Total Life Coaching: 50+ Life Lessons, Skills, and Techniques to Enhance Your Practice...and Your Life

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Total Life Coaching by Pat and Lloyd is more than just a book.It is an interactive experience in which you will find recipes for living your life more authentically, as well as master time-honored lessons that you can bring to your coaching clients. Regardless of the personal coaching techniques or skills you may have learned, you may still not be the most effective coach you can become. This book will help you move closer to that goal.
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Total Life Coaching by Pat and Lloyd is more than just a book.It is an interactive experience in which you will find recipes for living your life more authentically, as well as master time-honored lessons that you can bring to your coaching clients. Regardless of the personal coaching techniques or skills you may have learned, you may still not be the most effective coach you can become. This book will help you move closer to that goal.
Life coaching is more than a collection of techniques and skills. It is more than something you do. Life coaching reflects who you are-it is your authentic being in action.Readers of Pat Williams's and Deborah Davis's book, Therapist as Life Coach, know Pat to be a gifted life coach and passionate teacher. Here Pat and colleague and writer, Lloyd J. Thomas, build on this earlier book and share a unique insight into the coaching process, which shows you precisely how to enhance your professional practices through practical and effective life coaching. It also empowers you to change your own lives through use of the practical information and philosophy presented here.Total Life Coaching is organized into a series of 50 life lessons, and is designed to be either read cover-to-cover or dipped into, as needed, for assistance when conducting a coaching session. Keeping life's processes on the "message and lesson" level makes living and life coaching much easier and more enjoyable. Total Life Coaching guides you step-by-step through the complex process of learning and coaching these fifty important lessons. The lessons are organized into 8 sections: Creating a Personal Identity; Coaching Spirituality and Life Purpose; Coaching Communication Skills; Living Life with Integrity; Success: Clients Achieving their Potential; Coaching Cognitive Skills; Creating High-Quality Relationships; Understanding Your Past to Create a Desired Future.Each lesson is presented as a structured recipe and includes:The life lessonThe messages contained within the lessonCoaching objectives for your clients regarding the lessonWhat you need to know about the lesson to provide the framework for coaching itCoaching methods, exercises, questions, and language for bringing each lesson to your clientsSample coaching conversations that exemplify the coach-client dialogue for the coaching of the lesson.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780393704341
  • Publisher: Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.
  • Publication date: 1/5/2005
  • Edition description: New Edition
  • Pages: 480
  • Sales rank: 787,168
  • Product dimensions: 8.60 (w) x 10.20 (h) x 1.50 (d)

Meet the Author

Lloyd J. Thomas, Ph.D., is an adjunct faculty member of University of Southern California, Albany Medical College, and the Institute for Life Coach Training. He is a certified life coach and licensed psychologist and for more than 20 years has written a weekly newspaper column, 'Practical Psychology.'

Patrick Williams, Ed.D., is founder of the Institute for Life Coach Training, the first-of-its-kind institute for training psychotherapists, psychologists, counselors, and helping professionals to build a successful coaching practice. He was a licensed psychologist for 25 years and began executive coaching in 1990 with Hewlett Packard, IBM, and Kodak, and is the co-author of the highly acclaimed Therapist as Life Coach: Transforming your Practice, Total Life Coaching, and The Law and Ethics of Coaching.

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Table of Contents

Life Lesson 1 What you believe about yourself defines who you are 9
Life Lesson 2 Updating your belief system is how you learn and requires paradigm-shifting 21
Life Lesson 3 Conscious awareness is the key to successful lifestyle creation 31
Life Lesson 4 Your value system guides you toward success or failure 41
Life Lesson 5 You are responsible for your standards 45
Life Lesson 6 You protect your "self" by setting and maintaining strong boundaries 54
Life Lesson 7 You are responsible for meeting your needs 62
Life Lesson 8 Appreciate who you are and your lifestyle 67
Life Lesson 9 Accurately identify your personal talents 72
Life Lesson 10 Realize and appreciate your spiritual nature 81
Life Lesson 11 Your spiritual life is more important than your mental, emotional, or physical life 90
Life Lesson 12 You and your clients are already on spiritual paths 101
Life Lesson 13 When you discover your life's purpose, living becomes meaningful 109
Life Lesson 14 When you know and use the principles of communication, you increase the effectiveness of your ability, to communicate 123
Life Lesson 15 The art of listening is a vital communication skill and is fundamental to all interpersonal relationships 134
Life Lesson 16 Successful communication hinges on how well others understand what you are saying 147
Life Lesson 17 Feedback is a way of giving and receiving communication that assists and enhances your relationships 152
Life Lesson 18 Competition is primitive; cooperation is better; collaboration is best; and a synergistic relationship is superior 156
Life Lesson 19 Authentic communication in situations involving conflict is a critical relationship skill necessary for growth and change 162
Life Lesson 20 Taking responsibility for all of your actions empowers you, strengthens your autonomy, and lets you consciously create your future 175
Life Lesson 21 Honesty is a much greater achievement than always telling the truth. Honesty means you are authentic in everything you think, say, and do 180
Life Lesson 22 Anger is a powerful, useful, and natural emotion. Learn how to harness and manage it, and you increase your personal power 186
Life Lesson 23 Being assertive is effective and constructive. Being aggressive is ineffective and destructive 192
Life Lesson 24 Empathy is the most powerful and effective element in interpersonal relationships 199
Life Lesson 25 Sharing is the best way to create effective relationships 205
Life Lesson 26 Stress does not exist outside of you. You are in charge of your stress level and can learn to manage it to your advantage 210
Life Lesson 27 Success is a way of thinking, a consciousness. Achieving success is a subjective perception 227
Life Lesson 28 Without a vision of your desired future, you allow circumstances to create it for you instead of you creating it yourself 232
Life Lesson 29 Identifying a great number of personal goals and then writing them out is critical to your success in life 236
Life Lesson 30 Strategizing is a valuable skill essential to reaching your goals 243
Life Lesson 31 The attitude you adopt determines whether you are successful in creating a lifestyle you enjoy 248
Life Lesson 32 Your level of commitment is absolutely critical to your long-term success and achievement 256
Life Lesson 33 A life that is balanced both internally and externally is crucial to creating a satisfying life 261
Life Lesson 34 Living in the present moment is important 270
Life Lesson 35 You are always a leader for someone, especially for yourself. Lead your own chosen life 274
Life Lesson 36 To become an effective leader, you must first become a good follower and teammate 284
Life Lesson 37 Your thinking habits are the most powerful tools you have for creating anything you genuinely desire 295
Life Lesson 38 Everyone has the ability to develop creative thinking skills 308
Life Lesson 39 Paradoxical thinking is crucial to the full understanding of your world 315
Life Lesson 40 Identifying your learning style, coupled with reinforcement, facilitates all learning 319
Life Lesson 41 Succeeding at any endeavor is dependent on the nature and quality of your relationship 331
Life Lesson 42 Accurately, assessing the nature and quality of a current relationship is crucial to changing it 339
Life Lesson 43 The nature and quality of all human relationships are determined by the nature and quality of the character of those involved 353
Life Lesson 44 Creating genuine relationships is critical to building a successful life 359
Life Lesson 45 Friendships are a special kind of interpersonal relationship that you must consciously create 365
Life Lesson 46 The highest-quality interpersonal relationships are based on love 373
Life Lesson 47 Romance and taking responsibility for your sexual life enriches the primary relationship of couples 381
Life Lesson 48 Resolving conflict in relationships requires a balance of power 389
Life lesson 49 You can consciously create the kind of relationship you want with family members 399
Life Lesson 50 Appreciating differences and valuing diversity enriches your relationships and your life, and broadens your humanity 411
Life Lesson 51 Your personal history is a valuable resource for creating your desired future 421
Life Lesson 52 You can choose to leave a personal legacy that makes a positive difference 426
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