Transition: Becoming Who I Was Always Meant to Be

Transition: Becoming Who I Was Always Meant to Be

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by Chaz Bono, Billie Fitzpatrick
     
 

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The New York Times bestseller that asks: What happens on the journey from self-doubt to self-acceptance?

Imagine knowing, for decades, that the person you are and the body you inhabit don’t match up. Imagine pushing that feeling down so deep that you convince yourself, for years, that it doesn’t even exist. Imagine the havoc wreaked by such

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The New York Times bestseller that asks: What happens on the journey from self-doubt to self-acceptance?

Imagine knowing, for decades, that the person you are and the body you inhabit don’t match up. Imagine pushing that feeling down so deep that you convince yourself, for years, that it doesn’t even exist. Imagine the havoc wreaked by such a secret.

Now, imagine living this life under the scrutiny of the public eye.

Chaz Bono has lived this life. We first met him as Chastity, the darling girl on stage with her parents, Sonny and Cher. Then, we knew her as an out lesbian and gay activist. Through all of this, Chaz was plagued by a nagging feeling that he wasn’t living the life meant for him. It wasn’t until he admitted, first to himself, then to his family, and finally to the world, that he was a transgender man, that Chaz Bono fully embraced his true self. In Transition, Chaz shares his deeply moving and ultimately triumphant account of the physical and emotional process that brought him to a place of peace, and finally happiness. With a message to anyone who has ever felt that they couldn’t be who they really are, Transition is as inspirational as it is intimate.

Editorial Reviews

New York Journal of Books

“A universal story, one to which all readers can relate: the individual’s search for self.”

-New York Journal of Books
“A universal story, one to which all readers can relate: the individual’s search for self.”
- Jennifer Finney Boylan
Transition is not only about the journey from female to male; more importantly, it’s about the journey from fear to courage. Chaz Bono is my new hero.”
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“A universal story, one to which all readers can relate: the individual’s search for self.” — New York Journal of Books

Transition is not only about the journey from female to male; more importantly, it’s about the journey from fear to courage. Chaz Bono is my new hero.” — Jennifer Finney Boylan, author of She’s Not There

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780452298002
Publisher:
Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:
05/29/2012
Pages:
272
Sales rank:
235,196
Product dimensions:
5.61(w) x 7.98(h) x 0.60(d)
Age Range:
18 Years

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I experienced another incredible moment of clarity about myself. I understood for the first time that I couldn't focus on how others were going to react if I transitioned. I could not possibly control their reactions, their feelings, or their behaviors toward me. I had been so consumed with not upsetting anyone, but I could not continue deferring my own needs. Now I accepted that these people were all adults. It wasn't my job to make them okay; they had to make themselves okay with me. Which meant that the only person really in my way was myself.

Meet the Author

Chaz Bono lives with his partner in Los Angeles.

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Transition 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 42 reviews.
amosl More than 1 year ago
Bono, Chaz. "Transition: The Story of How I Became a Man", Dutton, 2011. Gender, Sexuality, Identity and Family Amos Lassen For those you who have been asleep for the last few years, Chastity Bono is now Chaz and in "Transition" she tells us about her struggle of forty years to make his gender and his body one and the same. The decision to transition from female to male was not once that happened suddenly-Chaz had been struggling with who he really was. We first met Chaz as Chastity, the daughter of Sonny and Cher Bono and she had fame thrust upon her. Years later there was a different kind of fame-as an LGBT activist and when she (he) publicly came out, we all noticed, along with the rest of the world. Chaz worked with two national organizations and wrote two books and became a household name-this time not because of his mother but because of what he stood for. Chaz quickly became a high profile transgender person-probably the most famous one ever but he maintained a private life and we did not hear very much until the decision was announced that he would undergo gender reassignment surgery and now he lets us into his life. Having a similar situation in my own family, I have anxiously awaited the publication of "Transition" and yes, it answers many of my own questions. The first half of the book is devoted to the decision to transition, from Chaz's childhood and playing boys' sports, those years in the twenties when so many of us search for who we are and his battles with drug addiction and his sobriety. In Part Two, Chaz shares the actual transition with us through pictures and prose and the diary he kept as the process began and then took place. We get a day-by-day record of the process. I think it is very difficult to struggle with oneself for forty years and those of us who have struggled know how painful it can be and I am not speaking just of changing one's sex. As gay people we struggle all of the time and this probably because that struggle is forced upon us by those who see us as less than human. I personally cannot imagine what the struggle would be like to realize that one is born into the wrong gender. I also do not know how such a high profile person as Chaz Bono was able to keep so much private for so long. There are four major themes in Chaz's book-identity, sexuality, gender and friends and family. Bit above these is an overriding theme and that is how keeping things within can be a shattering experience. Chaz owes us nothing but he gives us the gift of letting us know him. If any community is not understood, it is the transgender community and Chaz lets us know so much about it through his own experiences and journey. After closing the book, I sat back with mouth agape, thinking that here is the book I have waited so long to read. I cannot praise it highly enough not only for what is says and how it is written but for what it does. We all owe Chaz Bono a hearty slap on the back and a real man-to-man handshake. He has gone where others dare not and he does it with style. Starting May 10 on the OWN network you can see the documentary of Chaz's transition.
Kristine Kerstiens More than 1 year ago
I was surprised at how well the book was written and how the story starts at childhood through the transition. I would recommend this book!
Heidi_G More than 1 year ago
I enjoyed the story which Chaz tells of beginning his life as a female, feeling out of place with his sexuality for so many years, and then transitioning to a man. I didn't see his appearance on "Celebrity Fit Club" or his documentary on OWN but I do remember the little angelic, blond girl hoisted into her father's arms on "The Sonny and Cher Show." The bravery it took to come out as a lesbian, and later as transgender is something to be commended. Some negative reviews have noted that only a few chapters contain information on the actual process of physically transitioning from female to male, making the title misleading. I look at the title as the transition which has taken place over Chaz's entire life, leading him to the point his is today--as a man who is happy with his gender. A touching story in parts, particularly with Chaz's relationships with women and specifically with his mother, Cher.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was the rambling essay of a poor little rich girl. I thought I would walk away from this book with some sort of understanding. Instead I found myself saying "big deal!"
Orchid79 More than 1 year ago
This book was great from beginning to end. Very insiteful and well written. Dear Anonymous - If you have not read the book you should not be leaving a comment. This is not a subject opinion board, but a BOOK REVIEW.
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The book was well written, heart breaking at times. I was able to relate well to the "not fitting societies mold". Although I am not transgender or gay, I am profoundly hysically disabled. The words in this book were spoken from the heart.it left me with 2 questions: Are any of us better than another? And why is it we can not just accept people for who they are? Chaz had to find a lot of strength to write this book, I am glad I read it.
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I really enjoyed this book, not just because he was transitioning into the man he should have been, but also for his feelings growing up in show business. He seems like a very nice person; someone you would really enjoy hanging out with. Great book!
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macksmomca More than 1 year ago
I have a female to male transexual 25 year old son. He, Like Chaz is intelligent and succesful. In fact he is a therapist that only deals with the glbt community. Chaz's book was a great read on the comparision level. It was also a great read by a good writer. I recommend it to anyone, espicially those who would like an understanding of this alternative lifestyle.
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