Things My Girlfriend and I Have Argued About [NOOK Book]


"Things My Girlfriend and I Have Argued About concerns a guy named Pel who lives with his German girlfriend, Ursula. Pel leads an uneventful life - quietly bluffing his way through his job and discovering new things to argue about with Ursula. But when his boss mysteriously disappears, Pel steps innocently into his shoes and his life spirals out of control in a chaotic whirl of stolen money, missing colleagues, and Chinese mafiosi." Its fractured thriller plot punctuated by blazingly hilarious set-piece arguments between the hapless Pel and the
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"Things My Girlfriend and I Have Argued About concerns a guy named Pel who lives with his German girlfriend, Ursula. Pel leads an uneventful life - quietly bluffing his way through his job and discovering new things to argue about with Ursula. But when his boss mysteriously disappears, Pel steps innocently into his shoes and his life spirals out of control in a chaotic whirl of stolen money, missing colleagues, and Chinese mafiosi." Its fractured thriller plot punctuated by blazingly hilarious set-piece arguments between the hapless Pel and the unflappable Ursula, Things My Girlfriend and I Have Argued About is a brilliant comic novel examining the unique warfare in long-term relationships.
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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Millington's debut novel is an outgrowth of his Web site of the same name, on which he has been posting, for the last year, comic vignettes about life with his German girlfriend. Predictably, it consists mostly of comic bickering between first-person narrator Pel Dalton and his own German girlfriend, the insouciant Ursula Kretenjeger. The couple lives in a ramshackle, dirt-cheap house in "an area of the northeast of England so dire that the government was applying for a grant from the European Union for it to be placed under martial law" with their two young sons. Pel is something of a slacker ("for me, half-heartedness is a full-quarter too hearted"), the bumbling head of an IT team at the local university library. After their house is broken into, the marginally more conventional Ursula insists they look for something in a better neighborhood. House hunting, like most of the other plot turns in the book-which include Pel taking over for his mysteriously vanished boss and becoming the courier for a Chinese gang-is mostly an opportunity for lots of funny sparring on every subject from whose turn it is to defrost the refrigerator to whether "cock" or "dick" is the better euphemism for penis. Overall, the comic material is uneven; some of it is overwritten and a bit obvious, but at its best, Pel's narration is side-splitting. There are no shattering insights about men and women, but the book never pretends to be more than it is: an entertaining and genuinely funny romp through the trials of coupledom. (Jan.) Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.
Library Journal
The battle of the sexes continues unabated in British author Millington's quirkily comic debut novel. Pel and his German girlfriend, Ursula, have two children and any number of differences between them. He watches a lot of television and so can be depended on to know when Britain declares war on, say, Finland. Ursula is more outgoing and talks to the neighbors a lot, so she knows, for instance, what neighbor is harboring nuclear weapons in the garage. Pel works in the computer section of a library or, more properly, a Learning Centre, which is attached to a shiny new university whose students are recruited by a Japanese crime syndicate. What's more, the new computer lab is being built over the remains of an antediluvian graveyard, which raises the interesting issue of what to do with the bodies. Speaking of which, after a top administrator disappeared a number of years ago (and nobody noticed), her salary has funded many such valuable projects. Students of academic satire such as James Hynes's Lecturer's Tale will find much that might be familiar and funny here. The inevitable comparisons with Nick Hornby shouldn't detract from Millington's unique, laugh-out-loud take on sexual and academic shenanigans. For all large public libraries.-Bob Lunn, Kansas City P.L., MO Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.
From the Publisher
“[A] brilliantly-written comedy . . . both funny and affectionate.” —The Guardian

“There is little to say about coupledom that is not wittily and often movingly explored here. Sharply-written, brilliantly-observed and absolutely hilarious.” —Daily Mail

“A funny and heart-warming comedy about love, fatherhood and being in the wrong places at all the wrong times.”—Essentials

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781588362810
  • Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 1/14/2003
  • Sold by: Random House
  • Format: eBook
  • Sales rank: 482,985
  • File size: 353 KB

Meet the Author

Mil Millington is the creator of the cult website and co-founder of He writes for various newspapers and magazines and was named by the Guardian as one of the top five debut novelist of 2002. Mil lives in the West Midlands with his girlfriend and their two children.
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Where the hell are the car keys?”

I’m now late. Ten minutes ago I was early. I was wandering about in a too-early limbo, in fact; scratching out a succession of ludicrously trivial and unsatisfying things to do, struggling against the finger-drumming effort of burning away sections of the too-earliness. The children, quick to sense I was briefly doomed to wander the earth without reason or rest, had attached themselves, one to each of my legs. I clumped around the house like a man in magnetic boots while they laughed themselves breathless and shot at each other with wagging fingers and spit-gargling mouth noises from the cover of opposite knees.

Now, however, I’m in a fury of lateness. The responsibility for this rests wholly with the car keys and thereby with their immediate superior—my girlfriend, Ursula.

“Where—where the hell—are the car keys?” I shout down the stairs. Again.

Reason has long since fled. I’ve looked in places where I know there is no possible chance of the car keys lurking. Then I’ve rechecked all those places again. Just in case, you know, I suffered transitory hysterical blindness the first time I looked. Then I’ve looked down, gasping with exhaustion, begged the children to please get off my legs now, and looked a third time. I’m a single degree of enraged frustration away from continuing the search along the only remaining path, which is slashing open the cushion covers, pulling up the floorboards and pickaxing through the plasterboard false wall in the attic.

I do a semi-controlled fall down the stairs to the kitchen,where Ursula is making herself a cup of coffee in a protective bubble of her own, non-late, serene indifference.

“Well?” I’m so clenched I have to shake the word from my head.

“Well what?”

“What do you mean ‘Well what’? I’ve just asked you twice.”

“I didn’t hear you, Pel. I had the radio on.” Ursula nods towards the pocket-sized transistor radio on the shelf. Which is off.

“On what? On stun? Where are the damn car keys?”

“Where they always are.”

“I will kill you.”

“Not, I imagine . . .” Ursula presents a small theater of stirring milk into her coffee. “. . . with exhaust fumes.”

“Arrrrgggh!” Then, again, to emphasize the point, “Arrrrgggh!” That out of my system, I return again to measured debate. “Well, obviously, I didn’t think to look where they always are. Good Lord—how banal would I have to be to go there? However, My Precious, just so we can share a smile at the laughable, prosaic obviousness of it all, WHERE ARE THE CAR KEYS? ALWAYS?”

“They are in the front room. On the shelf. Behind the Lava Lamp.”

“And that’s where they always are, is it? You don’t see any contradiction at all in their always-are place being somewhere they have never been before this morning?”

“It’s where I put them every day.”

I snatch up the keys and hurl myself towards the door, jerking on my jacket as I move; one arm thrust into the air, waggling itself urgently up the sleeve as if it’s attached to a primary school pupil who knows the answer. “That’s a foul and shameless lie.”

As my trailing arm hooks the front door shut behind me, Ursula shouts over the top of her coffee cup, “Bring back some bread—we’re out of bread.” It’s 9:17 a.m.

The story in whose misleadingly calm shallows you’re standing right now is not a tragedy. How do I know? Because a tragedy is the tale of a person who holds the seeds of his own destruction within him. This is entirely contrary to my situation—everyone else holds the seeds of my destruction within them; I just wanted to keep my head down and hope my lottery numbers came up, thanks very much. This story is therefore not a tragedy, for technical rea- sons.

But never mind that now, let’s not get ahead of ourselves. Let’s just stick a pin in the calendar, shrug “Why not?” and begin on a routine Sunday just after my triumphant car-key offensive. Nothing but the tiniest whiffs of what is to come are about my nostrils. My life is uncluttered with incident and all is tranquil.

Dad, can we go to Laser Wars?”

“It’s six-thirty a.m., Jonathan, Laser Wars isn’t open yet.”

“Dad will take you to Laser Wars after he’s mowed the lawn, Jonathan.”

It appears I’m mowing the lawn today, then.

“Mow the lawn! Mow the lawn!” Peter jumps up and down on the bed, each time landing ever closer to my groin.

“Dad—mow the lawn. Come on, quickly,” instructs Jonathan.

There’s very little chance of my mowing the lawn quickly as we have a sweat-powered mower, rather than an electric- or petrol-driven one. Ursula was insistent—not that she’s ever non-insistent—that we get an ancient, heavy iron affair (clearly built to instill Christian values into the inmates of a Dickensian debtors’ prison) because it is more friendly to the environment than a mower that uses fossil fuels to protect one’s rupturing stomach muscles. Almost without exception, things that are friendly to the environment are the sworn enemies of Pel.

Still, out there grunting my way up and down the grass, my children laughing at the threat of traumatic amputation as they circle around me, girlfriend calling out from the kitchen, “Cup of tea? Can you make me a cup of tea when you’re finished?”—it’s a little picture of domestic heaven, isn’t it? You never realize the value of wearying matter-of-factness until it’s gone.

•  •  •

Have you finished?” Ursula has watched through the window as I’ve returned from the lawn heaving the mower behind me, placed it by the fence, made to come into the house, caught her eye, gone back to it and wearily removed all the matted grass from the blades and cogs, made to come into the house, caught her eye, returned to sweep all the removed matted grass from the yard and clear it away into the bin, and—staring resolutely ahead—come into the house.

“Yes, I’ve finished.”

“You’re not going to go round the edges with the clippers, then?”

“That’s right. Precisely that meaning of finished.”

“I really can’t understand you. You always do this kind of thing—why do a job badly?”

“Because it’s easier. Duh.”

Ursula is saved the embarrassment of not being able to dispute the solidity of this argument because the phone rings and she darts away to answer it. In a frankly shocking turn of events, the kind of thing that makes you call into question all you thought you knew, the phone call is actually for me. The phone has never rung in this house before and not been for Ursula. She must be gutted.

“It’s Terry,” says Ursula, handing me the receiver with the kind of poor attempt at nonchalance you might display when nodding a casual “hi” to the person who dumped you the previous night. Terry Steven Russell, by the way, is my boss.

“Hi, Terry—it’s Sunday.”

“A detail I didn’t need. Listen, have you got some time to talk today?”

“I suppose so. Apart from going to Laser Wars in an hour or so, I don’t think I’m doing anything all day.” (Across the kitchen I note Ursula raise her eyebrows in an “Oh, that’s what you think, is it?” kind of way.)

“Laser Wars? Great. That’s perfect, in fact. I’ll see you there. ’Bye.”

“Yeah, ’b . . .” But he’s already hung up.

What are you thinking?”



Ursula appears to have an, in my opinion, unhealthy obsession with what I’m thinking. It can’t be normal to ask a person, as often as she asks me, “What are you thinking?” In fact, I know it’s not normal. Because I’m normal, and I virtually never ask her what she’s thinking.

I’m apparently not allowed, ever, to be thinking “nothing.” Odd, really, when you consider the number of times—during an argument over something or other I’ve done—I’ll have “I don’t believe it! What was going through your head? Nothing?” thrown over me. The fact is, I find thinking “nothing” enormously easy. It’s not something I’ve had to work at, either. For me, achieving a sort of Zen state is practically effortless. Perhaps “Zen” is even my natural state. Sit me in a chair and do nothing more than leave me alone and—dink!—there I am: Zenned.

However, this—I think you’ll agree—incandescently impressive reasoning would ching off Ursula into the sightless horizon like a bullet off a tank. “Nothing” is simply not a thing I can possibly be thinking. For a while I did try having something prepared. You know, a standby. A list of things I could fall back on when caught with my synapses down. Thus:

Copyright© 2003 by Mil Millington
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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 21, 2012

    Funny but unsatisfying

    Two chapters of this book did have me laughing out loud, but the rest was only mildly funny. And the ending was so completely unsatisfactory it ruined my enjoyment. It's like the author just gave up because he had written himself into a corner.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 26, 2006

    I really liked this book and I like the author's hairddo too!

    I think that this book really sparked a person's interest even if the person's mind drifts and is more passively reading. There are points in the book that can be shown how people of German descent rationalize. I think it is well worth reading, and I do plan to read it again a second time later on down the road to go over it again and will always keep it as a book to reflect on and open once in a while to read up on. It has some interesting writing by Mr. Milington and well worth the effort.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 9, 2004

    What a blast!

    This is, without a doubt, the funniest book I have ever read. I read it on vacation, and got many strange looks as I sat on the beach all day laughing (continuously) out loud! Very highly recommended.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 29, 2004

    The One and Only!

    BE AWARE that this book can cause a lot of embarrassing situations. <br>You could..<br> .. fall off the toilet because you laugh so hard <br> .. get scared of German Girls <br> .. become obsessed with Mils Writing <br><br> A Must for everyone who's able to read. For the analphabets : the audiobook should be out soon!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 26, 2003

    GO MIL!!!

    I have not yet read the book, but his website (same title as the book, COMPLETELY different material) is so funny, I probably have lost 10 pounds just laughing. Three thumbs up for this book!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 12, 2003

    The Bed Shook with Our Giggles

    I don't often read a book that makes me laugh out loud. This one did throughout. Then I gave it to my wife. She spent the entire weekend giggling--the bed shook with her giggles at night, which was highly annoying since I was reading a serious book about China at the time. Anyone who's lived in a relationship for an extended period of time will laugh, oftentimes at themselves.

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