Ting And Iby Douglas Winslow Cooper
"Doug Cooper's homage to his wife ... is a story about the power of love to overcome cultural taboos, through persistence and patience, and to triumph over a near-fatal illness and daunting physical disability. It is also a celebration of optimism over despair by two people passionately committed to each other 'for better or worse, in good times and bad, in sickness and in health.....'
Tina entered the critical care unit of Orange Regional Medical Center because of a catastrophic illness. I was part of the intensivist team providing her care through her 100-day hospital ordeal....
Doug tirelessly directed the attention of the health care team to seemingly trivial aspects of her care, asking detailed questions and demanding satisfactory answers, even occasionally suggesting changes in her care plan.... What I did not initially realize was that Doug's persistence was improving his wife's care. I began to marvel at the tenderness he lavished on Tina....
Eventually, Tina left the hospital and went home to a cocoon of nurses, catheters, and ventilators, and I saw her several times a year in my office. Their mutual affection seemed to grow stronger with time and was uplifting to watch, given the relentless burdens Tina's illness imposed on both of them.
Doug dedicates this book to Tina, his "good soldier," but in a larger sense it is also a tribute to his powerful advocacy for her survival. I believe their love saved them both.
My participation in Tina's care made me a better physician and provided me with one of the most rewarding experiences of my professional career."
From the Foreword by Richard F. Walker, MD, FCCP.
This is a love story that is also a challenge to the idea that others can correctly judge a patient's eventual quality of life in order to determine the degree of medical intervention that is appropriate in a life-threatening situation.
This is a tribute to a brave woman and to all of those who helped her during her most desperate time and thereafter. It is a tribute, also, to the power of love between a man and a woman that has sustained them through separation, societal prejudice, and her seven years as a quadriplegic, on a ventilator, and fed through a gastric tube, with round-the-clock nursing care at home.
Love and marriage, family, friendships, trust, faith, hope, finances and health insurance, home nursing care management --- all are covered, often with a touch of humor.
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I can only imagine Mr. Cooper's face lighting up and I can almost see the Love he feels for Ting in his eyes. It takes a lot of Courage to face the unknown head on, never giving up, ready to face each new day with a smile, a bit of wit thrown in for good measure, diving in and ready to meet any new challenges that come your way. The Devotion Doug has for Tina is self-evident. He has taken care of her for 33 years and she has more than reciprocated. While reading Ting and I, I was impressed by some of the things that were said about Doug and Tina by friends and relatives. Doug used the Boy Scout motto, comparing the qualities of a good scout to Tina, and how she more than exceeds each of the criteria. One of their co-workers, Mary, compared Tina to a living angel.All the comments were heartfelt and meaningful.It was so easy to see what affect Tina has had on everyone she has come in contact with. You might be asking yourself this question. Why should I take the time to read this book? Perhaps you're feeling a little depressed; read Ting and I and your spirits will be lifted. Maybe you're facing a health crisis. Read this book and your outlook may change radically. Perhaps your marriage is a bit rocky. Doug's marriage and other advice is sound and uplifting. Maybe you feel like life is crushing you. Read Ting and I and you might be able to walk with your head held high, ready to face your next challenge. Doug's memoir, Ting and I, is so thoroughly written. Not only is this a work expressing his love for Tina but he sheds so much light on so many useful topics: home health care, addiction, health insurance, managing staff, finances, the usefulness of the internet, marriage and so on. Doug even takes the time to express his thanks to doctors, institutions, staff, friends, family and others. His tributes section is very uplifting. Doug has left nothing out and I must say the book is very well-edited (something you don't see very often). Pick up a copy of Ting and I today. You won't regret it. I am so glad that I read Ting and I. The book is profound and unforgettable.