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Posted March 5, 2013
At the commencement of this book, I felt a considerable degree of empathy for this woman. Despite her overt choice to involve herself romantically with a Lifer on day parole after murdering an adult female, and her continued support for him after he subsequently forcibly confines and sexually assaults two female strangers while on full parole, I reminded myself that she did not commit these crimes and is deserving of compassion and respect. That being said, as the book progressed, the author spends a great deal of time criticizing the justice system, correctional system and the negative reaction of her community. Expressions of concern for the victims of her husband's crimes and expressions of understanding for said negative reaction impressed as afterthoughts. It read to the effect of "I know he hurt people, BUT...", "IF he had proper treatment when he was incarcerated in the 90s....."....Well, I say, if ifs and buts were candies and nuts, we'd all have a Merry Christmas. The highlight for me, was the description of her husband being assessed at Penetang, and the author criticizing the ensuing diagnoses, and suggesting the diagnoses were "still not conclusive." And, the fact that the Psychiatrist noted that her husband's overcontrolled presentation illuminated how dangerous he is. Ding, ding ding!! But, she disagrees. I guess her Master's Degree in Child Welfare makes her more of an expert on Sexual Sadism than the Psychiatrists. And, the author's suggestion that that "all programs have been cut" from Canada's federal institutions. I find that statement.....interesting. I support her decision to share her story, but the question remains, where is the accountability on her part? Perhaps instead of criticizing those involved in assessing and sentencing her husband, she might want to question what antecedents are involved in women choosing to involve themselves with such individuals? What was it about her, that made her decide it was appropriate to marry someone serving a Life sentence for murder? I refuse to buy the cliche that love conquers all, and I also refuse to accept her insistence that there were "no warning signs" to her husband's reoffence. That is impossible. Ever heard of an offense cycle? Well, there was one lady, you just chose not to see it. He was addicted to violent pornography and committing voyeurism in your home, after you had been married for one month. And her marriage was blissful? Please. In conclusion, this book should be a warning to all women.
Posted September 23, 2013
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