In How to Be Safe in an Unsafe World, bestselling author and psychiatrist Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., joins with independent scholar Robert K. Cooper, Ph.D., to show how a chronic lack of inner safety can be a major and often overlooked cause of emotional distress, broken relationships, and physical illness. This groundbreaking book provides you and your family with the specifics of what the authors call safety intelligence: proven, practical ways to increase both your sense of inner security and external safety ...
In How to Be Safe in an Unsafe World, bestselling author and psychiatrist Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., joins with independent scholar Robert K. Cooper, Ph.D., to show how a chronic lack of inner safety can be a major and often overlooked cause of emotional distress, broken relationships, and physical illness. This groundbreaking book provides you and your family with the specifics of what the authors call safety intelligence: proven, practical ways to increase both your sense of inner security and external safety from self-defeating cycles of fear and insecurity. The results are improved health and a liberating new sense of freedom from emotional paralysis, because the safer you feel, the safer you can actually become.
Returning from their collaboration on The Power of 5, Bloomfield, a psychiatrist, and Cooper, an erstwhile security specialist, begin this insightful look at the growing concern with personal safety by introducting the concept of "inner safety"a general sense of self-confidence and the ability to cope with conflict as it arisesthat results from what they call "safety intelligence." This book is an attempt to teach safety intelligence though exercises and by examples of how to maintain safety on a daily basis and to respond appropriately to various dangers. Bloomfield and Cooper stress that "many threatening situations can be avoided or de-escalated before they ever reach physical violence." They lead readers through a series of lessons on "calm-alertness," on the ability to create and maintain "safer spaces to live and work" and on "emotional safety." To deal with attacks that become unavoidable, they teach a three-step response: "the split-second PAUSE," to assess the situation and decide how best to respond; "focused emotional energy"; and "two+ responses," using "two or more de-escalating phrases." These specific responses are then applied to a variety of possible situations in homes, workplaces or schools; in the car or on the street; and in personal relationships. From muggings to domestic abuse, this book offers an uncomfortable yet necessary and thorough education in personal safety that most people lack and, unfortunately, may need at some time in their lives. Author tour. (May)
Two major concerns today are safety and happiness. Both topics are treated in this book, which is certain to be a popular choice for self-helpers. Bloomfield (How To Heal Depression, Prelude, 1994) and Cooper, a security and protection specialist, outline the skills necessary to create "a strong inner sense of personal safety" that can defuse many types of attacks. After a discussion of safety intelligence principles, the authors detail specific protection methods for various situations. Heavy promotional activity and forewords by John Gray and Deepak Chopra assure this book's sales. Recommended.January Adams, Franklin Twp. P.L., N.J.
1. Refrain from yelling the word "Help" when being attacked and scream words like "Fire" instead. Statistics show that bystanders are less likely to lend aid when a victim yells, "Help!"
2. Avoid asking an assailant questions beginning with "what" or "why" (such as "What are you doing?" or "Why are you hurting me?"), which will only provoke more hostility. Ask questions that begin with "when" (such as "When did you become so angry?"), which will help de-escalate your assailant's anger.
3. Whether you are on the street, in a subway, or even in a car, never return a predatory stare.
4. If you are outside your car and face an armed carjacker, give up your vehicle. Never enter a car at gunpoint. Run away from your assailant in a zig-zag fashion.
5. For women: Place a few "male" props, like a baseball cap, necktie, or male basketball shoes, on the seat of your car.
6. If you have a flat tire, call 911 on your cellular phone or drive slowly to the nearest safe place and seek help, even if you ruin your tire.
7. When a conversation heats up at home, call a "time-out" and wait until tempers have cooled to rationally discuss the conflict with the other person, or to sort things out on your own. (Statistics also show that talking on a full stomach can help prevent major fights.)
8. If it appears that a break-in has occurred, or that an intruder is in your home or workplace when you arrive, do not enter.
9. Create a "safe room" (secure from break-ins) in your home and a "safe space" (through meditation) within yourself.
10. Advocateestablishing more shelters for women and children. The United States currently has three times as many animal shelters as it has shelters for battered women.