Trading Places: The Secret to the Marriage You Want

by Les Parrott, Leslie Parrott

Overview

To understand your spouse, you've got to walk in his or her shoes. Ever feel like you're stepping on each other's toes? Then maybe it's time you put yourselves in each other's shoes. Of course that may sound uncomfortable. But it's easier than you think--and it will revolutionize your relationship.

In fact, bestselling authors Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott reveal the little-known secrets of putting the time-tested strategy of trading places to work in your own marriage. In this book, chock-full of practical helps and tips you've never thought of, you'll learn the three-step strategy to trading places and, as a result, you're sure to:

• Increase your levels of passion
• Bolster your commitment
• Eliminate nagging
• Short-circuit conflict
• Double your laughter
• Forgive more quickly
• Talk more intimately

This book also features a powerful, free online assessment that instantly improves your inclination to trade places. Most couples never discover the rewards of trading places. For example, did you know it's the quickest way to get your own needs met? It's true! And Les and Leslie show you how. They also disclose exactly how trading places improves your conversations and how it’s guaranteed to fire up your sex life.

Truly, your love life and your entire marriage will never be the same after you learn the intimate dance of trading places.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780310566670
Publisher:	Zondervan
Publication date:	08/08/2009
Sold by:	HarperCollins Publishing
Format:	eBook
Pages:	208
File size:	6 MB
Age Range:	18 Years

About the Author

Number-one New York Times bestselling author and psychologist Dr. Les Parrott has been featured on Oprah, CBS This Morning, the Today Show, CNN, and The View, as well as in USA Today and The New York Times. His books, which include Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts and many others, have sold over five million copies. Les and his wife, Leslie, a marriage therapist, are the creators of BetterLove.com, a resource for couples. Les and Leslie live in Seattle, Washington.

 

Dr. Leslie Parrott is a marriage and family therapist and codirector with her husband, Dr. Les Parrott, of the Center for Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University. She is the author of First Drop of Rain and God Made You Nose to Toes, and coauthor with her husband of several bestselling books, including the Gold Medallion Award–winner Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. Leslie is a columnist for Today’s Christian Woman and has been featured on Oprah, CBS This Morning, CNN, and The View, and in USA Today and the New York Times. Leslie lives in Seattle with her husband and their two sons. Visit LesandLeslie.com

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 11

Walking in Your Partner's Shoes 13

Part 1 The Essentials of Trading Places 19

1 The Two Sides of Trading Places 23

2 What Trading Places Will Do for Your Marriage 39

3 The Prerequisite for Trading Places 59

Part 2 Three Crucial Steps to Trading Places 77

4 I Notice You: Setting Aside Your Own Agenda (Temporarily) 81

5 I Feel with You: Turning on Your Emotional Radar 97

6 I Act to Help You: Demonstrating Your Care Quotient 115

Part 3 How to Trade Places More Quickly 129

7 Help Your Spouse See Your Side 133

Conclusion: Why Every Couple Has a Chance at Trading Places 149

Appendixes

Appendix A How to Trade Places When Your Spouse Doesn't Want To 161

Appendix B Trading Places If You've Been Burned: A Message for Personalizers 165

Appendix C Mini Thesaurus of Feeling Words 173

Notes 181