Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay in or Get Out of Your Relationship

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by Mira Kirshenbaum, Adriane McNeely
     
 

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To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.

Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum

Overview

To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. Many other books tell you how to fix your relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try—or you need to go.

Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems:

• What sins are forgivable and which ones unpardonable?
• Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?
• What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?
• Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?

Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
A psychotherapist's guidelines for evaluating relationships. (July)

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781441824318
Publisher:
Brilliance Audio
Publication date:
02/09/2010
Edition description:
Library Edition
Product dimensions:
5.30(w) x 7.40(h) x 0.70(d)

Meet the Author

Mira Kirshenbaum is clinical director of the Chestnut Hill Institute, a center for therapy and research in Boston, and has been treating patients in individual and couples therapy for more than thirty years. She is the author of ten other books, including Our Love is Too Good, To Feel So Bad, Everything Happens for a Reason, and When Good People Have Affairs.

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LoriSeeman More than 1 year ago
This book saved my life over 20 years ago. It stayed in my mind and saved my life again 6 years ago. Now I am reading it again and it only confirms those decisions in the past and is helping me now through dating, how to recognize the "relationship killing" potential problems. I am happy I left. I was not willing to waste my life away in unhealthy, unhappy relationships. Both times I spent 4 years agonizing over whether to stay or go, and trying to work it out, including therapy (which Mira highly recommends if you haven't). I gave my relationships everything I had to make them work and I know that there was no staying in them. I am amazed at the negative comments I read here. How someone can read this book and miss the point completely is beyond me! It is extremely professional and fair and does every bit as much to help someone stay in a relationship as it does to help someone get out of a relationship. Are these people whose minds are not open enough to see that the person going through the diagnostic process must see themselves in the pages and could completely understand their spouses complaints for the first time? Must be people who see themselves in the pages and cannot face the facts and are appauled that a professional is saying it is probably best to get out, and the experience of others says you'll be happy you did. To the person who said that this book almost ended their marriage I ask two questions: 1. How do you know that this book was not the very catalyst that got you to where you are now? Actually saving your marriage. 2. Are you 100% sure that your spouse would say the same thing? Or do they really wish they had left, afterall? This is the single best book I have ever read on love and relationships. I am in love with this author's style, approach, analogies, case studies, professionalism, and no nonsense "medical diagnosis" breakthrough. This book taught me so much of what is real verses the emotion of love. Its sad that so many are in this position, they were some of the worst days of my life. But this book gives you hope, either way and I think is a life preserver for many who both found love again in their relationship or who found enough love for themselves to have the clarity and strength to move on. I own my part of the problems in the relationships. I am in the midst of exploring what makes me choose this type of man and what keeps me from seeing this before its too late. I for one, plan to read every book Mira Kirshenbaum has ever written or will ever write. God bless you Mira for the work you have done and how many peoples lives you saved, either way. Thank you for saving mine and continuing to do so! Lori Ann Seeman Knoxville, TN