Trauma-Proofing Your Kids: A Parents' Guide for Instilling Confidence, Joy and Resilience [NOOK Book]


The number of anxious, depressed, hyperactive and withdrawn children is staggering—and still growing! Millions have experienced bullying, violence (real or in the media), abuse or sexual molestation. Many other kids have been traumatized from more “ordinary” ordeals such as terrifying medical procedures, accidents, loss and divorce. Trauma-Proofing Your Kids sends a lifeline to parents who wonder how they can help their worried and troubled children now. It offers simple but powerful tools to keep children safe ...
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Trauma-Proofing Your Kids: A Parents' Guide for Instilling Confidence, Joy and Resilience

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The number of anxious, depressed, hyperactive and withdrawn children is staggering—and still growing! Millions have experienced bullying, violence (real or in the media), abuse or sexual molestation. Many other kids have been traumatized from more “ordinary” ordeals such as terrifying medical procedures, accidents, loss and divorce. Trauma-Proofing Your Kids sends a lifeline to parents who wonder how they can help their worried and troubled children now. It offers simple but powerful tools to keep children safe from danger and to help them “bounce back” after feeling scared and overwhelmed. No longer will kids have to be passive prey to predators or the innocent victims of life’s circumstances.In addition to arming parents with priceless protective strategies, best-selling authors Dr. Peter A. Levine and Maggie Kline offer an antidote to trauma and a recipe for creating resilient kids no matter what misfortune has besieged them. Trauma-Proofing Your Kids is a treasure trove of simple-to-follow “stress-busting,” boundary-setting, sensory/motor-awareness activities that counteract trauma’s effect on a child’s body, mind and spirit. Including a chapter on how to navigate the inevitable difficulties that arise during the various ages and stages of development, this ground-breaking book simplifies an often mystifying and complex subject, empowering parents to raise truly confident and joyful kids despite stressful and turbulent times.
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“Peter Levine and Maggie Kline have done an outstanding job of helping parents, and everyone else, to understand the different kinds of trauma children may face. I have done a lot of work in therapy around my own traumatic childhood event and was able to try out many of the easy-to-follow exercises they provide. I truly felt a relief and peacefulness that I had never felt before. I treasure this book and hope you will too.”Violet Oaklander, PhD, author of Windows to Our Children: A Gestalt Therapy Approach to Children and Adolescents and Hidden Treasure: A Map to the Child’s Inner Self“If you’ve ever wondered how to help children navigate the rough and tumble vicissitudes of life, this book is a godsend.”Sandra Blakeslee, co-author of The Body Has a Mind of Its Own “This book is a must for every parent, teacher, coach and scout leader. It helps us to understand the stages of childhood development and supports parents in dealing with each stage more appropriately and sensitively. It is a pioneering work, a pioneering insight and a pioneering triumph. It is visionary common sense, pure and simple.”From the foreword by Mira Rothenberg“Trauma-Proofing Your Kids is an important tool to help parents and all adults deal with children that have experienced trauma. Understanding that trauma is a part of life should signal all of us to prepare ourselves for the inevitable.”Ron Scruggs, athletic coach, parent and grandparent
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781583949726
  • Publisher: North Atlantic Books
  • Publication date: 9/16/2014
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 248
  • Sales rank: 353,589
  • File size: 4 MB

Meet the Author

Peter A. Levine, PhD, is the developer of “Somatic Experiencing” and founder of the Foundation for Human Enrichment. A NASA consultant, he lives in Encinitas, CA. Maggie Kline, MFT, has more than 30 years of experience as a teacher, family and child therapist, school psychologist, and parent. She lives in Long Beach, CA.
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The bad news is that trauma is a fact of life. The good news is that so is resilience. Simply stated, resilience is the capacity we all possess to rebound from stress and feelings of fear, helplessness and overwhelm. The analogy sometimes given for resilience is that of a metal spring, such as a “Slinky.” If you pull it apart, the coil naturally rebounds to its original size and shape. Of course, if you stretch this spring too many times (or exert too much force), it will eventually lose its elasticity.People (especially young people), however, need not lose their resilience through wear and tear. On the contrary, we have the capacity to actually build and increase our resilience as we encounter the stresses and strains of life. Resilient children tend to be courageous. This doesn’t mean that they are attracted to dangerous situations, but rather that they are open and curious as they explore their world with gusto and exuberance. And, in their explorations, they inevitably have their share of rumbles and tumbles, collisions and conflicts.When resilient kids meet these forces of nature, they are open rather than shut down. Openness, indeed, is the characteristic that most typifies resilient kids. They are open to other children and enjoy sharing with them. At the same time, they are able to set boundaries of their own personal space and their possessions. They are in touch with their feelings, expressing and communicating them in age-appropriate ways. And, most of all, when bad things happen, they have a wondrous capacity (when supported) to breeze through them. They are the happy, lively children we wish we were. Their biggest challenges occur from events that could be potentially traumatic. Let’s delve into what types of life’s circumstances might cause such overwhelming reactions in our kids.Trauma can result from events that are clearly extraordinary such as violence and molestation, but it can also result from everyday “ordinary” events. In fact, common occurrences such as accidents, falls, medical procedures and divorce can cause children to withdraw, lose confidence, or develop anxiety and phobias. Traumatized children may also display behavioral problems including aggression, hyperactivity and, as they grow older, addictions of various sorts. The good news is that with the guidance of attuned parents and other caregivers who are willing to learn the necessary skills, children at risk can be identified and spared from being scarred for life, regardless of how devastating the events might be or seem.Parents are, at times, conflicted between protecting their children and permitting them to take the risks that build confidence and competence. It’s a tricky balancing act because as they master their world, children can also be traumatized when the unexpected inevitably happens. As much as you may try to “child-proof” your home, ultimately children—driven by their curiosity—will explore and get hurt. That is how they learn and they will have their share of falls, burns, electrical shocks, animal bites and other encounters with the non-forgiving forces of nature. No matter how hard we try, we cannot close our children off in an impenetrable (and inescapable) bubble of safety.Our children are frequently exposed to potentially traumatic events. But parents need not despair. It is possible to minimize the effects of the “ordinary” situations mentioned above, as well as those from extraordinary events such as natural and man-made disasters, including violence, war, terrorism and molestation. Are we being ridiculous by proposing that adults can “traumaproof” kids? We don’t believe so. Remember, although pain can’t be avoided . . . trauma is a fact of life . . . but so is resilience, the capacity to spring back.In this book you will learn practical tools to maximize your child’s resilience so that their equilibrium can be restored when they are stressed to their breaking point. Armed with this “recipe for resilience,” parents and other responsible adults can help to trauma-proof their kids while also generally increasing their tolerance to everyday stress. In this way they can truly become stronger, more caring, joyful and compassionate human beings. The word “trauma” pops up in the headlines of magazines and newspapers regularly. Popular TV shows such as The Oprah Winfrey Show bring understanding to millions of viewers regarding trauma’s gripping effect on body and soul. Trauma’s devastating impact on children’s emotional and physical well-being, mental development and behavior is finally getting the recognition it deserves. Since September 11, 2001, there has been an information blitz on how to cope with catastrophe.Despite this focus, however, precious little has been written regarding the common causes or the prevention and the non-drug treatment of trauma. Focus instead has been on the diagnosis and the medication of its various symptoms. “Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering.” (1) Fortunately, you—the parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents who nurture and protect children—are in a position to prevent, or at least mitigate, the damaging effects of trauma. In order to do the most good for the children in your care, first you need to recognize the roots of trauma. Next, we take a closer look at trauma—its myths and realities. In this way you will understand what may cause a child to remain overwhelmed even though the actual danger has passed.This book will teach you how to help children notice and move through painful sensations and feelings without undue distress...1. Peter A. Levine, Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma (Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books, 1997).
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Table of Contents

Dedication and Acknowledgments     ix
Foreword   Mira Rothenberg     xi
Trauma Is a Fact of Life     1
Real-Life Examples of Children We Have Known     4
Trauma Is Not Only in the Event     7
The Recipe for Trauma     11
The Recipe for Resilience     12
Building Resilience by Building Sensory Skills through Practice, Practice and More Practice     15
Giving Appropriate Support to an Overwhelmed Child     15
Simple Steps to Build Resilience     16
Developing a Calming Presence     17
Getting Acquainted with Your Own Sensations     20
Exercise: Noticing Sensations     20
Exercise: Exploring Sensations and the Rhythm of Pendulation     24
Exercise: Tracking Sensations with a Partner     27
Exercise: Making a Sensation Treasure Chest     29
First Aid for Trauma Prevention: A Step-by-Step Guide     31
Tricks of the Trade: Restoring Resilience through Play, Art and Rhymes     41
The Story of Sammy     43
Four Principles to Guide Children's Play Toward Resolution     46
More Help for Kids through "Make-Believe" Play     54
Art Activities: Clay, Play Dough, Painting and Drawing     59
Nature and Animal Rhymes Combined with Drawings That Build Resources     64
Remedies for Specific Situations: Amusement Park Rides to Zebra Bites     77
First Aid for Accidents and Falls     78
The Purpose of Touch When Helping a Child in Shock     83
The Power of Language to Soothe and Heal     85
Exercise: Experiencing the Power of Words     86
More Animal Rhymes to Help Your Child Regain Self-Confidence     90
A Guide to Constructing a Healing Story     99
Prevention of Medical Trauma     102
What Parents Can Do to Prepare Children for Surgery or Other Medical Procedures     106
When the Medical Procedure Is an Emergency     114
Elective Surgeries     116
Sensitivity to Your Child's Pain     116
A Timely Word about Bullies and School Shootings     122
Ages & Stages: Building Confidence by Fostering Healthy Development     125
Responding to Your Infant: Issues of Safety and Trust     126
Your Toddler's Needs: "Me Do It Myself"     127
"Tug of War" with Your Three- to Four-Year-Old     128
Your Flirtatious Four- to Six-Year-Old Boy or Girl     130
Adolescent Development: Who Am I?     132
Sexual Violation: Reducing the Risk and Early Detection     135
Sexual Trauma Symptoms     136
Reducing the Risk of Sexual Wounds     138
What Is Sexual Violation?     140
Steps Caregivers Can Take to Decrease Children's Susceptibility     140
Games for Kids to Practice Making Boundaries     151
Why Most Children Don't Tell: Making It Safe for Them to Tell You     154
Date Rape and Other Teen Issues     156
Separation, Divorce and Death: Helping Your Child Move through the Grieving Process     159
Symptoms of Grief versus Symptoms of Trauma     159
Two Views of Divorce: Rosy or Dark?     163
Surviving Divorce: A Guide to Preserving Your Child's Wholeness     165
Helping Your Child Grieve     176
Dealing with the Death of a Pet     178
Steps That Help Children Resolve Their Grief     184
Exercise: Grief Recovery     185
Guerrilla Warfare in Our Neighborhoods: The Real Battle to Protect Kids from Terror     191
Models for Change in Hospitals and Medical Centers     192
A Peek at a Model Family-Centered Children's Hospital     197
Community Crisis Intervention     204
A New Model for Crisis Debriefing at School     213
Notes      221
Bibliography     225
Additional Resources     229
About the Authors     233
Foundation for Human Enrichment     235
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