 228
Partners of Transgendered Women and Men 231
Sexual Orientation 234
Playing with the Boys 235
Butch/Femme 236
Chapter 15 Play Nice! (...or Else) 241
Ouch!!! (Yum...) 242
Negotiation 244
Creating the S/M Scene: Ritual and Theater 247
Pushing the Emotional Edges 248
Teach Yourself Some New Tricks 251
How Do You Know What You Want? 262
Toys for BDSM Play 264
That Sounds Dangerous! 265
BDSM Play-Safely 266
Where to Learn More 266
Chapter 16 Play Parties and Public Sex 269
Commercial Sex 269
Play Parties 271
How to Have Fun at a Sex Party 273
Where to Find Play Parties 274
Play Party Etiquette 275
How to Throw a Safer-Sex Party 275
Chapter 17 Sex Toys and Accoutrements 279
How to Choose Sex Toys 284
Got Your Lube? 296
Got Your Safer-Sex Supplies? 298
Does Latex Make You Itch? 298
How's Your Budget? 299
How to Care for Your Toys 300
Chapter 18 Safer Sex and Gynecological Health 303
Talking to Your Doctor About Sex 304
Gynecological Care 305
STDs and Gynecological Concerns 306
What If Your Partner Won't Use Barriers? 316
What If You Have an STD? 318
Chapter 19 Bibliography 321
Chapter 20 Resources 335
Notes 359
Index 367
About the Author 377
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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 5, 2005

    damn this was great

    this was a great book...i'm a lesbian who was great in bed before reading this book but i wanted some more ideas...and after reading this i got waay more calls

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 5, 2005

    The best book i ever read

    I am a bisexual who after reading this book I understood both what I wanted and even what my boyfriend enjoyed.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 6, 2005

    lesbian

    i love to have sex with my partner and we do it great now that we have read this. WE can't keep off each other.Great book!!!!!

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 18, 2001

    First timers must have!!!

    Im a 21 yr old lesbian, in my first lesbian relationship....This book taught me everything i needed to know, It's a great book, very informative, Definitely a must have for all first timers. My girlfriend sure is happy i read this book. Our sex life is so much better now :)

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 23, 2012

    Lesbians

    Lets have some nook sex

    3 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 3, 2011

    Good for the complete and total novice...otherwise...

    I've had one girlfriend, and I picked up this book after breaking up with her...my intention was to show myself that there's a whole world out there, my first experience wouldn't be my last, etc. etc. Well, even if I had picked this up before my first time having sex EVER, I think I would have found it disappointingly demure! The book's audience seems to be girls who are extremely uneducated about sex...never looked up "G-Spot" on Google, hardly ever masturbated, etc. etc. It's like something you might hand a 14 year old along with the "this is what a vagina is" diagram. The suggestions in every chapter usually boiled down to really general and intuitive advice ("you're in control" "ask her what she wants" "lick, suck, rub"). If you've had sex before (or even if you haven't, but are still familiar enough with your body), I would not recommend this book. There are SOME useful pieces of advice that lesbian newbies might not get at first (concepts like stone butches, or getting off from seeing the other person get off, etc.). But overall the information is something that LGBT forums, erotica, indie porn, etc. will be better at teaching you. Wish I had saved the $14 for some lesbian erotica or a 1-month subscription to some lesbian porn instead to broaden my horizons/pick up some new tricks. Oh well.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 23, 2008

    A reviewer

    After reading this book, my girlfriend of 6 yrs and I have found it to be VERY informative- and sexy!!

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 29, 2000

    Many thanks to the author

    I am a 20 year old lesbian, and this was my first how-to book. Actually, it was more than that. My girlfriend and I have gotten many ideas after reading this incredible book. Definetly worth a read!

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 3, 2012

    My number is

    My number is (712)281-0833 have had a gf before and sex

    2 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 11, 2012

    Lesbian

    Whos is wet

    2 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 30, 2005

    Wow...

    This was the first book I'd ever read on lesbian sex and relationships. I've known for years that I'm bisexual, and I saw this book recommended online several times. So, I thought 'Why not?' I'm really glad I picked this book up. It was very informative and an enjoyable read.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 16, 2004

    Our sex life has greatly improved!

    As a bi-sexual, I would like to thank the author for the many days and nights of pleasure that this book has brought. My girlfriends and Ie have reached new heights in pleasure with one another, whether it just be two of us or a group of us. Now we can try new things every day. Going down on women has always been pleasurable for me, but now I know there are other things I can do to please my partners.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 31, 2002

    It was fun for my partner and I....

    It was fun for my partner and I to cuddle together and read this book. This author is amazing. This book kept us up all night. Its a great book for any couple to read and I rate it highly. Keep up the good work.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 20, 2014

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    Im 13 looking for a gf online. Im single and horny

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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    Posted July 22, 2014

    To rhe person befor me

    I am a 12 year old girl text me at 608-498-3032 i live in onalaska wi someone i need a bf and nook sex

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 17, 2014

    Masturbation. Check. Orgasms. Check. Female anatomy. Check. This

    Masturbation. Check. Orgasms. Check. Female anatomy. Check. This could go on and on because this book is all-encompassing. I'm not sure I'll ever need want to buy another sex guide again! Except when the third edition of this one comes out!

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