Tired of Nagging?: 30 Days to Positive Parenting [NOOK Book]


What do parents do when the child they adore won't listen? They end up nagging, issuing orders, shouting, and sometimes even spanking. But there is a better way, and Virginia K. Stowe, a parent-child educator for more than twenty-five years, shows how to minimize friction and fighting within the household in order to maximize the pleasures of family life.

Tired of Nagging? provides thirty easy-to-use tools for solving everyday conflicts, ...
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Tired of Nagging?: 30 Days to Positive Parenting

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What do parents do when the child they adore won't listen? They end up nagging, issuing orders, shouting, and sometimes even spanking. But there is a better way, and Virginia K. Stowe, a parent-child educator for more than twenty-five years, shows how to minimize friction and fighting within the household in order to maximize the pleasures of family life.

Tired of Nagging? provides thirty easy-to-use tools for solving everyday conflicts, scenarios of commonplace power struggles and illustrations of the tools in action, plus an "ages and stages" guide to a child's capabilities and needs. The readable, practical advice promotes a loving, yet firm approach, one that emphasizes working with the child to eliminate undesirable behavior without inhibiting self-esteem and independence.

With Tired of Nagging?, parents can stop losing their patience and begin enjoying to the fullest all the laughter and fun of their child's precious early years.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780307768384
  • Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 1/12/2011
  • Sold by: Random House
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 228
  • Sales rank: 1,194,663
  • File size: 471 KB

Table of Contents

Chapter 1. Tired of Nagging?: An Introduction 1
Chapter 2. Behavioral Ages and Stages: A very short course in what's going on with your child, from infancy to age 5 6
6 months to 1 year 8
1 year to 18 months 9
18 months to 2 years 10
2 to 3 years 12
3 to 3 1/2 years 13
3 1/2 to 4 years 15
4 to 5 years 16
Chapter 3. The 30 Parenting Tools 18
Assume your child wants to cooperate 19
Each day, spend 20 minutes of uninterrupted time with your child 21
Provide plenty of outside time 22
Give your child the power to make her own choices 24
Let your child know you've noticed his good, kind behavior 26
Offer substitutions 27
Provide transitions to ease your child through moments of change 29
Praise your child with descriptive words 31
Change "no" to "yes." 33
Empathize; put yourself in your child's shoes 35
Wait until the emotions (yours and hers) have settled before you try to correct behavior 36
Give your child hope 38
Sometimes insist, sometimes negotiate ... and know when to do which 39
Ask your child what she thinks should be done to correct a behavior problem 41
Grab your child, if you must--and sometimes you must--but don't slap 43
Give reasonable consequences for misbehavior 45
Let your child know his behavior has an impact on you or others 47
Let your child know what to expect 48
Give your child words to use 50
Be your child's play date supervisor 52
When you can, appoint a neutral bad guy 54
Set up success stories 55
Let your child save face 57
Learn to spot your own "I'm about to lose it" trigger points 58
Model polite behavior 60
To defuse a problem instantly, backtrack 62
When your child is going through an impossible-to-live-with stage, find help! 63
Use a little humor, drama, or exaggeration to make a point 65
Plan joint approaches with your spouse 65
Remember that tomorrow is another day 68
Chapter 4. The Tools in Action, by Ages and Stages: How to prevent, correct, and encourage ... and what to do next when what you're doing isn't working 70
When your 6-month- to 1-year-old ...
Grabs dangerous or fragile objects 73
Mouths everything he holds 75
Spits or throws food 76
Makes loud noises or repetitive sounds 77
Demands a new activity every 10 minutes 78
Gets clingy 81
When your 1-year- to 18-month-old ...
Hates the stroller 83
Wants to touch or grab all new or fascinating objects 85
Runs away in open spaces 87
Tries to climb whenever possible 88
Bites, hits, or pushes 90
When your 18-month- to 2-year-old ...
Hits or pushes 92
Shakes loose of your hand outdoors and runs off 95
Gets upset when he can't practice new things 97
Won't let other children play with her things 98
Repeats activities he's been told not to do 100
Has a temper tantrum 102
Throws things 103
When your 2- to 3-year-old ...
Bites, hits, or pushes 106
Whines 109
Says "no" to everything, even to activities and foods she likes 112
Won't let go of an object or activity 114
Throws a temper tantrum 116
Wants to explore everything and run, climb, and jump 118
Puts up a fight about bedtime 121
Dislikes being hurried 124
Is reluctant to give up the pacifier or bottle 126
Doesn't want help getting dressed 128
Doesn't want to share a favorite toy 130
Won't sit still at the table 132
Won't eat the dinner served 134
Loses interest in toilet training 136
When your 3- to 4-year-old ...
Resists leaving a play date 139
Dawdles 141
Dislikes routines 143
Excludes or is excluded by other children at play 146
Has fears 149
Goes wild in the car 151
Gets overexcited 153
Wants everything he sees 155
Won't get dressed 158
Won't pick up toys 159
Has trouble sharing 163
Gets into sibling fights 165
Wants to play doctor 169
Makes embarrassing observations about grown-ups she sees 172
Interrupts your talk with another adult 173
When your 4- to 5-year-old ...
Resists your request to help out 175
Likes superheroes and all-powerful talk 177
Wants to win at games all the time 179
Is disrespectful to property 182
Acts unruly in a public place 184
Expresses criticism of adults with rudeness or threats 186
Says "I hate you!" or "You're so stupid!" 189
Likes toilet talk and swearing 191
Acts bossy or ignores you 194
Chapter 5 Keeping Up the Progress: Good ways to maintain positive parenting 196
Notes 200
Suggested Reading 202
Index 206
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    Practical advice, real skill development

    I really found reading this book was easy and it gave me many tips for handling and dealing with everyday and special occasions with my children. Her understanding of situations and advise was priceless. Thanks to the author my family is doing well.

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