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If you're fat and fail every diet, if you're thin but can't get thin enough, if you lose your job, if your child dies, if you are diagnosed with cancer, if you always end up with exactly the wrong kind of person, if you always end up alone, if you can't get over the past, if your parents are insane and ruining your life, if you really and truly wish you were dead, if you feel like it's your destiny to be a star, if you believe life has a grudge against you, if you don't want to have sex with your spouse and ...
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If you're fat and fail every diet, if you're thin but can't get thin enough, if you lose your job, if your child dies, if you are diagnosed with cancer, if you always end up with exactly the wrong kind of person, if you always end up alone, if you can't get over the past, if your parents are insane and ruining your life, if you really and truly wish you were dead, if you feel like it's your destiny to be a star, if you believe life has a grudge against you, if you don't want to have sex with your spouse and don't know why, if you feel so ashamed, if you're lost in life. If you have ever wondered, How am I aupposed to survive this? This is How.

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Publishers Weekly
In this hilarious and searingly straightforward memoir, Burroughs (Running with Scissors) turns the self-help genre upside down with his advice on matters ranging broadly from “how to be fat” and “how to lose someone you love” to “how to hold onto your dream or maybe not” and “how to finish your drink.” On “how to find love,” for example, he counsels, “be the person you are, not the person you think you should be… if you want to have a chance at meeting somebody with whom you are genuinely compatible, never put your best foot forward… be exactly the person you would be if you were alone or with somebody it was safe to fart around.” On “Why Having It All Is Not,” Burroughs commends the virtues of limits and the ways that such limits force improvisation; he doesn’t believe “you can feel deep satisfaction in your life unless your life contains restless areas, holes, and imperfections.” In “How to End Your Life,” Burroughs, recalling his own teenage experience, distinguishes between suicide and ending life. After his brush with suicide, he realizes that he really didn’t want to kill himself; what he really wanted was to end his life, which he accomplishes simply by changing his name and walking out the door and starting a new life. As always, Burroughs is smart and energetically forthright about living and loving. (May)
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“Burroughs's voice is persuasive and humble, and he sounds like he genuinely wants to give good advice.” – AudioFile Magazine
Library Journal
Burroughs (Running with Scissors) playfully shares his hard-won insights in a book that is the antidote to the "just be positive" approach to life. Not a memoir, it reads more like a conversation with a close friend about truthfulness and authenticity, figuring things out and being hopeful, starting from where one is and learning to listen to oneself. Each short chapter explores a different topic: shame, despair, loss, body issues, hardship. Grounded in the understanding that life is a messy business, the book overflows with moments both wonderful and difficult. It is hard to know what to do with anger, pain, and obsession, Burroughs acknowledges, but he offers a kind of remedy: learn to live with it, to transform it, to move forward. This is about how to create a life from the circumstances of the present moment. The book has a soft ending, but readers won't mind because it's been a great ride. VERDICT There will be lots of attention and interest in this book: definitely order. Recommended for readers of popular culture, self-help, and psychology. [See Prepub Alert, 11/14/11.]—Nancy Almand, Fresno City Coll. Lib., CA
Kirkus Reviews
Acclaimed memoirist Burroughs (You Better Not Cry: Stories for Christmas, 2009, etc.) charts new territory, offering his readers advice on life. With a cinematic novel and a series of bestselling memoirs under his belt, the author now presents life advice that's as unconventionally scattered as one would expect. His tongue-in-cheek guidance, predictably couched in personal anecdotes, opens with a chapter on rejecting the "superupbeat umbrella" of positive affirmations, and proceeds to deliver the straight, though clichéd, dope on bad love ("Abusive people never change"), the search for romantic connections ("get out of your own way"), weight loss ("real beauty comes from the inside") and guilt-free self-pity ("sometimes you just feel like shit"). Most sections straddle the line between supportive empowerment and tough love and are written with the author's characteristic dark humor, which consistently entertains and, as the pages turn, earnestly educates. Burroughs offers smart counsel on keeping communication honest (with yourself and others), the right to personal freedoms and the best mindset for a job interview; he also gives personal perspectives on his suicide attempt and how he conquered alcoholism. Some chapters focus constructively on self-esteem and positive affirmations, while others meander, as in a heartfelt piece on love that veers off to describe the benefits of residing on the southern tip of Manhattan. Both introspective and uneven, the outspoken author wraps everything up with an ethereal final chapter draped in the kind of mawkish Zen goodness that will work wonders for those in need of a morale booster. Despite pages of platitudes, Burroughs provides plenty of worthy material on the absurdity of the human condition and the unpredictability of contemporary life.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781250011565
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press
  • Publication date: 5/8/2012
  • Sold by: Macmillan
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 57,204
  • File size: 811 KB

Meet the Author


AUGUSTEN BURROUGHS is the number one New York Times bestselling author of A Wolf At The Table, Possible Side Effects, Magical Thinking, Dry, Running with Scissors, and Sellevision. He lives in Manhattan.

Biography

Although Augusten Burroughs achieved moderate success with his debut novel, Sellevision, it was his 2002 memoir, Running with Scissors, that catapulted him into the literary stratosphere. Indeed, few writers have spun a bizarre childhood and eccentric personal life into literary gold with as much wit and panache as Burroughs, whose harrowing accounts of dysfunction and addiction are offset by an acerbic humor readers and critics find irresistible.

Born Christopher Robison (he changed his name when he turned 18), Burroughs is the son of an alcoholic father who abandoned his family and a manic-depressive mother who fancied herself a poet in the style of Anne Sexton. At age 12, he was farmed out to his mother's psychiatrist, a deeply disturbed -- and disturbing -- man whose medical license was ultimately revoked for gross misconduct. In Running with Scissors, Burroughs recounts his life with the pseudonymous Finch family as an experience tantamount to being raised by wolves. The characters he describes are unforgettable: children of assorted ages running wild through a filthy, dilapidated Victorian house, totally unfettered by rules or inhibitions; a variety of deranged patients who take up residence with the Finches seemingly at will; and a 33-year-old pedophile who lives in the backyard shed and initiates an intense, openly homosexual relationship with the 13-year-old Burroughs right under the doctor's nose.

That he is able to wring humor and insight out of this shocking scenario is testimony to Burroughs's writing skill. Upon its publication in 2002, Scissors was hailed as "mordantly funny" (Los Angeles Times), "hilarious" (San Francisco Chronicle), and "sociologically suggestive and psychologically astute" (The New York Times). The book became a #1 bestseller and was turned into a 2006 movie starring Annette Bening, Alec Baldwin, and Joseph Fienes.

[Although the doctor who "raised" Burroughs was never named in the memoir, six members of the real-life family sued the author and his publisher for defamation, claiming that whole portions of the book were fabricated. Burroughs insisted that the book was entirely accurate but agreed in the 2007 settlement to change the wording of the author's note and acknowledgement in future editions of the book. He was never required to change a single word of the memoir itself.]

Since Running with Scissors, Burroughs has mined snippets of his life for more bestsellers, including further installments of his memoir (Dry, A Wolf at the Table) and several well-received collections of razor-sharp essays. His writing continues to appear in newspapers and magazines around the world, and he is a regular contributor to National Public Radio's Morning Edition.

Good To Know

Some fun and fascinating outtakes from our interview with Burroughs:

"When I was very young, maybe six or seven, I used to make little books out of construction paper and wallpaper. Then I'd sew the spine of the book with a needle and thread. Only after I had the actual book did I sit down with a pencil and write the text. I actually still have one of these little books and it's titled, obliquely, Little Book."

"Well, all of a sudden I am obsessed with PMC. For those of you who think I am speaking about plastic plumbing fixtures, I am not. PMC stands for Precious Metal Clay. And it works just like clay clay. You can shape it into anything you want. But after you fire it, you have something made of solid 22k gold or silver. So you want to be very careful. Anyway, I plan to make dog tags. So there's something."

"I'm a huge fan of English shortbread cookies, of anything English really. I very nearly worship David Strathairn. And I'm afraid that if I ever return to Sydney, Australia, I may not return."

"I will never refuse potato chips or buttered popcorn cooked in one of those thingamajigs you crank on top of the stove."

"And my politics could be considered extreme, as I truly believe that people who molest or otherwise abuse children should be buried in pits. And I do believe our country has been served by white male presidents quite enough for the next few hundred years. I really could go on and on here, so I'd best stop."

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    1. Also Known As:
      Augusten X. Burroughs
    2. Hometown:
      New York, New York and western Massachusetts
    1. Date of Birth:
      October 23, 1965
    2. Place of Birth:
      Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
    1. Education:
      No formal education beyond elementary school
    2. Website:

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This Is How

Proven Aid in Overcoming Shyness, Molestation, Fatness, Spinsterhood, Grief, Disease, Lushery, Decrepitude & More. For Young and Old Alike.
By Augusten Burroughs

St. Martin's Press

Copyright © 2012 Augusten Burroughs
All right reserved.

ISBN: 9780312563554

HOW TO RIDE AN ELEVATOR
 

SEVERAL YEARS AGO WHEN the relationship I assumed was both nearly perfect and my last turned out to be neither and ended car-off-cliff style, I experienced an unexpected and profound personal awakening.
This awakening arrived convincingly disguised as the most miserable and debilitating period of my life—a life that would now be trimmed short from the disease of ruination.
So complete was this state of psychological collapse, it even followed me into elevators.
As I stood in a hotel elevator one afternoon on my way back to my room, it stopped on that floor with all the conference rooms, where they keep the people with name tags.
One such person stepped into the lift, pushed the button for her floor, then took a step back and angled her body so that she was not quite facing me, but neither was she looking straight ahead at the seam where the doors meet, as common American Elevator Etiquette dictates.
Even out of the corner of my now suspicious eye I was able to register the “I’m a people person” body language such a stance suggested.
No sooner had I formed the silent thought, “God, a people person. She better not speak to—” I heard this: “It’s not that bad.”
I’d been scrupulously careful to keep my thought about her to myself; she had not done the same.
What’s more, she’d spoken these words much louder and with more conviction than you would think necessary for a space roughly the size of four caskets standing on end.
“I’m sorry?” I said.
She was looking at me with an expression of incredulity mixed with boldness. The highlights in her spiky hair had a greenish cast in the unflattering elevator lighting and her lipstick provided her with an upper lip that I saw she did not actually possess.
“I said, it’s not that bad,” and she gave me that frank, eyebrows up, let’s-be-real-here, look. “Whatever it is that happened, it can’t possibly be as bad as it looks on your face. How ’bout trying on a smile for size. And if you’re all out, I’ve got one you can borrow.”
My first thought was, “It’s leaking out of me? People can see it?”
My second thought was, “Die, bitch.”
But I am much too polite to say something like that so I said, “I’ll try.”
Encouraged, she continued. “It’ll lift your spirits. The first thing I do every morning is smile at myself in the mirror and say, ‘You are a powerful, positive person and nothing can get you down today.’”
Thank God the elevator doors were already open and she was on her way out as she finished yammering at me, but just to be on the safe side I reached forward and began stabbing the Door Close button.
Now, I have an uncommonly high threshold for most any category of stimulation you can think of, but especially when it comes to being shocked, horrified, or enraged.
I was all of these things now. After a mere elevator ride that could not possibly have lasted longer than thirty-five seconds. Maybe forty seconds, if we passed through some sort of time-expanding warp.
Once in my room I had to think, what the hell just happened there? Why do I hate Lipstickmouth so much?
I am not a spiritual person, as I was in childhood. But occasionally, one event in my life will so quickly be followed by a second event that so perfectly replies to the first, it gives me pause and makes me wonder if I still have my St. Christopher medal somewhere.
Glancing down at my laptop, I noticed the following bold headline in my news feed:
SELF-HELP ‘MAKES YOU FEEL WORSE.’ Bridget Jones is not alone in turning to self-help mantras to boost her spirits, but a study warns they may have the opposite effect.
I immediately clicked on the link and was taken to the BBC’s website, where I read the article.
Canadian researchers found those with low self-esteem actually felt worse after repeating positive statements about themselves.
They said phrases such as “I am a lovable person” only helped people with high self-esteem.
The study appeared in the journal Psychological Science.… They found that, paradoxically, those with low self-esteem were in a better mood when they were allowed to have negative thoughts than when they were asked to focus exclusively on affirmative thoughts.… Repeating positive self-statements may benefit certain people, such as individuals with high self-esteem, but backfire for the very people who need them the most.
No wonder I had found that woman so offensive. Sometimes things feel that bad.
Sometimes you just feel like shit.
Telling yourself you feel terrific and wearing a brave smile and refusing to give in to “negative thinking” is not only inaccurate—dishonest—but it can make you feel worse.
Which makes perfect sense. If you want to feel better, you need to pause and ask yourself, better than what?
Better than how you feel at this moment, perhaps.
But in order to feel better than you feel at this moment, you need to identify how you feel, exactly.
It’s like this: if California represents your desire to “feel better,” you won’t be able to get there—no matter how many maps you have—unless you know where you are starting from.
Finally, trained researchers in white lab coats with clipboards and cages filled with monkeys had demonstrated in a proper clinical setting what I myself had learned several years earlier in a rehab setting: affirmations are bullshit.
Affirmations are dishonest. They are a form of self-betrayal based on bogus, side-of-the-cereal-box psychology.
The truth is, it is not going to help to stand in front of the mirror, look into your own eyes, and lie to yourself. Especially when you are the one person you are supposed to believe you can count on.
Affirmations are the psychological equivalent of sprinkling baby powder on top of the turd your puppy has left on the carpet. This does not result in a cleaner carpet. It coats the underlying issue with futility.
If affirmations were effective, a rape victim should be able to walk in her front door following the attack, go into the bathroom, and, with her silk blouse hanging in shredded strips from her collarbones, scratch marks bleeding on her breasts—one nipple missing—and her bangs pasted to her filthy forehead with dirt and dried semen, say to her reflection, “I am too strong and independent to be hurt by negativity. I feel unafraid and powerful. I am grateful for the opportunity I have had tonight to experience something new, learn a little more about myself, and triumph in the face of adversity,” and then feel perfectly okay, maybe even a little bit rushy on those feel-good endorphins runners are always going on and on about.
When in fact, what does help the person who has been raped is to chew it up and then spit it the hell out. And by chew it up I mean talk about it, write about it, paint it, make a movie about it, and then be done with it and move on. Because here’s the truth about rape: you do not have to be victimized by it forever. You can take this awful, bottomless horror the rapist has inflicted on you, and you can seize it and recycle it into something wonderful and helpful and useful. You can, in this way, transform what was “done” to you into something that was “given” to you in the form of brutally raw material. You can, in other words, accept this hideous thing and embrace it and take complete control of the experience and reshape it as you please. This is not to deny the experience and how devastating it is; it is to accept the experience on the deepest level as your own possession now. An experience that is now part of you. Instead of allowing it to be a tap that drains you, you can force it into duty in service to your creative or intellectual goals.
Many people do not want to admit to themselves or others when they are feeling distressed, anxious, insecure, lonely, or any of the other emotions people feel that exist uncomfortably outside the superupbeat umbrella. So it’s chin up and sprinkle, sprinkle, sprinkle.
Should I have smiled when that woman stepped on to the elevator?
“Good afternoon. You must be here for a conference. I hope you’re enjoying it.”
“Good afternoon to you, too. And I am enjoying the conference very much. Always nice to be out of the office for a change of scenery.”
“I hear you. Well, this is my floor. You have a terrific day.”
“I will. You do the same.”
Is that the scene as it ought to have played? Would an exchange of greasy, zero-calorie pleasantries improve the world?
Is the act of making an effort to remain positive and speak in familiar, nonthreatening clichés better, healthier for us, emotionally?
I don’t think so.
Why couldn’t that woman just speak the plain truth and say something like, “I don’t know what’s wrong, but I do know that I’ve looked into the mirror and seen your expression on my face. And I don’t really have a point, I just wanted to say that.”
Now, there’s nothing nasty in what she said; she wasn’t crazy or rude.
It’s just that, there was nothing useful in what she said, either. No nutrition at all. Truthfulness itself is almost medicinal, even when it’s served without advice or insight. Just hearing true words spoken out loud provides relief.
It’s not that I wanted her to say something helpful; I hadn’t needed her to say a word. What was offensive and kind of vile was that she obviously saw on my face a mood dark and powerful enough to warrant an intrusion.
She then proceeded to both express her disapproval of my mood and suggest I wear a mask that projected the opposite of how I felt.
It was just disappointing that dishonesty was her automatic response to my obvious unhappiness.
In our superpositive society, we have an unspoken zero-tolerance policy for negativity.
Beneath the catchall of negativity is basically everything that isn’t superpositive.
Seriously, who among us is having a Great! day every day? Who feels Terrific, thanks! all the time?
Nobody, but everybody. Because this is how we say hello to one another.
“Hey, Karen. How are you?”
“Hi, Jim. I’m great, thanks!”
It doesn’t matter if what we say isn’t really the truth because they’re not really asking how things are in our life and we’re not really telling them.
Just like when somebody sneezes, we don’t say “Bless you” because we’re worried a demon may seize this open-mouthed, closed-eyed moment and take possession of the person; we say “Bless you” because that’s the thing to say.
If you said to a person, “Hi, how are you?” and they told you they were very anxious because they suspected their teenage daughter might be sexually active and this was just not okay, you would probably feel extremely awkward, try to look concerned and empathetic, but also get away as soon as possible by explaining you were late for a meeting.
If you’re at all like me, you would suspect the person had some sort of mental illness and from that moment on, you would do your best to avoid them.
Because they answered truthfully the question that you, yourself, asked them.
Please believe me when I tell you that I am not suggesting you suddenly start yammering on about all your problems next time somebody asks, “How’s it going?”
I’m saying, wait. Look at this thing we all do without even thinking about it.
I’m also saying, look at this little lie we tell. Do you think there might be others we aren’t even aware of?
I’ll go ahead and tell you right now, yes, there are others. Some not so much lies as misunderstandings. Or inaccuracies.
In fact, you can be a very honest person and yet not be living a truthful life.
And not even realize it.
This matters because stripping away all the inaccuracies, misunderstandings, and untruths that surround you is exactly how you can overcome anything at all.
Truth is accuracy.
Without accuracy, you can’t expect to manifest large, specific changes in your life.
It’s not enough to believe something is true.
Knowing in your heart of hearts that the world is flat has absolutely no relationship to the actual shape of the planet, which will continue to spin on its spherical ass despite your belief in its flatness.
Because we only rarely have the opportunity to know the full truth about something, we have to try for as much accuracy as possible. Accuracy can be thought of as an incremental percentage of the truth.
Once again, by “truth” I don’t mean “your truth” or “my truth” or some stretchy, pliable, and fully customizable definition of Truth that suits our ever-changing needs.
I mean only the in-your-face, ignore-at-your-peril, star-sapphire-bright, no-wonder-therapy-failed, singular, shackle-cracking, like-it-or-not, rock-bottom, buck-stopping, mind-reeling, complete-transformation factual truth that resides at the center of every one of your issues and dreams and roadblocks and tragedies and miracles.
This is not the truth you tell yourself in order to not rock the boat, or to smooth things over or keep everyone comfortable.
The truth is humbling, terrifying, and often exhilarating. It blows the doors off the hinges and fills the world with fresh air.
This is why your search for the solution to the problems, issues, and obstacles you’re dealing with in your own life must begin with your mouth.
Specifically, the lies that come out of it.

 
Copyright © 2012 by Augusten Inc.


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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 16, 2012

    The truth shall set you free

    This is an amazingly simple, straightforward book. I plan to read it over and over again, and believe me, that's rare for me. In fact, I plan to buy hard copies and distribute to certain friends and family.

    6 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted June 20, 2012

    I hardly ever write reviews. This book is an exceptional gift t

    I hardly ever write reviews. This book is an exceptional gift to the world in the times we live in. If you are sick and tired of pop psychology and want the truth about your situation, this is the book for you. The author cuts through the b.s., with a machete. He literally reasons with you as to why all the conventional wisdom on these issues is completely wrong. I suspect he's done a lot of self investigation. If you are the slightest bit skeptical, I suggest you down load the free sample. You will know what he says is true on a spiritually intuitive level.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 7, 2012

    Highly recommended

    What I recommend is reading all of Augusten's books in order. He will really connect with you. It's like you know him. He is hands down one of the best writers out now.

    3 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 19, 2012

    I cannot say enough about how wonderful I found this book to be.

    I cannot say enough about how wonderful I found this book to be. I am wary of the mental health field, self-help guides, blah, blah, blah. This was a no nonsense, practical, down-to-earth handbook for life's many hurdles. I have already given 2 as gifts. Anyone who is contemplating the therapy route should read this book first.

    Thank you, Mr. Burroughs, for your wisdom and humor.

    3 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 12, 2012

    *advanced readers copy* Augusten Burroughs provides methods of o

    *advanced readers copy*
    Augusten Burroughs provides methods of overcoming numerous obstacles in our own psyches like: grief, shyness, lushery and spinsterhood to name a few. This advice coming from a realist is honest and darkly humorous at the same time. He covers every topic that is the bread and butter for psychologists everywhere.
    I am not a fan of self help. I have seen people go down dangerous and illegal avenues after reading some self help books available on the market. This is not that kind of self help. You aren’t required to travel the world spending money you don’t have or buying a bunch of vitamins you can’t pronounce. This is the stuff that we already know, but are too lazy to face. To use the now famous cliché; I had several ah-ha moments while reading this and getting stomach cramps because I was laughing so hard. This is the one self help book I will recommend to everyone.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted July 31, 2012

    I am addicted to self help books and so when I heard Mr. B wrote

    I am addicted to self help books and so when I heard Mr. B wrote one I ran to get it. This is funny and harsh yet a real eye opener. I agree with him, this is the book he was meant to write!! I heart him

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 24, 2012

    Not typical Burroughs

    I tried to enjoy this book but couldn't. It was missing the wit and humor I was used to from Burroughs.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 18, 2012

    I hate self-help books. But . . .

    No, I really do. The paper they're printed on would be better used for bird-cage liners, or shredded for mulch. Psycho-babble, clap-trap, "I'm OK, You're OK" -- good grief, if we're all OK why are we reading these?

    This book, however -- no sugar-coating, no garbage. Just full, brutal honesty. From ending your life without committing suicide, to becoming "thin," to dealing with the death of a loved one -- you'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll feel the sting of a wake-up slap across the face. Burroughs is not here to comfort you. He's here to show you how to reach deep inside for those nuggets of truth that you've so carefully wrapped in camouflage and hidden away. Because, as he says, truth is a force. Hiding it is like standing in front of an on-coming tornado and saying "I don't believe in tornadoes;" that's not going to stop the wind from blowing you away.

    Get this book. Really.

    2 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 29, 2012

    this is a must read for any person of any age. a raw and honest

    this is a must read for any person of any age.
    a raw and honest book that makes you re- examine every element of your own life is almost impossible to come by, but this one does so seamlessly.
    this has changed the way that i think about my life in more ways than one.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 28, 2012

    G Insightful

    Great read, but you can get lost in the details. These details would be best explained in a kind of summary paragraph. Overall, I loved it and love his writing style.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 10, 2012

    AUGUSTEN BURROUGHS SELF-HELP BOOK IS PURE TRUTH

    Burroughs breaks free from the typical self-help genre and with true grit writes off the edge of the page pulling the reader with him. He takes the reader to the interior of the soul and teaches us how to not only survive life's tragedies rather how to remain in the present, connected, while finding beauty, even if only a glimpse, inside the deepest pain and darkness people will face. He offers navagational tools and a mirror which reflects truth in its raw form. Augusten Burroughs writes as a maestro, playing his symphony of words.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 6, 2012

    Exceeded my expectations!

    This book made me laugh and cry and seriously stop to think about certains things that I and other people do on a regular basis without even knowing what we're doing. There's a chapter in here for everyone!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 16, 2012

    Ok

    Enjoyable but not his best work.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 5, 2013

    Anonymous

    One of the best books I have ever read.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 18, 2013

    great

    read it

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  • Posted January 4, 2013

    Probably my favorite book , got my copy signed at a book signing

    Probably my favorite book , got my copy signed at a book signing in LA and lent it to a friend, bought a second copy to give as a gift, just all a great no b/s kind of book, I suggest  if you feel the same to buy a second copy and lend it out. 

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 22, 2012

    This is How:...

    Depressing yet I didn't want to stop reading it. Was always curious to see what the next subject would bring.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 24, 2012

    An awful waste of time

    I'm not sure what the point of this is. I think he's trying to be shocking, but he's not nearly as profound as he thinks he is, and it all falls flat. There's no context to the "advice," and no evidence he's qualified to tell someone how to live. This was painful.

    0 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 20, 2012

    Not the book you think it is

    As a fan of Augusten Borroughs i was expecting this to be a hilarious take on self help books. Instead it is a decidedly unfunny attempt at a real self help book - except that its not at all helpful. Forced myself to read a few chapters but could not get past about the halfway point. How disapointing.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 22, 2012

    Highly disappointed in this book. I wasn't expecting it to be a

    Highly disappointed in this book. I wasn't expecting it to be a genuine self-help book, which it was. I read all his books ferociously and love them. However, this is mediocre.

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