Traveling While Married: How to Take a Trip with Your Spouse--and Come Back Together

Traveling While Married: How to Take a Trip with Your Spouse--and Come Back Together

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by Mary-Lou Weisman, Edward Koren
     
 

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Ah travel! New scenery, exciting adventures, time alone with a loved one. Truth is, travel can make or break a relationship. Just negotiating when to leave for the airport can be tricky: she insists on arriving hours ahead of flight time, he likes the excitement of a photo finish. But as Mary-Lou Weisman sees it, "The inevitable rage with which we begin each

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Ah travel! New scenery, exciting adventures, time alone with a loved one. Truth is, travel can make or break a relationship. Just negotiating when to leave for the airport can be tricky: she insists on arriving hours ahead of flight time, he likes the excitement of a photo finish. But as Mary-Lou Weisman sees it, "The inevitable rage with which we begin each trip only helps us to better appreciate the good times that lie ahead."

Or maybe not. When people have jet lag, can't speak the language, figure out the money, or maintain intestinal regularity, they get cranky. And since they don't know anybody else in Kyoto to take it out on, they take it out on each other. Alas, couples therapy is rarely available on vacation, which is why we need this hilarious and truthful take on travel and togetherness.

Using her own misadventures—from honeymoon through Elderhostel—Weisman exposes all the gender landmines:

Destinations: He wants to outrun molten lava down a volcano, she prefers raking gravel in a Buddhist monastery.

Motivations: She longs for a change of scenery, he hopes for a change of self.

Preparations: She keeps a file of required sights, he won't be bullied by travel guides.

Accommodations: She divides every hotel room in half so he'll know on which side of the bed to throw his wet towel.

Inclinations: She shops a country, he eats it.

This is the real skinny on what happens when Mars and Venus hit the road. With a sly wink, a comic nod, and just the right amount of optimism, Weisman shows us that despite the shortcomings of one's beloved, harmonious travel is possible.

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Publishers Weekly
This lighthearted send-up of the adventures of journeying in a state of matrimonial bliss (or misery, as the case may be) visits every aspect of traveling as a team. After all, "Because couples therapy is rarely available on vacation, it's important to be aware in advance of the special challenges associated with traveling while married." Weisman, a contributor to PRI's Savvy Traveler, begins with obvious sticking points-including what time to get to the airport and how to unite messy and neat factions in one hotel room-and then branches into more taboo territory. When is it okay to admit that a so-called dream vacation is quickly becoming a nightmare? What's the best way to discourage houseguests from tagging along on a summer beach house rental? And, of course, the "don't ask, don't tell" rule of travel: "Nobody wants to hear about your vacation unless you've had a terrible time.... Even people who like you can stand just so much of your gaseous descriptions of swimming in the warm Gulf of Mexico waters or strolling on the Ile Saint-Louis. After a few minutes their eyes glaze over and their smiles become fixed, indicating that you've used up their allotted quotient of niceness." Weisman's breezy humor may make for a quick read, but whether she's sand-boarding in Chile's Atacama Desert or snoozing through "American Diplomacy in the Twenty-First Century" at an Elderhostel, her get-up-and-go spirit is contagious. Drawings by New Yorker artist Edward Koren enliven the text. (Apr. 25) Correction: In the Jan. 20 issue, we incorrectly stated that Joe Haberstroh in Fatal Depth did not use primary sources when, in fact, he did. Our apologies. Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781565123199
Publisher:
Algonquin Books of Chapel Hill
Publication date:
04/04/2003
Edition description:
1ST
Pages:
192
Product dimensions:
5.40(w) x 7.34(h) x 0.64(d)

Meet the Author

Mary-Lou Weisman is a journalist and author whose books include Intensive Care: A Family Love Story, Traveling While Married, and Al Jaffee’s Mad Life. Her essays, feature articles, interviews, and reviews have appeared in The New Republic, Newsweek,Glamour, Vogue, The Atlantic, and The New York Times. She lives with her husband in Westport, Connecticut.

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Traveling While Married: How to Take a Trip with Your Spouse--and Come Back Together 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 1 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
What fun to read Mary-Lou Weisman's witty take on traveling with a spouse. Hilarious and oh so true. A round-trip of clever verbal prat-falls. I was left with a feeling of being ridiculously absurd and human.