Hicksville, Long Island wife and mom Caputo isn't a typical medium, a major contributing reason to the success of her show (which just began its sixth season). There's More to Life Than This imparts its lessons with the same down-to-earth informality that make her show both popular and accessible. Readers open to its message will welcome its calming words about the afterlife and the peace that the former living find there. Now in trade paperback and NOOK Book. (P.S. Readers of the hardcover edition praised it for focusing on the healing of the living rather than simply communicating with the deceased.)
There's More to Life Than This: Healing Messages, Remarkable Stories, and Insight About the Other Side from the Long Island Mediumby Theresa Caputo
For fans of TLC’s Long Island Medium and anyone interested in the big questions of life, death, and finding out what’s important in between, New York Times bestselling author and medium Theresa Caputo shares how she discovered her gift and her many encounters with Spirit.
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For fans of TLC’s Long Island Medium and anyone interested in the big questions of life, death, and finding out what’s important in between, New York Times bestselling author and medium Theresa Caputo shares how she discovered her gift and her many encounters with Spirit.
Beloved medium Theresa Caputo, star of the hit television show Long Island Medium, opens the door to her world and invites you to experience her exceptional gift of communicating with those who’ve crossed over to the Other Side. The always funny, frank, and down-to-earth medium—whether she’s talking to her family, the local butcher, or the souls of those who’ve passed on—began communicating with Spirit at the age of four, but didn’t fully accept her gift until she was thirty-three years old. She had a good life as a busy wife and working mom, but also suffered from chronic anxiety that, as it turned out, came from ignoring her abilities. Once Theresa began channeling, she realized that she felt much better after delivering a message from Spirit and releasing that energy. Since then she’ s used her extraordinary gift to help people heal from the loss of their loved ones.
Theresa feels that it’s her purpose to make us all aware that there is more to life than what we see here in the physical world. She wants you to know that your deceased loved ones are safe and at peace, and that they’re now with you in a different way—watching over you, loving you, and assisting you from the Other Side. She also wants you to realize that the unexplainable things you sense and feel from these souls are real, and that it’s healthy and essential to acknowledge them.
There’s More to Life Than This lends insight on how Theresa’s mediumship works, what happens to your soul when you die, what Spirit says Heaven is like, what the deceased want you to know, the importance of living a positive life, and the many roles that your family, friends, angels, guides, souls of faith, and God play here and in the afterlife. It also explores how to safely connect with Spirit, so that you can recognize when your loved ones are reaching out.
Through Theresa’s personal story, compelling anecdotes, and fascinating client readings, she teaches us about how she communicates with Spirit and helps us to understand and appreciate the important lessons and touching messages that we’re meant to embrace every day.
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There's More to Life Than This
Me and Spirit: A Match Made in Heaven
I wasnâ€™t born in the back of some gypsy wagon, and I didnâ€™t grow up reading fortunes on the Bayou. Listen, the only crystals on me are the Swarovski ones covering my Louboutins. I may not be your idea of a â€œtypicalâ€ medium, but dead people donâ€™t care. Theyâ€™ve been bugging me to deliver their messages since I was a child, and thatâ€™s what I feel compelled and blessed to do.
I grew up on Long Island in a town called Hicksville, with my mom, dad, and younger brother, Michael. Mom was a bookkeeper and my dad was the public works supervisor for Nassau County. We were extremely close and still are. I was actually raised for most of my life in the house next door to the one I live in now. We have a gate in the back that connects our two yards, and Dad likes to use it so he can futz around in both our tomato gardens. When people come for readings, they sit at my dining room table, which looks out onto the back. I always say, â€œIf you see someone out there, itâ€™s not a dead person walking around. Itâ€™s just my dad!â€
Growing up, I had the most loving, happy, and seemingly normal childhood. I was on a traveling soccer team and local bowling league. I loved playing with my dollsâ€™ hairâ€”I always thought Iâ€™d be a hairdresser, go figure. I had nice friends, got good grades, and spent a lot of free time with my family. I was always with my cousins, grandparents, aunts, and uncles. On Thursdays, weâ€™d have spaghetti and meatballs at Nanny and Popâ€™s house; on Saturdays, Iâ€™d paint ceramics with Auntie G; and on Sundays, our whole extended family would go to Gram and Grampâ€™s house after church to spend the afternoon eating, laughing, and telling stories.
It was like the Long Island Italian version of Leave It to Beaver, but with a twist that literally kept us all up at night. I used to have the most frightening dreams, which made no sense given that my days were so carefree. These were actually my first memories of seeing, feeling, and hearing Spirit, though I didnâ€™t know thatâ€™s what was happening. My first vivid experience happened when I was just four years old. At the time, we lived in my dadâ€™s childhood home, which is right near the Hicksville Gregory Museum, a former 1915 courthouse that also had jail cells for prisoners in it. Some people think old buildings like prisons, with their history of pain and suffering, can hold on to Spirit. What a place for me of all people to grow up around! Anyway, Iâ€™d have a recurring dream where, from a window on the second floor of our house, Iâ€™d watch a man pace on the sidewalk out front. Heâ€™d chant my name, Theresa Brigandi, Theresa Brigandi, Theresa Brigandi . . . over, and over, and over again. Can you imagine how scary that was to a freaking four-year-old? I never saw the manâ€™s face, but he was always hunched over and carrying a stick with a bandanna sack on the end. He wore ragged clothes and looked like a hobo.
Spirit later told me that this dream was actually a visitation, and I now believe this â€œmanâ€ to be one of my spirit guides for that time in my life. This doesnâ€™t mean the spirit guide is literally a bum. Itâ€™s more like those Bible stories where people invite in the poor, and then later find out the personâ€™s an angel. I now believe a hobo is the unassuming image that my guide took so that Iâ€™d understand the Sunday school reference and feel okay when he called my name. I was raised Roman Catholic and still practice this today, so I think my guide presented himself through my frame of reference, a little like how Spirit shows me signs and symbols during a reading now. They do it in a way that makes sense to me, so that itâ€™s easy for me to interpret the message.
When I was four, a hobo equaled a gentle, godly manâ€”at least when I was awake. At night, seeing, hearing, and sensing one made me cry out like I was being violently attacked. Again, I donâ€™t think I was experiencing negative Spirit, and I wasnâ€™t dreaming that Spirit pushed me around or anything; the dreams themselves werenâ€™t â€œbad.â€ I was terrified because Iâ€™d feel Spiritâ€™s energy, while seeing and hearing them talk to me, in this alarmingly real and personal way.
My inconsolable screams rattled my family more than what caused them, and my social life became limited. I couldnâ€™t go to slumber parties or sleep at my grandmotherâ€™s house without wondering what Iâ€™d feel next. I didnâ€™t feel safe anywhere but at home, and even that wasnâ€™t a given. Besides the hobo, I also saw my great-grandmother on my momâ€™s side of the family. Sheâ€™d died four years before I was born, and I didnâ€™t realize who it was until much later when I saw a picture of her. But Iâ€™ll never forget her standing at the foot of my bedâ€”she was short with dark hair and wearing a housedress. Iâ€™d scream like a crazy person when I saw her too. Poor lady was no three-headed monster, though I sure reacted like she was!
In the morning, Iâ€™d forget most of these night terrors or how long they went on. Iâ€™m told theyâ€™d pass when my mom or dad would turn on the light and rush into the room. So did this make Spirit leave? I donâ€™t know. But after a while, Mom made up a prayer to help me keep Spirit at armâ€™s length. It went, â€œDear God, please keep me safe through the night. Bless . . .â€ â€”and then Iâ€™d name all the people in our lives, and those in Heaven. And wouldnâ€™t you know, every time I said that prayer before bed, Iâ€™d sleep soundly, and so would my parents. I continued this when we eventually moved into our new home, the one my parents live in now, though I always kept the hall light on.
Even when I traveled with my family, I never got a break from Spirit. We took a lot of vacations together, including an annual camping trip with my grandparents for the entire summer. Most people at the site were lucky to have a tent with a Bunsen burner; we had this awesome trailer with a shower, kitchen, a screened-in porch so the bugs wouldnâ€™t get at our food, everything. My grandmother made scrambled eggs and French toast in the mornings, and in the afternoons, weâ€™d have bicycle races and go tire swinging into the lake. At night, weâ€™d play pinball at the rec hall, roast marshmallows, and sing campfire songs. I was a regular Girl Scout! But no matter how much fun we had during the day, or how relaxed I felt, my night terrors would strike like they did at home. Only this time the whole area heard me! My grandparents even warned our fellow campers in advanceâ€”if you hear someone screaming bloody murder, it doesnâ€™t mean thereâ€™s a bear or maniac on the loose! Itâ€™s just Theresa having a night terror. One time my parents wanted me to sleep with them in a tent, and I was deathly afraid of it. I felt safer in the camper, especially since I was seeing shadows against the canvas. I was so adamant about staying out that I kicked and screamed, and gave my father a fat lip. He was so mad. I was this close to knocking over the lantern and setting the whole tent on fire.
Though I handled Spiritâ€™s appearances much better during the day, they were still a surprise. For instance, I clearly remember seeing three-dimensional people walk in front of the TV. Iâ€™d be sitting on our green tweed sofa, watching Romper Room, when a person would pass by and then fade out. One time this happened when I had a babysitter over, and I asked her if sheâ€™d just seen what I did. She said no and gave me a funny look, so I played it off. I kind of wondered if I was seeing things or had an overly active imagination, but I didnâ€™t dwell on it. Itâ€™s like when you see a shadow out of the corner of your eye, or stare at a light too long and then watch a yellow shape float across the roomâ€”you assume that youâ€™re just seeing things and donâ€™t think much of it. I also remember getting a kitchen set for Easter one year as a kid, arranging my pots a certain way when I was done playing house, and when I came back to them in the morning, they were in a completely different spot. That mustâ€™ve been Spirit too. Listen, I know my brother, Michael, didnâ€™t touch them!
Whoâ€™s to Say Whatâ€™s Normal?
As I got older, I began to feel anxious and strange in my body. I couldnâ€™t put my finger on what could be causing it. Iâ€™d say to Mom, I donâ€™t feel right. I donâ€™t feel like I belong. I feel different. I felt as if there was something going on that needed to be explained. One of the few places I actually felt safe and secure was in church. I even played guitar in a church folk group. Godâ€™s house was the only other home, other than my own, where I felt peaceful and comfortable in my skin. I often say that if I werenâ€™t a medium, I couldâ€™ve been a schizophrenic or a nun. Seriously, sometimes those felt like my two most realistic options. Imagine? My parents spoiled me with so much love, but that didnâ€™t take away from the fact that I sensed something about me was off.
Sometimes Iâ€™d ask God, Why is this happening? Why do I feel so afraid all the time? But Iâ€™d never get mad or angry at Him, or lose my beliefs. That wasnâ€™t how I was raised. I donâ€™t like to use the word â€œreligious,â€ but I did come from a strong faith family. I was taught to say prayers at night and before every meal. My parents also had an open mind about all spirituality. Itâ€™s funny, because not all Catholics do. But to us, faith, spirituality . . . it all comes from God.
When I wasnâ€™t at church, my anxiety could get so bad that I didnâ€™t want to leave the house. I didnâ€™t know when Iâ€™d sense or feel something, at any given moment of the day. I realized that every place I went came with a different sensation, and I sometimes felt like I was being watched. When Iâ€™d tell this to Mom, sheâ€™d sit me down and say, â€œYour safe place is you.â€ I could go anywhere, because I was my grounding force. For a long time, that mind-set worked.
Even still, I was clearly seeing and sensing things that other people werenâ€™t. When I was out with my friends at the mall or the bowling alley, Iâ€™d ask if they saw a man walk by or heard someone call their name, because I secretly had, and theyâ€™d go, â€œUh, no. What are you talking about?â€ Or sometimes Iâ€™d receive a message, which Iâ€™d assume was just my own random thought and not realize that it had any meaning, or that Iâ€™d even thought of anything, until it was validated later. For example, if I was on my way to the fair, I might hear a voice tell me, â€œDonâ€™t eat the cotton candy.â€ Iâ€™d ignore it, and then a friend would tell me the cotton candy made her sick. But even then, I just assumed that I got better hunches about people and situations than maybe some friends or strangers did.
Again, I believed that I was my safe place. So seeing, hearing, and sensing something around me all the time became my normal. Doctors have always said that our bodies are built to adapt; if a feeling or experience goes on for long enough, the brain learns to disregard it, work around it, or just treat it as normal. I know now that seeing and sensing Spirit isnâ€™t most peopleâ€™s typical experience, but it was routine for me, and I didnâ€™t have too many people disputing it. As a child, my family and friends just laughed when Iâ€™d occasionally say strange things, but never pursued the subject much further. (Mom recently joked that my abilities give a whole new meaning to when I used to say there was a monster, imaginary friend, or ghost in my room!) And for as many times as friends didnâ€™t agree with what Iâ€™d heard or seen, I did have family who had similar experiences because theyâ€™re also sensitive. In fact, my cousin Johnny Boy used to jokingly call me and my cousin Lisa â€œfreaks,â€ and nicknamed us â€œParaâ€ and â€œNoid,â€ when we told him weâ€™d see or feel things. We also used to go shopping separately and come home with the same outfits! But at the time, all Lisa and I knew was that we had unusual, shared experiences that made encounters with what we now know is Spirit just part of our lives. As for my smart-aleck cousin Johnny, he was living in my grandmotherâ€™s house ten years later and saw her standing in the hall when he was coming out of the shower. Whoâ€™s laughing now?
When my peers became mouthy teenagers, things began to change. Between the ages of about twelve and fourteen, I began to feel less comfortable with what was happening around me, mostly because of how people reacted to my observations. My family was still blasÃ© about stuff I said, but when Iâ€™d casually ask if a friend saw or felt something, theyâ€™d be like, â€œNo, thatâ€™s weird, thereâ€™s nobody there. Nobody hears or sees things the way you do!â€ What once seemed normal now wasnâ€™t, so I decided to block my experiences out altogether. I didnâ€™t say a special prayer to make Spirit stop or anything; I just didnâ€™t acknowledge Spiritâ€™s attempts to communicate with me. Keep in mind, this was before every TV channel had a ghost-hunting show and John Edward was a household name. People didnâ€™t talk about this stuff. Nobody, including me, couldâ€™ve guessed what was really going on. It was never part of a comfortable, mainstream conversation.
By the time I was sixteen years old, I was lucky that I hadnâ€™t lost a lot of loved ones, but this also means that I didnâ€™t have recognizable Spirit visiting me. When Nanny, my fatherâ€™s mom, died, I was devastated. We were very close, and everyone missed her a lot. After she passed, my dadâ€™s older sister, whom we call Auntie, had a psychic come to Nannyâ€™s house. I didnâ€™t know why at the time, but I now think it was to get in touch with her. I didnâ€™t want to go, and I felt a little afraidâ€”mostly because I didnâ€™t know what a psychic really was or did. But I knew Iâ€™d feel safe at Nannyâ€™s house, so I went anyway. And for the first time in a long time I didnâ€™t block Spirit.
I felt Nannyâ€™s energy and soul near the window, and my family kept asking me why I was by the drapes when everyone else was at the kitchen table. They also asked me whom I was talking to, though I donâ€™t remember what I was saying. (Itâ€™s similar to how I canâ€™t recall most of what Spirit says after I channel for others.) After a minute of this, my family had to interrupt me in their usual, teasing way. They kept it lighthearted and didnâ€™t freak out.
â€œTheresa, who are you talking to?â€
â€œIâ€™m talking to Nanny.â€
â€œSure you are. Nannyâ€™s dead.â€
â€œI know sheâ€™s dead, but Iâ€™m talking to her.â€
Auntie and my cousins might have been confused but didnâ€™t make it a big deal. I was known to blurt out crazy things, but was this any stranger than having a psychic over for coffee? They were clearly open to spiritual conversations that I hadnâ€™t considered yet.
When I think about this memory now, I can physically smell Nannyâ€™s house and see everything in itâ€”the plastic-covered furniture, marble end tables, her sparkly dining room chandelier, a painting of The Last Supper, and those gold drapes. It was very gaudy Italian. And as I tell this story, I get a vision, like a quick filmstrip, of Nanny standing at the stove, smoking her cigarette all the way down to a really long ash thatâ€™s dangling over a bubbling spaghetti pot. Sheâ€™d let that cigarette burn until only the filter was left, and yet the ashes never fell into her gravy. She loved her jewelry, and in my memory, sheâ€™s wearing all these diamonds. Like me, you know?
After my little encounter with Nanny, I went back to completely ignoring Spirit. My uncle Julie died during my senior year of high school, and around that time, my anxieties began to get much worse than theyâ€™d been. I developed random phobias, many of which had to do with feeling claustrophobic. The night terrors had long past, but I still had restless sleep habits. Instead of waking up screaming, Iâ€™d jump out of bed, feeling like I couldnâ€™t breathe to save my life.
Then Along Came Larry
My eighteenth year wasnâ€™t a total disaster, though. Thatâ€™s when I met my husband, Larry! When Auntie had the psychic over that first time I saw Nannyâ€™s soul, he told me I was going to meet someone much older than me with a beard and mustache. Back then, I thought the psychic was being a wacko, since I was dating someone at the time and didnâ€™t even like facial hair. But two years later, I met Larry, and you better believe he had a beard, mustache, and was eleven years older.
It was love at first sight. Larry had this awesome hair that was tight on the sides, fluffy on top, and long in the back. He was also a sharp dresser and had a nice body. He looked like a clean-cut biker! He says I was a cute little sparkplug who made jokes and lit up a room. Larry worked for his familyâ€™s business, an oil company, and I worked part-time in the customer service department. I never went to college because I was too afraid to leave my family and comfort zone. I dreamed of becoming a hairdresser or legal secretary, but that meant commuting into Manhattan for the good jobs, which was way too overwhelming for meâ€”trains, elevators, skyscrapers, traffic jams . . . that was not my world.
Larry tells me he used to look forward to coming to work to see what I was wearing, because I was in my Madonna stage. I used to wear skintight pants, big belts, a fishnet top that draped off my shoulder, and fingerless gloves. Like in that movie Desperately Seeking Susan! But just because I was distracted by love doesnâ€™t mean my anxiety went away. I tried hard to suppress it, but that only made things worse. I didnâ€™t want Larry to think I was crazy, and I was still occasionally wondering if I was. Sometimes I saw figures or heard things, but at this point I was in such denial that I was fully convinced my mind was playing tricks on me.
I decided to see a therapist, who, session after session, basically said there was nothing wrong with me. Iâ€™d tell him, â€œBen, there is something wrong with me. I donâ€™t feel right.â€ Heâ€™d ask me all about my childhood, and Iâ€™d explain that it was idyllic. My friends and family now? Great. Dating? Fun and exciting. Work? Fine! The best cause we could find for my chronic unease was that I came from an anxious family, so maybe this kind of thing was genetic. But the guy couldnâ€™t give me one good medical or psychological reason why I felt as severely bad as I did.
I couldnâ€™t keep my anxiety attacks and laundry list of phobias from Larry for too long, especially when we were in the car or other enclosed spaces. I seemed to feel my worst when my mind was at rest. If we were on the Long Island Expressway during a traffic jam, Iâ€™d get a frown-y look on my face knowing that I was about to freak out. Then Iâ€™d scream bloody murder, and even if the car was moving, Iâ€™d beg and plead with Larry to pull over so I could get out right away. I even did this on double dates with other couples in the car! My anxiety was not shy. The panic attacks would eventually pass, and it helped that Larry always kept his cool. He didnâ€™t know what was causing me so much stress, the same way I didnâ€™t, but Iâ€™m just glad he didnâ€™t get spooked and leave.
Larry and I got married when I was twenty-two. Right away, Iâ€™d startle him in the middle of the night. Iâ€™d wake up yelling, jump out of bed, and run around the room yelling his name and crying for help. Then the moment would pass, and Iâ€™d come back to bed and forget it by morning. I talked in my sleep too. I never let Larry pull the covers over our heads, not even as a joke. Once he threw a blanket over us when we were watching TV, and I began screaming. He never did that again. But hey, Larry knew anxiety came with the package, and he loved me just the way I was.
In Sickness and in Health
My husband says that although I made us take the hospital stairs instead of the elevator when I was in labor with our son, Larry Jr., I was unusually calm and in control during childbirth. I was twenty-three when our first child was born. My anxiety went up and down after, but I generally felt better, now that I had the new responsibility of taking care of a child. I could even travel okay.
Ever since I was a junior in high school, I was always ashing a cigarette with my manicured fingertips. I never drank or did any type of narcotic, but smoking was my vice. I stopped when I found out I was pregnant with our son, but two or three years later, I went back to smoking when those familiar stress levels snuck back. I thought smoking cigarettes would relax me, even though it seemed to make my chest feel heavier, which only increased my anxiety.
I stopped smoking again when I got pregnant with Victoria, had her at twenty-seven, and went back. My anxieties became horrific. The worst theyâ€™d ever been. I can remember a horrifying incident at Disneyworld when I hadnâ€™t traveled in a while. We got to our hotel room with the kids, and I immediately started freaking out. My mom and aunt had to take the train from New York to meet us and calm me down. As if having a severe panic attack werenâ€™t bad enough, I also took it out on my husband. He says I needed a scapegoat. The kids had never seen me that bad and looked terrified to watch their mom unravel in front of their eyes.
In December 1999, I became deathly ill for no reason. Now, I am not a sick person, I donâ€™t do sick. Even when the kids were young and brought home nasty germs from school, I rarely caught their colds or flu. But this was the weirdest thing. I was getting ready for a wedding one morning and I was fine; then suddenly out of nowhere, I had a 104-degree temperature. My dad literally carried me to the doctorâ€™s office. I was on my back for two weeks, which was hard since my son, Larry, was nine and Victoria was five. My husband was a big help as usual, but itâ€™s not like I had the luxury of staying in bed. I donâ€™t even remember the first delirious week of all this. And during the second, I just lay there. I couldnâ€™t walk, eat, or go to the bathroom. I also couldnâ€™t smoke.
In hindsight, I believe God was detoxing my body during this time. Drugs, smoking, narcoticsâ€”all that stuff funks up your aura and mucks up your energy. And smoking, specifically, turns your aura gray. I stayed away from cigarettes when I got better. This doesnâ€™t mean I was a joy to live with. I remember Mom saying to me, â€œYouâ€™re such a bitch without nicotine. Go back to smoking!â€ You know what I said back? â€œGodâ€™s making me stop!â€
That rationale came flying out of my mouth. I checked myself. Where did that come from? Why would I even say that? Thatâ€™s when I knew quitting was an act of God, because those words didnâ€™t come from my brain. And with that, I havenâ€™t touched a cigarette in thirteen years.
When I channel Spirit, I do it from a place of the highest good, and that requires my body, mind, and soul to be healthy and pure. Looking back, I wouldnâ€™t have been able to develop my abilities if I continued to fuel my body with anything negative, like cigarettes. But at the time, all I knew was that God wanted me to stop smoking. Certain foods began to make me ill too. Doritos and Wendyâ€™s made me feel dizzy and light-headed, like I couldnâ€™t focus. I hallucinated when I ate MSG. When I was pregnant with our son, Larry and I were walking out of a Chinese restaurant and had one of those surreal conversations that reminded me of when I was a kid.
â€œHey, did you see that dog in the car?â€
â€œDonâ€™t you hear him barking?â€
â€œHon, thereâ€™s no dog.â€
â€œItâ€™s a husky. He just winked at me!â€
I later learned that Siberian huskies are considered to be very spiritual dogs, since theyâ€™re so closely related to the wolf, which Native American tradition says is the highest spiritual teacher in the animal kingdom. I suspect the MSG helped trigger my vision because itâ€™s a chemical, and when people alter their chemistry, it can do some crazy stuff to their soul.
A Serendipitous Encounter
At twenty-eight, I was a hot mess. Iâ€™d just stopped smoking and my anxieties were nonstop. I didnâ€™t want to leave the house and was in a constant panic that something bad would happen if I did. My therapist called this â€œanticipatory anxiety,â€ which is when you anticipate future events in a way that causes you to feel anxious, and that interferes with your ability to function in everyday life. The thought of going to work, the butcher, or a birthday party made my mind reel.
One night, Mom had a candle partyâ€”like a Tupperware thing, but with scented candlesâ€”and I decided to go at the last minute. She lived next door, so this I could do. Momâ€™s friend Pat Longo is a spiritual healer and works with people who have physical or emotional ailments, including chronic anxiety; she also teaches classes about living a balanced, positive, and fulfilled life that includes meditation and healing. Like me, Pat also decided at the eleventh hour to go to Momâ€™s event. All these last-minute decisions donâ€™t say much for her parties, do they!
I told Pat about my anxieties and how sick Iâ€™d been, and though Iâ€™d known her for yearsâ€”her son and my brother grew up togetherâ€”she had no clue about the anxiety I suffered as a child, and certainly nothing about how I sensed Spirit. She put her hands over my head and began to channel healing energy from God. For three weeks after, I felt so calm that I wanted to do it again. But when I called to make an appointment, Pat told me I didnâ€™t need another healing, that there was nothing for her to mend within me. She asked if I wanted to take her spiritual awareness class instead to give me some perspective and balance in my life. She suspected Spirit communication was causing my distress, but didnâ€™t tell me that right away.
Whatever Pat did to me made me feel better, so I decided to go for a classâ€”why not? I also trusted her with my well-being because my family had known hers for years. If Pat were some random spiritual healer, I wouldnâ€™t have been able to believe in her or her evaluation of me. I put on a good face for friends and family, but I was still fragile on the inside and wouldnâ€™t have felt safe with just anyone. I also knew Iâ€™d feel secure in Patâ€™s classes because my mom had taken her course a few years before. She was actually one of Patâ€™s first students, though she only went to learn more about feeling positive and healthy from the inside out. My dad and us kids used to rib her, like, â€œOooh. Youâ€™re going to your voodoo class tonight.â€ Pat says Mom was starting to touch the surface of her own abilities by the end, but she put her spiritual energy into working with the church instead of developing them any further on her own.
After that first night in Patâ€™s class, I got sidetracked and didnâ€™t go back for, um, a year. When I finally did, the classes were held on Wednesdays, and every week there would be a downpour. One of my phobias was driving in the rain, so I cut class for that whole first month. But in my heart, I wanted to make this work, so I practiced driving in thunderstorms, up and down the block. I was ready to go back to Patâ€™s the next month, though it continued to rain every Wednesday.
I think Spirit made it rain to help me break through my fear, on my way to honing my gift. This shouldnâ€™t surprise me; it always rains during milestone events! There was a monsoon during my sonâ€™s baby shower and my daughterâ€™s Communion, and Hurricane Hugo hit on my wedding day. It wiped out St. Thomas Island, and my honeymoon was canceled. Even when I taped The Tonight Show a few years ago, which was intimidating and such a big deal for me, it poured cats and dogs. Lenoâ€™s producers assured me that it never rains that much in LA in October, and wouldnâ€™t you know, the minute I was done shooting at five p.m., the sun came out.
Iâ€™m a What?!?
â€œYouâ€™re a medium,â€ Pat told me during class one night. A lot of people were discovering their own gifts, and this was mine. â€œYou have the ability to speak to dead people. If you can learn to control the energy around you, you can learn to control and understand your anxiety better.â€
This was the first time Iâ€™d ever considered that my anxiety and all that stuff I saw when I was a kid, and forced myself to ignore, could be related. Who knew there were real, physical consequences to blocking what Iâ€™d been seeing, hearing, and sensing?
Pat explained that one reason ignoring Spirit gave me anxiety is that I channel Spirit through my chakras. Ideally, it enters through the crown, or head, chakra, flows through my entire body, and then releases through my words. But when Spirit was trying to deliver a message, it would channel through my crown, and Iâ€™d block it in my chest, which would cause my heart to race or give me those crazy palpitations. My chest would also feel heavy and compressed, as if an elephant were napping on it. I donâ€™t even know much about all the chakras, just that I need to keep the crown chakra, third eye, throat chakra, heart chakra, solar plexus chakra, spleen chakra, and root chakra aligned and balanced so I donâ€™t freak out.
Pat also said the type of channeling I do was causing me to have panic attacks. There are lots of ways that mediums experience Spirit. A â€œclairvoyant,â€ for instance, mostly sees visions, and a â€œclairaudientâ€ primarily uses her hearing sense. Pat explained that Iâ€™m â€œempathic,â€ which means I feel Spirit most, and use my other senses to fill in the blanks. For instance, a message might begin with me feeling very restricted in the throat area, which means there is a soul that would like to tell me that they passed via a death connected to the throat, that they were unable to communicate prior to their passing, or they did not get to say good-bye (one symbol for me can mean a lot of thingsâ€”more on that later). But if I felt my throat close without knowing that this was Spiritâ€™s way of delivering a message, all Iâ€™d know is that I felt like I was choking, which triggered a panic attack.
So Iâ€™d be having a normal conversation with someone at the grocery store, say, and all of a sudden Iâ€™d feel like I couldnâ€™t breathe or that I was being strangled. I now know thatâ€™s Spirit trying to communicate with me, but fifteen years ago, I was just like, I have to get out of here! As I said earlier, this could happen even when I was asleep. As soon as I removed myself from the situation or woke up, I was good, but it was a quick fix. I also thought some places felt better than others because I had random anxieties, but it was really the energy changing in each spot, often based on Spiritâ€™s presence. As for the phobias, I think theyâ€™re usually about associations, quiet moments, or past lives. I may have either felt Spirit in that exact place, or a similar one, which is why anticipating it made me nervous. My Catskills camping memory contributed to my tent phobia, and riding in cars or being silent in an elevator forces me to sit still without distractions, which is when Iâ€™m most open to Spirit. During a past-life regression, I also learned I was a prisoner on a ship during a torrential storm, which explains why Iâ€™m afraid of rain. I could go on, but Iâ€™ll spare you all my phobias and explanations! Suffice it to say, all these situations made me feel out of control, and so all of these things caused me to panic.
As for my anxious family members? I suspect theyâ€™re also sensitive, since I believe my gift is genetic. Theyâ€™re also very faith-based people, which increases your awareness of Spirit.
I continued to attend Patâ€™s courses every Wednesday, as Larry watched the kids. I felt calm at her house, since I knew that if anything scary happened, Pat could make me feel better. In class, I began to give people messages from loved ones, and right away, channeling made me feel normal. But I was afraid to try it anywhere else. I still needed Pat as my safety net.
Physically and emotionally, I began to slowly heal. My anxieties became less dramatic. Larry saw a difference in me, and I told him channeling Spirit seemed to be a big part of the answer. He was like, â€œThatâ€™s cool, hon. If you think talking to dead people makes you feel better, keep doing it.â€ Larry was also raised Catholic, so Iâ€™m not sure he believed in Spirit, and was more likely appeasing me, but he was supportive, which is what ultimately mattered.
Six days a week when I wasnâ€™t in class, I had to cope on my own. Since I hadnâ€™t fully accepted my gift yet, I was still prone to the occasional meltdown. I remember when my first cousin Lance got married, we planned to go but at the last minute, I could not get in the car. The kids were dressed, and Larry had mapped out the fastest route. But I didnâ€™t want to drive that far, and my whole family was so upset. I paced for hours. Finally Larry said that if at any point I didnâ€™t want to continue, we could turn around and come home. I reluctantly agreed to go.
Cell phones were still new at the time, and I insisted on taking one in the car in case I needed to call Pat to talk me off a ledge. I remember hearing Faith Hillâ€™s new song â€œBreatheâ€ and thinking, Thatâ€™s exactly what I need to do, just breathe. I made Larry play it over and over. I now think it was Spirit telling me to relax already.
When we pulled into the hotel parking lot, my whole family was waiting out front. I remember seeing Gram, who was alive at the time, standing at the window waving at me. I can still see the smile on her face, as if it were yesterday. She died a few years ago, but whenever I get over anxiety-related hurdlesâ€”like taking a tour bus across the country or sitting in a tent in my backyardâ€”Spirit makes me remember Gram standing at that window, beaming with pride.
Give Spirit an Inch . . .
To help control the energy around me, Pat taught me that I had to set some boundaries with Spirit that I still use today. I canâ€™t dictate which guides, angels, or dead people talk to me, or what they want to say, but I can control whether I acknowledge them and how I do that. So in the beginning, I said to Spirit, Iâ€™m going to set aside a time every day at four oâ€™clock for you to communicate with me. Iâ€™m going to light my white candle to protect everything in Godâ€™s light. I ask only for the highest good of all concerned. And I only want to channel souls that walk in Godâ€™s white light. And you know what? For the most part, Spirit respected that, so I became more comfortable channeling too. We were developing a real give-and-take relationship.
Whatever I sensed while I was meditating, I wrote down on a pad of paper. Pat taught me how to do automatic writings, which is when you basically take dictation from Spirit. Channeling through the pen is an easy way to speak with Spirit, especially when you arenâ€™t fully comfortable with â€œhearingâ€ messages in your mind and canâ€™t always tell the difference between your thoughts and Spiritâ€™s. Youâ€™ll see me do automatic writing during readings on TV with my little notepad, since it helps me focus; when I channel, Iâ€™ll scribble down words that Spirit wants me to use to make a point.
Another major thing I asked Spirit to do was stop presenting itself to me as three-dimensional peopleâ€”an image like you or me. When I first started reading others, Iâ€™d be brushing my teeth, look up, and suddenly see a man standing behind me in the mirror. That was so startling! So I told my guides that if I was supposed to embrace this gift, theyâ€™d have to find other ways to show me things. From then on, I saw Spirit as figures in shadow instead. I donâ€™t mean negative â€œshadow people,â€ or the scary dark masses that whisked away the bad guysâ€™ souls in Ghost. The images I see are like silhouettes, or like a chalk outline at a crime scene but filled in with a cloudy shadow you can see through. Its energy feels very positive. In fact, because I only want to serve the highest good, I donâ€™t see negative Spirit and try to avoid them at all costs. I donâ€™t like Halloween parties or historic haunted houses, and you couldnâ€™t pay me enough to touch a Ouija board. In the same vein, Iâ€™m always asking that things be protected in Godâ€™s white light, so I never even get negative information during readings. Only good things, thatâ€™s all I want.
I began to develop a â€œvocabularyâ€ with Spirit to understand the signs and sensations they were sending me. I took on more of Patâ€™s clients and began sharing the unbelievable, moving, and often hilarious stories with Larry. He asked lots of questions, and I could tell he was becoming more invested in what I was doing. Frankly, we were both amazed I could speak to these souls in the first place! In a lot of ways, I was on a clear spiritual path, but we were growing in it together.
Holy Sheet! I Really Am a Medium!
Though I only liked giving readings in class, one day I let it happen in real life. I was in Bed Bath & Beyond, and I remember feeling like I couldnâ€™t take a breath. Iâ€™d established with Spirit that this is a sign that someoneâ€™s passed from the chestâ€”heart, lungs, breasts, a filling up of fluid, or a drowning even. At one time, I wouldâ€™ve gone into a tailspinâ€”abandoned my cart in the middle of the aisle, hightailed it out of the store, sped through stop signs crying, and beat myself up for the whole drama once I got home. But that day in BB&B, I told myself Iâ€™d be okay. I thought about what my mom used to say: Your safe place is you. And then I heard a manâ€™s voice.
â€œTell my wife I like the ones on the left,â€ he said.
Nobody was there.
Just then, an older woman came up to me with two sets of sheets. She told me sheâ€™d just lost her husband after forty years of marriage and was redoing the bedroom. She couldnâ€™t decide which sheets heâ€™d have liked better. I suggested the ones on the left, and it made her so happy.
I didnâ€™t tell the woman that her husband told me what to say. I like my baby steps, if you canâ€™t tell! But at that moment, I knew Spirit would continue to place people in my path who needed to hear messages from their loved ones, like this woman. I also believe my own Spirit guides were giving me my first real test, and I passed! The best bonus of all? My chest felt normal after delivering the message. I channeled, released the energy, and went on with my day.
After taking Patâ€™s classes for five years, and reading her students, it was time to share my ability with others. I felt confident that what I was doing came from a higher power. There were also signs that made me feel I was being guided by the divine. I was thirty-three years old when I accepted my gift, and Jesus was thirty-three when he died. I live off Jerusalem Avenue. Pat suggested I make business cards and get a separate phone line for my venture. The last four digits of this number were 6444, which I thought was perfect because I was born in the month of June (6), and I believe 444 is a sign of the angels. But the day my phone was set to be turned on, the guy told me he had to change it. I was so bummed, until I realized that the last four digits were the sign of the cross. Itâ€™s worth mentioning that one reason it took me so long to accept my gift was that I struggled with why I was chosen to have it in the first place. I kept thinking, Who am I? Iâ€™m no one special. Why was I chosen to do this? Why is this my journey? And being raised Catholic, you donâ€™t contact the dead. So I think Spirit was also sending me â€œreligiousâ€ signs to assure me that what I was doing was okay and, in many ways, guided.
From the moment I began seeing clients in my home, my family was laid back about it. If people asked my kids what their parents did for a living, theyâ€™d say, â€œDad owns a business importing Italian foods, and Mom speaks to dead people.â€ So natural, like I was a teacher or something. Larry also overheard some readings at the house and began coming with me to my small venues. After that, he said it was hard not to believe in what I did. Heâ€™d get especially impressed when Spirit had me talk about health or human anatomy, because I didnâ€™t go to college. I also donâ€™t read books, since reading relaxes my brain and clears my mind in a way that lets Spirit communicate with me, and then I canâ€™t focus on my book! So where would I learn this stuff, if it didnâ€™t come from Spirit?
Being a medium also helped validate a lot of â€œunusualâ€ experiences for my husband. Larry saw his grandmotherâ€™s soul when he was ten years old, but was never sure it was real. He shared a room with his brother, and she was standing at the foot of his bed. Larry thought it was his imagination, and actually forgot about it until I accepted my gift. Heâ€™s also learned a lot about dÃ©jÃ vu. When Larry was young, heâ€™d be in places he hadnâ€™t been before, though he had clear memories of them and couldnâ€™t explain why. Now, if he feels anything â€œstrangeâ€ â€”like dÃ©jÃ vu, gut instinct, chills, good timing, coincidences, or even a hand on his leg or tug on his shirt, he knows itâ€™s Spirit. In 2001, Larry was diagnosed with a brain tumor and not only did he survive, he overcame most of the nerve damage that it caused. He credits more than his doctors for his recovery.
My favorite change in Larry, though, is that my tough, tattooed, motorcycle man has become more emotionally sensitive to everything for some reason. The Color Purple makes him cry and donâ€™t get him started on how much he loves our family. The guyâ€™s a sap.
The Start of Something Good
Though Iâ€™ve finally embraced my gift, Iâ€™m far from perfect. I have fewer panic attacks, and Iâ€™m much more independent. But I still donâ€™t like elevators or enclosed spaces, and Iâ€™m deathly afraid of the dark (no pun intended). I sleep with a nightlight and TV on, and I keep all the doors open except the closet. I also donâ€™t go into a deep sleep at night. I toss, I turn, I hear things, I feel things. And if I dream, I donâ€™t remember it. Larry says when my alarm goes off at six a.m., I get right upâ€”no stretching, no snoozing. Itâ€™s as if Iâ€™m happy that I donâ€™t have to be in that bed a minute longer. I try to be the best Theresa Caputo I can be, but there are plenty of days I come up short. Iâ€™m a medium, not a saint!
As someone who doesnâ€™t exactly hide her big personality, Iâ€™ve found it fun and interesting to channel souls that have distinct characters and stories. I love meeting new people, and being a medium can make me feel like the hostess at a really important gathering. Childrenâ€™s souls, especially, have told me, â€œMy parents have been to mediums, but I like channeling through you because you let my parents see me.â€ People can feel their loved ones and how they acted or spoke when they were at their best. Iâ€™m not saying this is because Iâ€™m better than other mediumsâ€”no no no no no. I feel that all mediums channel and connect with Spirit differently; one isnâ€™t more skilled or better than another.
I realize that I have a lot to be grateful for. Iâ€™m glad that I can share this gift with other people, though my family likes to joke that I donâ€™t give them much of a choice when I stop them in the gym, dentist, or at the mall! Iâ€™m glad that Spirit continues to keep me on my toes, and with every single reading, they teach me something new. I also feel thankful that I have such an easygoing personality, or else it might be harder for me to accept my unusual abilities. As a rule, I donâ€™t question or overanalyze anythingâ€”I let life be simple. If you handed me a bottle of hair spray and asked how it worked, Iâ€™d say, â€œListen, I donâ€™t care how. Does it work? Yes? Great.â€ I donâ€™t need to know how, when, why. It is what it is, and thatâ€™s it. I treat Spirit communication the same way.
But, enough about me. Letâ€™s get down to Spirit!
Meet the Author
Theresa Caputo was born and raised on Long Island in Hicksville, New York, and lives with her husband and two children. Theresa began seeing spirits at age four. A sufferer of anxiety for many years, her mother suggested she go to a spiritual healer. After meeting with Pat Longo, an energy healer and spiritual teacher, she discovered she had the ability to communicate with spirits. Now a practicing medium for over ten years, Theresa started her business with just a business card and word of mouth and was booked for two years even before Long Island Medium aired on TLC. She now has a growing wait list. There’s More to Life Than This and You Can’t Make This Stuff Up became instant New York Times bestsellers.
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I loved this book. It's less about being a celebrity medium and more about her personal relationship with God, which I found very inspirational. She has a very unique gift that she uses to provide comfort and healing to others. You don't need to believe in Mediums to admire her for that.
This book is wonderful! I loved reading it--couldn't hardly put it down. It's a page turner that makes you sad when you're done reading because it's over. I'm going to wait a month and read it again (if I can wait that long! lol).
Great book. She's wonderful, I've met her (in a store!) and she she gave me a wonderful message from my deceased grandparents. She's a kind, compassionate woman. Excellent book.
This was a great book. I did skim one chapter but other than that it kept me interested and was enjoyable. Would love to meet this lady. I love her beliefs.
This book was awesome! It was WAY better than I thought it was going to be. It's like "Medium 101" with very positive and helpful hints if you want to develop further, how to put up boundaries, and what heaven/God is like. Her words spoke to me as if confirming for me something I already knew. The audiobook read by Theresa is also great! Love, love, love her! I highly recommend this book!
Its so good i cant even explain
LOVE LOVE LOVE!!!!!!!!!!
Incredible book. I have payed it forward and have given friends and family her book as a gift. This book will help answer questions we all have regarding Spirit..heaven...GOD...and why its so important to pray and love each other. Read this book...it will change your life.
Incredibly healing for anyone, grieving or not. There ARE scams out there, but Theresa is the real deal. Highly recommended....I did not need the audio version to read this book in her voice ;-)
Theresa is wonderful. She is humble and very caring. She does not have an ego. Theresa has helped so many people understand the true gift of mediumship and has provided loving/caring messages from our loved ones on the other side. I have seen Theresa in person twice now, and she is incredibly good. This book is appropriate for people who know very little about the subject, to experts. Thank you Theresa for enlightening so many. While she doesn't care if you believe her, she truly does care about the people and the messages she delivers. We are all trying to evolve - to become better human beings, learning the lessons of love and caring for our fellow man. Looking at Theresa, knowing what she has revealed in this book, you realize what is truly important in life. It's not having the best fitness, or the most rewarding career, or the best education. Life really is about reaching out to others, acknowledging their pain, sharing a smile and some kind words, reassuring them that all is well, etc. WWJD, as they say. Well, she is doing it. Theresa is here to remind us all that faith should always prevail over fear. You can't have both. And remember, what doesn't kill you, makes your soul wiser.
I read this book in one day. I couldn't put it down. Very inspirational and has connected me back with meditating and trying to think more positively. Love how honest Theresa is.
This was a book I couldn't put down!! This is a type of book I love reading...when it's hard to stop, for even a moment!! Theresa Caputo is THE best medium I've ever watched, and her book truly gives insight into her talents. Her compassion and caring for each and every person she reads for comes shining through each time. Her wit and wisdom comes through in every page of her book. I now have a better knowledge of how she developed her talents, and how she receives the information from Spirit. I plan to re-read it again...to cry, to smile, to absorb all I can from this beautiful lady. AND to dream of a reading one day from this fantastic LONG ISLAND MEDIUM!!!
I am a huge fan of Theresa and her show, and I'm so glad I bought her book! It confirmed many things about Spirit and the afterlife that I always knew in my heart to be true. It also comforted and warmed my heart to know without a doubt that my mom's spirit is always with me and giving me "signs". Again I already knew this in my heart, but Theresa validated it for me. Thank you, Theresa, for all you do!
AWESOME FELT LIKE THIS BOOK WAS DONE FOR ME!
Sharing her gift and experiences, Theresa helps one understand why "things happen for a reason" in the "circle of life." Brings comfort and confirmation of what many believe and experience themselves. I will listen to this book audio again!
Reading this book I could actual hear Theresa talking, she has that perky funny voice. She is very spiritual and I found this book both uplifting at times but also made me stop and think others.
I haven't even finished this book yet, but already I can safely give it a 5!!! Amazing, this is not just Theresa patting herself on the back, this is a book full of comfort, joy and spiritual teachings beyond my wildest imagination. I have highlighted, marked, flagged so many pages already its silly the whole book is highlight worthy. She is humorous, gentle, inspiring and comforting. There is more to life...
I LOVED this book! It is a quick read - I had a hard time putting it down...I was so fascinated by her explanations - which were made as simple as possible, so even if you don't fully understand how a Medium's "gift" works - you do after reading this. I think Theresa is a delightful gem of a human being for uplifting the souls of the living by communicating with the souls of the dead. I found this book to be very inspirational and hope there will be another book in the near future!
This book is very interesting and explains the mysteries of death. Her show on TV tells stories of some of the people she helps, but this book goes deeper in detail. Very helpful for all to read explaining death and hear after.
Loved it... Love Theresa! Great afterword by the coauthor, too.
Thank you Mrs. Caputo!! Your book has helped me sooo much with the very recent loss of my younger sister. She was only 47 yrs old. Your book is well written & easily understood. I am no longer struggling with her loss.
I don't understand this gift but I have seen questions answered by Theresa that I cannot explain. I have a friend that sees things happen ahead of time and I can't explain that either.
This book reads exactly like Theresa Caputo talks! It is filled with many anecdotes similar to those depicted in her show "Long Island Medium." She also addresses many afterlife questions about which we are all curious. Theresa's humor is sprinkled throughout and the book overall is an easy read. If you are a fan, you will enjoy this book!
I loved this book. Very uplifting and an excellent read. It definitely reflects Theresa's humor and personality!
Left me feeling great and positive! Well done! Want more ASAP!