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"More than 20 million baby boomers will enter menopause during the next ten years. As modern women, we take control of our lives in a myriad of ways that our mothers never contemplated. Ap-proaching menopause, the one journey in life we all share, should be no different. Our mothers were largely silent about what happened to them as they passed through this midlife change. But a new generation of women has already started to break the wall of silence." --from the ...
"More than 20 million baby boomers will enter menopause during the next ten years. As modern women, we take control of our lives in a myriad of ways that our mothers never contemplated. Ap-proaching menopause, the one journey in life we all share, should be no different. Our mothers were largely silent about what happened to them as they passed through this midlife change. But a new generation of women has already started to break the wall of silence." --from the Preface
A few years ago, at forty-six, Trisha Posner left her annual physical feeling wonderful--until her doctor called to report surprising news: Although Posner had not recognized her own symptoms, her blood tests indicated she was in full-blown menopause. When her gynecologist urged hormone replacement therapy, Posner balked, fearing it might increase her risk of developing breast cancer, which had already struck her mother and two aunts.
This Is Not Your Mother's Menopause traces Posner's quest for an alternative to a woman's usual choices: take hormones (as most doctor advise), or do nothing and risk the deterioration of her heart, bones, and mind. In frank and engaging prose, Posner reveals how she developed a personal program to counter naturally the annoying symptoms of menopause, like hot flashes and headaches, as well as the more serious problems, like depression and loss of sexual desire. Ultimately, her unique regimen--built around exercise, diet, and nutritional and herbal supplements--not only eliminated her symptoms but significantly improved her health and quality of life.
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Trisha Posner's journey is a powerful reminder that women must be informed consumers about menopause, and proves that this passage affords a gateway to physical, spiritual, and emotional growth. Candid, at times irreverent and humorous, but ultimately empowering, This Is Not Your Mother's Menopause reveals how one modern woman took control of her health and her life with inspiring results.
My mother has breast cancer. Months of her complaints of terrible stomachaches and a general malaise had led me to speculate about many ailments that might afflict my eighty-four-year-old mother, but somehow breast cancer was never on the list. I had trouble concentrating on what else the doctor-six thousand miles away in Britain-was saying, my mind already racing about possible treatments and fretting over how scared my mother must be. Although the doctor kept talking, her words seemed to run together and I let the telephone slip away from my ear. I stared out the window of my San Francisco hotel room. A thick blanket of fog saturated the city and our twentieth-floor room seemed as if it were suspended in clouds. It added to the already surreal effect of getting this disturbing news, only a few years after my mother's sister-an aunt who had helped raise me--had been diagnosed with the same cancer.
"What's the matter?" my husband, Gerald, whispered. He put down his newspaper and walked over when he sensed that something was terribly amiss.
" Mum has breast cancer."
He had been wonderfully supportive through my mother's recent illnesses and had helped prepare me for possible bad news, but not for this. When I finally got off the phone with the doctor, and before I called my mother, my husband gently kissed me. "She's a survivor," he said. "If anyone can pull through this, she will." I nodded, wanting to believe that his confidence was not misplaced.
"And, if there is any silver lining," he continued, "aren't you glad you made the choice youdid last spring?"
For a moment I had almost forgotten. Over a year ago I'd had my annual physical in my doctor's office on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. Everything had seemed fine. Cholesterol was low, blood pressure normal, and vital signs good. A week later he telephoned.
"Your blood test just came back."
His voice seemed tense, but I thought I might be imagining it since a call from my doctor was unexpected.
"No, no. But I did want you to know that your FSH follicle-stimulating hormone) serum levels came back at 110, and the normal range is between 2 and 10.
"What does that mean?"
"It means you are in full-blown menopause."
Different, and obviously much less frightening than hearing about my mother's cancer, but just as startling. I was forty-six. I had read articles and seen documentaries about perimenopause-the several-year span of wildly varying hormonal levels that precedes full menopause and had always expected that I would get some distinct warnings. There were none I could immediately think of. And somehow I felt I was a little too young. My mother had passed through a moderately difficult change of life in her mid-fifties. Two maternal aunts were also in their fifties when they were in menopause. Maybe, believing it might be a decade away, I had merely put off any serious thought of it, conveniently not paying attention to the signs.
.Are you sure?" I asked my doctor.
"No doubt about it, Trisha," he said, trying to be reassuring but only adding a little to my angst. "Your numbers are so high, you are well into the change. It's time to make a quick appointment with your gynecologist."
The only real concern I had about menopause was that it brought to a head my long-standing indecision regarding hormone replacement therapy. No longer was estrogen the subject of a heated luncheon debate with a group of girlfriends, none of us menopausal but all with strong opinions pro and con. Now I was facing an imminent decision: Was estrogen right for me, or could I pass through menopause without it?
My gynecologist of nearly twenty years left no doubt about the choice I should make if I was-in his words-"an intelligent, well-informed woman who wanted to ensure that her health remained good and that she was vital for her later years." That was his not very subtle way of recommending an immediate program of estrogen and progesterone. If I did not start promptly, he warned, a host of virtually cataclysmic events would overtake my body.
"You are in complete uterine failure," he said grimly, as though he were informing me about some fatal condition. "This isn't good at all. Your blood test reveals that your estrogen is gone. Your bones are probably already losing mass. You have to worry about osteoporosis." He had zeroed in on one of my major apprehensions; since I'm allergic to almost all dairy products, I've always resorted to supplements for my calcium.
He did not, however, let me think about that very long before adding new concerns. "Your heart is no longer getting any protective effects from your hormones," he announced. "Your memory will worsen. Your metabolism is going to get sluggish, and fat is going to start depositing as you lose muscle tissue. You have to start a program now."
"But my aunt has breast cancer, and it concerns me," I protested weakly.
He waved his arm in a large dismissive arc. "Rubbish. More women die of heart disease than ever die of breast cancer. The studies that raise fear about estrogen are biased and wrong. Estrogen doesn't increase your risk of breast cancer. If you let your fear stop you, you will be sorry for the toll your body will suffer. You really don't have another choice. Doing nothing is negligent."
Despite, or maybe because of, his persistence, I decided that day to be obstinate, and refused to immediately start a program of long-term hormone replacement, even if the odds of increased breast and uterine cancer were small. I was not willing to play Russian roulette with my health, no matter how small the risk, at least not until I had satisfied myself there was no other alternative. Moreover, my mother and her sisters, all in their eighties, had passed through menopause without hormone replacement, and they live on their own, healthy and mentally vibrant. I mentioned this to my doctor.
"It's a mistake, Trisha," he said. "The benefits of estrogen are too important to ignore. Every month you wait sets you further back."
"I'll be back in a few months," I told him. "Let's see what develops."
Posted September 24, 2000
Out of the four books that I have read on menopause, this book has been the most helpful. The author has condensed a monumental amount of research into a very digestable size. It gives practical and specific natural alternatives to homone replacement therapy. She tackles the aspects of menopause separately and gives specifics of treatment, why and how they work, doses recommended, and doses within those parameters that she found to be effective. This is a wonderful resource!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted September 11, 2000
I am a breast cancer survivor, which suddenly put me in menopause. I have been desperately searching for a natural way to combat the symptoms of menopause. The author had discovered some the same herbs and vitamins I had, but with a much more indept research. I am thrilled with information and will use this as guide to hopefully find a combination that will work for me. I highly recommend this book for any one struggling with a way to replace the lack of estrogen.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted May 20, 2000
This book was an unexpected delight about menopause, something I am still a few years away from. A friend had recommended it, and I picked it up a little warily, thinking what does it have to offer for me. Instead I found a real page turner that was witty and entertaining while also providing me tons of useful information about how to take better care of my body at ANY age. I've incorporated tips about my diet, exercise, and vitamins into my own life with some great results. It's a book for the modern woman.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted April 26, 2000
A personal, informative and enjoyable read. I highly recommend Ms. Posner¿s book for all women with an interest in their bodies and their body¿s well being. And not a bad read for their husbands, sons and lovers who need to be supportive and understanding at this time of great change in their lWas this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted April 26, 2000
I have read over a dozen books about menopause, including many I've liked including John Lee's book, and Susan Love, and Gail Sheehy, and I've learned a lot. But THIS IS LIKE NO OTHER BOOK ON MENOPAUSE I've ever seen. I got the book yesterday, started it last night expecting to read a chapter or two, and blew my night of sleep by being unable to put it down until I finished it (thank God it's small!) I love the fact that instead of some celebrity or a doctor telling me what I should do with my body, this is by a regular woman who has been through the same thing I'm going through. There were plenty of moments when I just wanted to shout, 'Yes, I've been through that.' I love Posner's honesty in describing the problems we confront with menopause and the indecision she faced when it came to HRT. It's the same problem we all have - the conflicting studies and the worries about possible increased risks of breast cancer. We all resolve this in different ways depending on our tolerance for risk, but with her family history of breast cancer, she resolved it by embarking on this rather incredible research binge that resulted in her trying just about every natural remedy out there, ones we are all familiar with. And in the end she developed a program of supplements, a healthy diet, and exercise, that worked for her. This personal account is so informative, because you get to see these natural cures not just in theory, but actually how they work with someone. When she stops taking her double dose of Vitamin E and Black Cohosh to see whether they really eliminated her hot flashes, there is a hysterical scene where she runs into a friend's kitchen over a Thanksgiving feast and sticks her head into a freezer. Sound familiar for any of us?! There are plenty of scenes in here that made me laugh, and many that made me quite emotional. When she and her husband burn her remaining supply of tampons in a local hotel's fireplace, it's a sign of passage that makes sense. And when at the end of the book, she finds herself on the outside of a Paris landmark in a downpour, embracing the changes of menopause, it is impossible not to feel invigorated and inspired. Not only did I pick up bundles of useful information that I intend to incorporate into my own routine (the chapter called 'The Vitamin and Herb Shop' is worth the price of the book on its own!), but I feel so much better about myself and menopause after reading this book. Now I've given it to my husband who must read it, so he will better understand exactly what is happening now at this stage of our life (I loved the way Posner's husband became her partner in searching for a natural way through menopause). DO YOURSELF A FAVOR. READ THIS BOOK!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted April 21, 2000
For the past six months I've been debating whether I should start HRT, and since some of my symptons like hot flashes have been getting worse, I was ready to start. Until I read this utterly inspiring journal that shows it is possible to beat menopause naturally. It's chock full of information, is easy to read, and finally is from somone who is not a celebrity and isn't selling something to me. I could relate to what the author was going through and she seemed to be speaking directly to me. I've read lots of books on perimenopause and menopause as I have gotten near, but this is one of the clearest and most concise. A different and refreshing take!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.