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Adoptees working through the issues surrounding their birth can face grief, anger, and questions about their identity. Drawing on the stories of more than 70 adoptees, Sherrie Eldridge shows adoptees how to discover their unique life purpose and worth. The 20 life-transforming choices for adoptees discussed in this book can change your life. They’ll help you discover answers about issues such as:
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Overview

Adoptees working through the issues surrounding their birth can face grief, anger, and questions about their identity. Drawing on the stories of more than 70 adoptees, Sherrie Eldridge shows adoptees how to discover their unique life purpose and worth. The 20 life-transforming choices for adoptees discussed in this book can change your life. They’ll help you discover answers about issues such as:
  • Why do I feel angry or ashamed whenever I think about my birth parents?
  • Why can’t I verbalize the painful aspects of adoption?
  • Where can I gain an unshakable sense of self-esteem?
And much more! Tyndale House Publishers

Written especially for adult adoptees working through complex feelings about being adopted and who are considering finding their birth parents, this book is also an invaluable resources for adoptive or birth parents who want to gain a better insight into their child.

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A speaker, author (Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew), and reunited adoptee, Eldridge has written a guide with Christian undertones for other adoptees who are striving to deal with the grief and loss connected with their adoptions. Drawing on her own experiences and on interviews with more than 70 adoptees, she dedicates the majority of the book to certain emotions that the adoptee may experience (e.g., she titles Chapter 4 "Mixed Feelings About Our Adoptions Are Normal" and Chapter 6 "It May Often Feel Like No One Understands"). Eldridge explains each sentiment and then offers suggestions for coping. While an appendix offers sources of additional information, Eldridge does not support her premises with psychological research, so this reviewer was unable to analyze the universality of the featured emotions. Recommended for adoption collections in larger public libraries.-Kay Brodie, Chesapeake Coll., Wye Mills, MD Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
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  • ISBN-13: 9781576833070
  • Publisher: Tyndale House Publishers
  • Publication date: 4/4/2003
  • Series: Dfd 2 Series
  • Pages: 288
  • Product dimensions: 5.60 (w) x 8.60 (h) x 1.10 (d)

Meet the Author


SHERRIE ELDRIDGE is a reunited adoptee, an internationally known speaker, and the author of four adoption workbooks as well as the highly acclaimed Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. Sherrie and her husband, Bob, live in Fishers, Indiana, and have two married daughters and six grandchildren.
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Table of Contents

Part One: Our Lifelong Struggle with Control

1. Caught Unaware

2. Who Is in Control Here?

Part Two: Twenty Truths and Choices That Can Transform

3. Thinking About Our Birth Mothers Is an Innate Need

4. Mixed Feelings About Our Adoptions Are Normal

5. Learning About Adoption Dynamics Will Help Us Better Understand the Adoption Triad

6. It May Often Seem Like No One Understands

7. Share Deep Feelings Only with "Safe" People

8. Anger Can Be a Sign We Are Coming to Life-Learn Healthy Ways to Manage It

9. Don't Run from Painful Feelings

10. Many of Us Experience Echoes of Loss

11. We Are God's Jewels

12. An Hour with a Fellow Adoptee Is Better Than Weeks of Therapy

13. False Guilt Shouldn't Stop Us from Thinking About a Reunion

14. Thinking About Our Birth Parents Isn't Disloyalty to Our Adoptive Parents

15. We Must Be True to Our Own Growth Process No Matter What Others May Say

16. Taking Concrete Steps Toward Obtaining Our Pre-Adoption Histories Requires Courage-We Can Do It!

17. When Overwhelmed with Thoughts About Adoption We Must Be Gentle with Ourselves

18. Birth Relatives May Reject Us but God Never Will

19. Rejection Shouldn't Stop Us-the Rest of Our Family May Be Waiting with Open Arms

20. Letting Go of Our Birth Mothers' Original Decision Will Set Us Free

21.Our Footsteps Are Unique Across the Sands of Time

22. We Can Be Wounded Healers

Footnotes

Resources for Adoptees

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 25, 2006

    ABSOLUTE MUST READ IF YOU ARE AN ADOPTEE

    I am an Adult Adoptee from Hong Kong, and was abandoned on the street and lived in an orphanage for the first 2 years of my life. I was very lucky to be adopted into the US by my Caucasian American parents, whom I love very deeply. Nonetheless, the repressed pain of abandonement and rejection has recently surfaced. I had bought other books on adoption, but they were so clinical and sterile, I lost interest in them. I never finished reading those books. But Sherrie's book IS AMAZING. I could not put it down!!! It is very well written, deeply personal and very emotional. I needed to read EVERY WORD she WROTE. When she expressed her thoughts and feelings, she articulated unspoken thoughts I had always felt, but never could define. She has alot of clinical information in her book, which is important for me, since I am a Ph.D. student in Neurophysiology. Being trained as a scientist, I do need to have studies to back up hypothesis or suppositions. Sherrie's book has helped me alot to grieve and cry. Her book was hard for me to get through, b/c it triggered alot of violent volcanic emotions that had been deeply repressed. But I know that grieving and forgiveness is the key to true freedom. It is just very hard work to do. But once done, I felt 10 lbs lighter and 10 years younger!! Sherrie's book is leading us to our divinity, wholeness, self-healing, and self-awareness... which is a painful but exhilarating journey. I am an SGI-USA Buddhist and chant Nam Myoho Renge Kyo as my form of prayer to the Universal Power. This has helped me enormously. Sherrie also lists many helpful Adoptee organizations in the Appendix of her book. I hope to join an Adult Adoptee Support Group to continue my journey to wholeness. Sherrie's book is a powerful guiding light in this deeply mis-understood topic of the pain that Adult Adoptees endure. Sherrie speaks for all of us in her book, and this book has saved my life. If you want answers, comfort, empathy, sympathy, love, support, healing and hope in dealing with being an Adoptee, GET THIS BOOK!!! YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 9, 2007

    My Journey

    I am an adoptee as well. I lived a wonderful life with my adopted parents. I always new I was adopted, it was never a secret. I found this book well after I found my biological mother. I wished I had it before. The emotions you go through are unbelievable or I should say indescribeable and NO ONE can understand unless they too are adopted. My search and reunion was happy and well received. My biological was part of my life for nine years until she passed. As I read Sherrie's book I still cried because it was so profound and hit every emotion I had during my life and the search for my mother. It reassured me it was okay to feel those questionable feelings and emotions. I keep the book very close and refer to it often. I have given it as a gift to several friends and coworkers who are adopted just to support them through their search journey. Thank you Sherrie for this gift.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 1, 2003

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    Twenty Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make by Sherrie Eldridge offers understanding and help.

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