Total Sex: Men's Fitness Magazine's Complete Guide to Everything Men Need to Know and Want to Know About Sex


Want to be a Virtuoso of Variations?

Keep the Gal of Your Dreams Coming Back for More?

Do You Have a Sense of Humor?

Straight from the mouths of world renowned therapists...and even the guy next door...comes the most authoritative, up-close-and-personal guide to the quest for great sex ever written. Written under the auspices of Men's Fitness magazine, this all-inclusive, fully illustrated ...

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Want to be a Virtuoso of Variations?

Keep the Gal of Your Dreams Coming Back for More?

Do You Have a Sense of Humor?

Straight from the mouths of world renowned therapists...and even the guy next door...comes the most authoritative, up-close-and-personal guide to the quest for great sex ever written. Written under the auspices of Men's Fitness magazine, this all-inclusive, fully illustrated sourcebook contains everything from general anatomy, physiology, and chemistry to the low-down on sexually transmitted diseases, what to except at your age, to the wilder side of sexual ecstasy, sexbits, and he/she points of view that you'll be hard-pressed to put this book down. Among the hundreds of tantalizing topics you'll discover.

Men's Fitness' exclusive cond-o-meter: the oooooh, aaaaaah, 1-10 ratings of our very dedicated male and female condom testers

The chemistry of love and lust (and why women aren't the only ones whose hormones run amok)

A story of adult circumstances: why one man opted to face the knife

Beauty and the breast: are you doing what she likes (or is the room simply too cold?)

Searching for secret treasure (a.k.a. how to find the elusive g-spot)

The latest buzz on sex toys, cybersex, the swing thing, chick flicks, tough love and other wilder riders

Sizing up Mr. Happy—or, girls talk the about the long, short, thick, and thin of it

Four fatal signs that she's faking the big O

What's lust got to do with it: the craziest (non-felonious) things some guys have done, courtesy of the Men's Fitness lust survey

Meet market maneuvers andthe bottom line on great relationships, namely, how to remain hot for the long haul

Since its launch in January 1985, Men's Fitness has become one of the nation's top selling magazines for men, boasting over a million readers each month. It's annual Sex Now supplement is its #1 selling issue, even winning the prestigious Western Publications Association Award of Excellence.

"...covers all aspects of sex, including foreplay, creative approaches to coitus, sexuality & aging, sexual dysfunction, STDs, and birth control."

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780641577642
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 1/28/1999
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 303
  • Product dimensions: 7.82 (w) x 9.22 (h) x 1.11 (d)

Meet the Author

Joe Weider has been at the forefront of men's fitness and health publishing for half a century. His Men's Fitness magazine boasts a monthly circulation of more than 300,000. He lives in Woodland Hills, CA.

Joe Weider has been at the forefront of men's fitness and health publishing for half a century. His Men's Fitness magazine boasts a monthly circulation of more than 300,000. He lives in Woodland Hills, CA.

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The horizontal mambo. Knocking boots. Making the beast with two backs. Bumping uglies. Riding the baloney pony. Taking the skin dolphin to tuna town.
We certainly like our euphemisms for sex. Maybe it's because we, as a nation, aren't all that comfortable talking about it. Sure, we can engage in the typical locker-room banter—"Man! You should've seen this chick go down on me!"—but create a meaningful dialogue about sex? It ain't in our nature. That's why there's a plethora of call-in sex talk shows, on the radio and on television. These shows allow us to remain relatively anonymous—as callers seeking specific information and as just plain listeners, looking for tips or a little entertainment.
Blame it on the birth of a nation. Ours is one steeped in puritanical zeal, based in large part on religious tenets. That's not to say that our founding fathers ignored the demands of the flesh (old Ben Franklin was a notorious ladies' man), or that religion and sex are mutually exclusive (ask the Mormons), just that sex has always been the convenient whipping boy for society's ills in a nation based on "God-fearing" attributes. Up to and including the fifties, good girls didn't—creating the notion that sex was bad or dirty, something you didn't engage in if you cared about your place in the community. In the sixties, however, free love reigned—and the "Establishment" derided those who engaged in it as a threat to national security. Here's the rationale: Hippies had sex; and hippies were "Commie pinkos." And since Commies were the antithesis of stolid American virtue, people openly having sex were un-American.
Okay,so that's a bit of a stretch . . . but not by much. And have matters really changed much since then? Maybe not. Viagra's a perfect example. When Men's Fitness magazine queried several members of the clergy, the message was clear: The little blue pill was a Godsend for putting the wood back into the lives of married men, but only for married men. If you're a single guy with erectile problems, well, too bad, because sex outside the conjugal bed is still prohibited by most religions. Who's living in the real world, considering that one billion of those little blue tablets were estimated to have been sold by the end of 1998—in limited international release?
Americans have always been a bit repressed about sex, even after the sixties started changing these attitudes. In the seventies, we could laugh at the "wink-wink" double entendres of Three's Company, tittering at the situations set up by a straight Jack Tripper pretending he was gay so he could room with two comely girls. But the laughter was at the expense of gays, who at the time weren't politicized and out. And the jokes were weak attempts by a broadcasting network to tie into a nation's curiosity about sex.
Still, the seventies signaled a sexual revolution of sorts. Playboy magazine heralded a new age with an entire philosophy built on sex and hedonism.
Although the Playboy lifestyle was coveted by many men (as well as a fair share of women), it wasn't until the middle of the decade that the real underpinnings of the "Me decade" took hold—and people became more open sexually. The Pill also accelerated this openness—both men and women felt freer in their sexual pursuits.

Just in time for AIDS.
No other phenomenon has affected our culture so pervasively. And unfortunately, certain religious forces in the early eighties used the disease as a means of accelerating their agenda. Once again, sex was bad—it could kill you—and those engaging in it outside the bounds of marriage were "incurring God's wrath." Luckily, collective cooler heads prevailed, and the misinformation fomented by the Moral Majority and the religious Right was scientifically dismissed. AIDS was not God's wrath, but a disease affecting a variety of populations. Sure, it could be transmitted sexually, but it wasn't designed by a higher being to wipe out a particular group.
If anything, AIDS made a nation aware. And afraid. The hedonism of the seventies and eighties have given way to a more cautious time. And, given the current political climate, when a casual comment may be construed as sexual harassment, it may be difficult for men to feel as confident sexually as in decades past.
That's where this book comes in. Total Sex is meant as a calm voice, dispensing clearheaded information and wisdom from a variety of sources—acclaimed counselors and sex therapists, the medical community and real couples. In these pages, you'll find valuable information to assist you in your quest to know everything about sex—everything from general anatomy, physiology, and body chemistry to sexually transmitted diseases, what to expect when you age and the more kinky aspects of the sexual experience. And positions. Lots of positions. What's more, we've provided all this information—and more—in a lighthearted manner, avoiding the clinical tone taken in many books on sexuality. After all, sex should encompass a complete range of emotions. Laughter included.

Percentages, Percentages
Before we can really delve into all things sexual, we need to get a proper perspective on what men are thinking. And for that, we went straight to the source. You.
We at Men's Fitness magazine recently commissioned Applied Research-West, Inc. to conduct a sex survey of our readership. Five thousand, four hundred and forty-seven of you red-blooded (or shall we say hot-blooded?) American males responded . . . and the answers to our questions were eye-opening, forthright and—ultimately—an accurate snapshot of our times.
Here's a general makeup of respondents: An overwhelming 71.2 percent of survey participants were 35 years old or younger; 36 percent were 18 to 25, while 35.2 percent were 26 to 35. A little over 18 percent were 36 to 45—then the numbers dropped off considerably, with 7.7 percent aged 46 to 55 and just 2.9 percent aged 56 or older. Now, that's not to say that older gents don't participate in sex surveys—and participate in sex! (Witness the discussion on sexuality and aging in chapter 6.) It's just that the age bracket more closely fits the demographic of Men's Fitness' readership.
Forty-four percent of respondents lived in suburban areas, while 36.7 percent lived in what they termed a large city. Only 19.3 percent lived in rural areas.
Of the respondents, 36.2 percent said they were married, whereas 32.1 percent said they were single. Monogamy struck a chord with the survey participants, as 20.5 percent mentioned they are in a monogamous relationship. Slightly more than 6 percent were cohabiting (the PC word for shackin' up), while 4.9 percent said they were separated or divorced. Sixty-three percent of respondents had children.
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