To Have and to Hold: A Personal Handbook for Building a Strong Marriage and Preventing Affairs

To Have and to Hold: A Personal Handbook for Building a Strong Marriage and Preventing Affairs

by Peggy Vaughan
     
 

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From the author of The Monogamy Myth, an essential guide written specifically for married couples to strengthen their relationship and prevent affairs.

Based on Peggy Vaughan's 30 years of work with married couples and the issue of affairs, this new handbook challenges the assumption that monogamy can be taken for granted, and provides the tools for

Overview

From the author of The Monogamy Myth, an essential guide written specifically for married couples to strengthen their relationship and prevent affairs.

Based on Peggy Vaughan's 30 years of work with married couples and the issue of affairs, this new handbook challenges the assumption that monogamy can be taken for granted, and provides the tools for building a strong marriage and preventing affairs.

Explaining the need to focus on preventing affairs before there is any threat to a marriage, she draws on her survey of 755 people regarding their beliefs to present "What Won't Work" and "What Will Work" to prevent affairs.

Throughout To Have and to Hold, Vaughan details specific strategies and techniques, emphasizing that:

  • Relying on attitudes and beliefs is not sufficient to maintain a monogamous relationship over a lifetime.
  • Focusing on actions and behaviors is far more significant to strengthen a relationship.
  • Responsible honesty is the single most important factor in preventing affairs.
  • Everybody (society as a whole) plays a role in supporting couples' efforts to maintain monogamy.
  • Parents have a special responsibility to break the pattern for future generations.

Four appendices present Vaughan's survey questionnaire along with detailed breakdowns of responses.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
"This book is terrific. It should be required reading for all engaged couples, in all marriage education groups, and for all marriage therapists."—Susan Heitler, Ph.D., author of The Power of Two: Secrets to a Strong and Loving Marriage

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781557048516
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
05/25/2010
Pages:
208
Product dimensions:
5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.40(d)

Meet the Author

Peggy Vaughan is an internationally recognized expert in the area of extramarital affairs. Drawing on her first-hand experience with her husband's affairs three decades ago, thousands of letters, her survey research projects, and her work with BAN (Beyond Affairs Network), an organization of local support groups that she founded and coordinates through www.dearpeggy.com, Peggy Vaughan has built a reputation as the authority on recovering from affairs. She lives in La Jolla, California, with her husband.

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