They Don't Like Me: Lessons on Bullying and Teasing from a Preschool Classroom

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In her new book, Jane Katch explores the painful problems of bullying, teasing, and exclusion. Why, she wonders, does a young child, just becoming aware of the existence of the group, feel such a strong need to keep another child out? And is it possible to teach children to create social groups that aren't defined by excluding others?

With her acute eye and deft pen, Katch watches her class of four- and five-year-olds begin to form exclusionary groups and tells us what happens ...

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Overview

In her new book, Jane Katch explores the painful problems of bullying, teasing, and exclusion. Why, she wonders, does a young child, just becoming aware of the existence of the group, feel such a strong need to keep another child out? And is it possible to teach children to create social groups that aren't defined by excluding others?

With her acute eye and deft pen, Katch watches her class of four- and five-year-olds begin to form exclusionary groups and tells us what happens as she tries to intervene. Talking with her brother, who teased her as a child; with high school kids; and, as always, with her class, Katch comes to new understandings of why some kids bully and scapegoat, how other kids get through the experience, and how she as a teacher might intervene. They Don't Like Me is at once a fascinating, absorbing look into the social lives of children and a book for teachers and parents who are trying to understand how to prevent exclusion and how to support children who are being teased and bullied.

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If you want to understand the power dynamics of kids, if you want to know what teasing and bullying looks like in early elementary school, then you must read They Don't Like Me. —Michael Thompson, coauthor of Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys

"Jane Katch offers us a rare gift, the insider's view of her remarkable classroom as she and her children struggle to understand what is fair and just in the explosive arena of those who intimidate and those who feel intimidated. . . In her vivid and honest narrative of classroom life among the young, we are given a reliable map of the moral dimensions of the teacher's art."—Vivian Gussin Paley, author of The Kindness of Children and You Can't Say You Can't Play

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780807023211
  • Publisher: Beacon
  • Publication date: 8/28/2004
  • Pages: 144
  • Sales rank: 1,476,018
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.33 (d)

Meet the Author

Jane Katch is the author of Under Deadman's Skin: Discovering the Meaning of Children's Violent Play and a contributor to Educational Leadership.A veteran teacher, she counseled emotionally disturbed children with Bruno Bettelheim at the Orthogenic School and taught kindergarten with Vivian Paley at the University of Chicago Lab School. She now teaches young children at the Touchstone Community School in Grafton, Massachusetts, and lives in Connecticut with her family.

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Table of Contents

1 Complicated 1
2 Who Cares? 6
3 The Mystery of the Dead Unicorns, Chapter 1 10
4 Are You Afraid of the Dark? 14
5 I Only Play with Five-Years-Olds 18
6 Pretending to Die 21
7 Someone I Don't Love 26
8 Shouting 29
9 Roaring, Again 31
10 An Expert on Teasing 33
11 Eyeball-Head 35
12 I Can't Be Friends with a Total Stranger 39
13 In the Wilderness 42
14 Under Her Wing 46
15 All on My Terms 53
16 A Leaf Named Tim 56
17 Give-and-take 59
18 It's All about Me 63
19 Under Their Wings 67
20 Caboose 69
21 Unicorns Can't Climb Trees 71
22 Missing Gym Shoes 73
23 A Unicorn in a Pokemon Game 76
24 Let Rain Take Care of It 79
25 A Perfect Statue 87
26 The Upper Hand 90
27 Stuff That Roars 95
28 The Haircut 99
29 Chicken Pox 102
30 Awareness 104
31 Bugs! 109
32 Under His Wing 112
33 Good Game, Bad Game 116
34 The Necklace 120
35 What's Really Important 122
36 Bop, Bop 124
Epilogue: Lessons from Spitballs 127
Acknowledgments 134
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