This Wasn't Supposed to Happen to Me: 10 Make-or-Break Choices When Life Steals Your Dreams and Rocks Your World

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Learn the 10 critical choices necessary for wholeness and recovery after life's tragedies and disappointments.

Blending scientifically-validated psychological truths with spiritual principles, Dr. Beverly Smallwood enables readers to overcome the unexpected and unthinkable. Giving readers a roadmap of 10 ...

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This Wasn't Supposed to Happen to Me: 10 Make-or-Break Choices When Life Steals Your Dreams and Rocks Your World

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Overview

Learn the 10 critical choices necessary for wholeness and recovery after life's tragedies and disappointments.

Blending scientifically-validated psychological truths with spiritual principles, Dr. Beverly Smallwood enables readers to overcome the unexpected and unthinkable. Giving readers a roadmap of 10 major choices, she offers hope that no matter what has happened, going forward, we all have the power to choose.

Through the power of choice readers will be able to move from:

  • Denial to Reality
  • Victimhood to Responsibility
  • Why to How
  • Doubt to Faith
  • Bitterness to Forgiveness
  • Guilt to Self-Forgiveness
  • Depression to Grief
  • Avoidance to Courage
  • Isolation to Connection
  • Powerlessness to Purpose
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780785297314
  • Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
  • Publication date: 1/15/2009
  • Pages: 336
  • Sales rank: 1,442,881
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 8.90 (h) x 0.90 (d)

Meet the Author

Bev Smallwood, Ph.D.,is a psychologist with over 25 years of work with trauma survivors, personal experience with many of the challenges she writes about, and Christian faith. She is the founder and CEO of The Hope Center and Magnetic Workplaces, a disaster mental health worker, columnist,internationally-known speaker, and go-to expert for print and broadcast media when tragedy, suffering, or post-traumatic chaos strike.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi

Introduction: The Power of Choice 1

1 "I'm Fine ... Really!" Choice #1: Denial or Reality 17

2 "Poor Me" Choice #2: Victimhood or Responsibility 45

3 "I Have a Thousand Questions" Choice #3: Why or How 73

4 "How Could God Let This Happen?" Choice #4: Doubt or Faith 101

5 "Of Course I'm Angry!" Choice #5: Bitterness or Forgiveness 129

6 "I Can't Forgive Myself" Choice #6: Guilt or Self-Forgiveness 159

7 "Just Stay Away!" Choice #7: Isolation or Connection 187

8 "My Dreams Have Turned into Nightmares" Choice #8: Depression or Grief 219

9 "I Can't Go There-It'll Start All Over Again" Choice #9: Avoidance or Courage 251

10 "They Say Everything Happens for a Reason" Choice #10: Powerlessness or Purpose 281

Conclusion: Choosing Hope-One Step at a Time 311

Notes 313

About the Author 321

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  • Posted June 28, 2012

    I really didn't think it would happen to me.

    This book is refreshing, tough and clearly what I needed to hear when I had news that devastated all I thought I knew about my life till that point. We all have trials. How we handle them is the difference between being beaten down or growing stronger. I choose to be stronger. Not exactly easy to read. If you are looking for answers to heal the trauma in your life, an excellent start to point you in the right direction.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 30, 2008

    Healing and hope in an extraordinary book

    When a friend is in a dark place, having suffered a heartache, setback or tragedy, I struggle to figure out what to say and how to help. I listen, try to be encouraging, and wish I could give them more. Now I can, thanks to Dr. Bev Smallwood. She has written a truly life-changing book. In addition to offering my prayers and my presence, I can give friends and family members an honest, encouraging and loving guide on how to find their way through times of grief, disappointment and despair. 'This Wasn't Supposed to Happen...' avoids being 'preachy' by sharing the stories of real people who faced the worst that life can bring. The stories are amazing. The entire book is well and warmly written. As a reader, you'll feel the author take your hand as she speaks gently, yet firmly, guiding you to face, and then make, each necessary choice to move into a new state of grace, healing and hope.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 31, 2007

    A reviewer

    As a survivor of trauma, I found Dr. Bev's book to be a road map for how to get through life with a plan to get past being a 'victim' and become a 'survivor.' Her book offers a true plan for recovery. There were times while reading when I thought, 'my gosh she knows exactly what happen to me.' Her book is easy to read, easy to understand, and offers a plan which is easy to follow. I'm impressed with Dr. Bev's ability to offer so much useful -- real life -- information in her book.

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