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Everybody has to sell something sometime. We're not just talking about salespeople making quotas. Parents have to sell their kids on the idea of eating vegetables and not taking drugs; managers have to sell their employees on the idea of showing up on time and producing. Getting your message across requires selling yourself and your ideas in a way that guarantees a positive response from the most stubborn listener.

Gene Bedell spent a lifetime...
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Three Steps to Yes: The Gentle Art of Getting Your Way

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Overview

Everybody has to sell something sometime. We're not just talking about salespeople making quotas. Parents have to sell their kids on the idea of eating vegetables and not taking drugs; managers have to sell their employees on the idea of showing up on time and producing. Getting your message across requires selling yourself and your ideas in a way that guarantees a positive response from the most stubborn listener.

Gene Bedell spent a lifetime selling, but he changed his method when he discovered a better way. Three Steps to Yes shows you how to move anyone from no to yes in just three simple steps. It enables you to get people to do what you ask them to do and believe what you want them to believe without being a bully, damaging your relationships, or compromising your principles. All the old-fashioned persuasion techniques -- authoritative power, punishment, rewards, verbal manipulation, relationship selling, negotiation -- will be a thing of the past once you make this breakthrough three-step technique a part of your life.

Three Steps to Yes isn't a book of selling tricks. It's a new paradigm that shows you how to persuade your customers, your kids, or your coworkers to let you have your way by recognizing their needs, showing them your core values, and communicating effectively.

Full of helpful hints, invaluable tactics, and illuminating anecdotes, Three Steps to Yes is required reading for everyone from managers to mothers, bankers to business execs, and, yes, even salespeople.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Whether parents are talking with their children or managers are trying to get employees to work harder, how we convey our message is crucial. According to Bedell, a sales consultant and trainer, "Persuasion is the difference between having potential and achieving your potential." He believes that once people understand three key principles--fulfill personal needs, be credible and communicate persuasively--they will painlessly master the art of getting what they want. Aimed at a general audience of "poet" persuaders who aren't sales professionals, Bedell's guide offers a variety of examples from both home and work life. For instance, he tells of two co-executives who joined a company at the same time, one of whom was so difficult to deal with that everyone ended up working through the second individual until the easy-to-deal with man was promoted while the other was fired. Similarly, at home, kids don't want to deal with a confrontational parent who finds fault with everything. Bedell urges people to "Be easy-to--easy-to-buy, easy-to-deal-with, easy-to-do-business with and easy-to-live with." His advice should help readers handle their personal and professional interactions more effectively, while Bedell's comforting tone will reassure them. Still, this breezy volume will only help readers who are ready to consciously take the time to consider all their interactions ahead of time, something that may be difficult in today's fast-paced world. (Nov.) Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information.
Library Journal
The art of persuasion is an essential skill, whether it is applied in the business world or at home. Bedell, president of Tenzing, L.L.C., a sales consultancy and seminar company, has written a book about methods of effective persuasion. The author recommends that persuasion be thought of as effective communication in selling ideas, services, or yourself, the latter by gaining the acceptance of other people. He advises against forced persuasion, except when there are no other options, and endorses gentle persuasion, defined as "the art of communicating so effectively and compellingly that the people you're persuading voluntarily act in ways you intend." A three-step approach is described: "fulfill personal needs," i.e., focus on other people's needs and anxieties instead of your own; "be credible," i.e., identify characteristics that determine credibility; and "communicate persuasively," i.e., effectively tune in and listen to other people. A wide variety of topics are covered, including personal packaging (how to act and look on the job), effective r sum -writing techniques, and sales and advertising advice. This versatile and informative book could fit on either self-help or business shelves and is recommended primarily for public library collections.--Lucy Heckman, St. John's Univ. Lib., Jamaica, NY Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information.
From the Publisher
"The book is splendid. It's a practical, powerful and lively fusion of tough-minded theory you can remember with examples you won't forget."
-- Michael Mills, director of Professional Services, Davis Polk & Wardwell

From the Hardcover edition.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780609504109
  • Publisher: Crown Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 1/16/2001
  • Sold by: Random House
  • Format: eBook
  • Sales rank: 1,060,430
  • File size: 407 KB

Meet the Author

GENE BEDELL is president of Tenzing L.L.C., a sales consultancy company. He lives in Great Falls, Virginia.
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Why You Need This Book

"I can understand your wanting to write poems, but I don't quite know what you mean by 'being a poet' . . ."
--T. S. Eliot

My wife, a liberal arts major in college, took a course in her freshman year that she affectionately called Astronomy for Poets. She learned basic astronomy, studied the constellations, and viewed planets and stars for the first time through a telescope. Cool. She loved the course and signed up for the second in the series in her sophomore year.

Big mistake. The professor started the first class by announcing, "Well, now that we're all here for something beyond fulfilling the basic science requirement, we can get down to work." My wife's reaction as she looked around the room was Uh-oh. There were eight students in the class--six astronomy majors, one physics major, and one political science major: her. Not good. The course covered spherical trigonometry, sidereal time, parallax motion, optics, and a lot of other astronomy stuff that was of no interest or use to people not majoring in astronomy. My wife stuck it out, but broke the sound barrier getting to the registrar's office to change her status to pass-fail.

My wife's college and her Astronomy for Poets course weren't unique. Although they're listed in course catalogs with less irreverent titles, there's Physics for Poets, Chemistry for Poets, Rocks for Jocks (Introduction to Geology). "Poet" is a metaphor for "enlightened amateur," a person who wants to know something about astronomy--or physics, chemistry, or geology--but who doesn't want to get lost in the minutiae that only science majors need and love.

3 Steps to Yes is the persuasion equivalent of Astronomy for Poets. Here, "Poets" is a metaphor for people who must get others to agree with them, ordinary people who need to move others from no or maybe to yes, but who don't want to spend their lives learning and perfecting sales and negotiation strategies. Moreover, Poets must persuade gently, eschewing the coercion and manipulation that professional persuaders use, but that tend to corrode personal relationships.

In 3 Steps to Yes, "Poets" are the enlightened amateurs of persuasion. They're managers, employees, parents, spouses, teachers, students, business executives, lawyers, accountants, consultants, investment bankers, job seekers, and, yes, even poets. They may even be people who sell for a living.

But "Poets" are not hard-core, high-pressure salespeople and negotiators, people who care only about winning and not about the quality of their long-term relationships with the people they persuade. Poets care about being liked and accepted, and avoid doing anything they feel might hurt their personal relationships.

Nevertheless, Poets must persuade.

The Poet Persuader

As this book neared completion, I needed a publicist, a professional public-relations person to help tell the world about my book. I narrowed my search to three firms, each run by a woman founder/entrepreneur. They were all strong, self-confident professionals working in the heart of the New York City publishing world, where only the most intelligent and influential succeed. So I was unprepared for their strong Poet aversion to persuading.

As it turned out, each woman disliked selling, and worked hard to appear not to be trying to persuade me. Each one seemed to operate on the theory that persuasion was unnecessary, even unseemly, and that if she simply described what she did, I'd automatically conclude that she was the best. But it doesn't work that way.

This was an important decision, so I met with the head of each firm personally. The women were competent, hardworking, and enthusiastic, and they were anxious for me to believe they could help me. They were intelligent, articulate professionals, perhaps even brilliant, but they Talked Without Communicating. My last meeting was typical, although also the most frustrating of the three.

I'd heard from an independent source that this person was "the best," so I went into this final meeting prepared to make a positive decision. I had a book about to be published, I needed help getting the word out, and I wanted to put this behind me. I was a soft pitch ready to be hit over the outfield fence. But it was not to be.

She refused to try to persuade me. Instead we played "Stump the Band," with me asking the questions and trying to guess why she was the best choice. At one point I asked her outright, "Why won't you just tell me why I should hire you instead of someone else? Honest, I won't think less of you if you tell me why you're better than people you clearly don't think are as good as you are."

Her response was that she didn't feel comfortable selling herself, telling me why she was better. She knew she was the best, but she wanted me to figure it out for myself based on her objective presentation of facts. All three women, though, told me nearly the same facts about their firms: "We work hard for our clients." "All our clients come to us through word-of-mouth recommendations." "We're well connected with the print, radio, and TV media." "We have an impressive list of successful and satisfied clients." I couldn't distinguish among the different stories and capabilities, because all said essentially the same good and impressive things.

Even the woman I was predisposed to choose didn't give me what I needed to make a decision. She was not persuasive. If I were to make a decision based on the three meetings, I might just as well have flipped a coin.

Sell Yourself

These three women were Poets who needed to sell in the classic sense, to get someone to pay money for their services. But you don't have to be a CEO or a professional salesperson to have to sell yourself, your ideas, or your services.

In everyday life, a Poet can be a parent persuading a child to drive sensibly or avoid drugs, or a caring son or daughter persuading an elderly parent to move to a nursing home. A Poet can be a manager persuading a boss to approve her budget or an employee to work over the weekend; a job candidate persuading an interviewer about his qualifications; a lawyer, accountant, or other professional persuading a client; or a wife persuading her husband to vacation trekking in Maine instead of visiting his old college roommate in Minnesota.

For Poets, persuasion is serious life stuff. The people in your life won't do what you want just because you happen to be right. They need to be persuaded. And if you're right, if it's in everyone's best interest that you get your way, it's not just your job to persuade them, it's your responsibility. Sometimes even your moral responsibility.

You're responsible as a parent to persuade your children to do what's right. It's your job to persuade your clients or prospects to make the best decision. You must persuade the person interviewing you to hire you if you're the right person for the job, and it's your responsibility to persuade your boss to approve your plans and budgets if they're the best for the company. You owe it to your friends, spouse, or parents to persuade them to make good decisions. If you're a professional salesperson, you owe it to your company and to your family to persuade people to buy what you're selling.

But you also have a responsibility to yourself to be persuasive, because there's little that can affect your life as profoundly as your ability to sell yourself, your ideas, and your services. It's the difference between having good ideas and having others put your good ideas into action; the difference between providing excellent service and having clients willing to pay you to provide the service; the difference between having the ability to lead and being given the opportunity to lead. If you're a professional salesperson, persuasion is the difference between being in line for a promotion and standing in the unemployment line.

Persuasion is the difference between having potential and achieving your potential. It's what connects being smart and working hard with making partner or vice-president. It's the link between being a caring parent and having your children embrace your values. It's an essential ingredient in turning a competent, trustworthy, hardworking Poet into a winner in everyday life.

From the Hardcover edition.

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Table of Contents


Chapter 1: Why People Buy
Chapter 2: The Need to Win
Chapter 3: Security and Predictability
Chapter 4: The Need for Acceptance
Chapter 5: Situational Needs
Chapter 6: The Other Guy Talks First
Chapter 7: Why People Don't Buy
Chapter 8: Easy-to-Buy
Chapter 9: How People Buy
Chapter 10: Good Examples
Chapter 11: The Magic Selling Formula
Chapter 12: Competence
Chapter 13: Trustworthiness
Chapter 14: Other People's Interests
Chapter 15: Personal Packaging
Chapter 16: What We Have Here Is a Failure to Communicate
Chapter 17: Attention Kmart Shoppers
Chapter 18: Personal Positioning
Chapter 19: Yeah, Says Who?
Chapter 20: Show and Tell
Chapter 21: How Nice Guys Finish First
Chapter 22: Persuasive Communication Made Easy
Chapter 23: The Bottom Line
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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 11, 2000

    It works!

    Arms crossed and a scowl on her face, the body language from my prospect was so negative that I could see I was in for a tough meeting. I had worked for months to get this far, had prepared diligently, and now saw the meeting slipping away. What to do? The previous night I had read about half of 3 Steps to Yes by Gene Bedel. Why not put Bedel to the test? At the end of the hour my prospect and I had built the foundation for an effective relationship. No more scowls. Needless to say, I went home and finished the book! 3 Steps to Yes is a quick read. This is not a book of tricks, gimmicks, and hard-sell tactics. It provides a simple framework, sound advice, and lots of examples for situations at home or office where selling your ideas is critical. I particularly liked the last chapter, a two-page summary of Bedel¿s major lessons. It¿s a great quick review.

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