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Ugly as Sin: The Truth About How We Look and Finding Freedom From Self-Hatred [NOOK Book]

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'I'm Ugly. You're Ugly. So What?'


In Ugly as Sin Toni Raiten-D'Antonio, MSW, breaks the ultimate social taboo by insisting that she is ugly in the eyes of the world. More shocking still, she calls on the rest of us to own our ugliness too. But don't be insulted. There's a liberating purpose to her message, one that could finally set you free from the obsessing, self-doubt, and self-criticism that all of us participate in when we think about how we look.


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Overview

'I'm Ugly. You're Ugly. So What?'


In Ugly as Sin Toni Raiten-D'Antonio, MSW, breaks the ultimate social taboo by insisting that she is ugly in the eyes of the world. More shocking still, she calls on the rest of us to own our ugliness too. But don't be insulted. There's a liberating purpose to her message, one that could finally set you free from the obsessing, self-doubt, and self-criticism that all of us participate in when we think about how we look.


In this unprecedented examination of ugliness, its pervasiveness in our society, and the havoc it wreaks on our psyches, spirits, and bodies, Raiten-D'Antonio bravely confronts the problem of ugliness (including her own) and opens a dialogue that is provocative and inspiring. She reveals the roots of our perceptions of ugliness and beauty, tracing them through biology, art, religion, and culture and shows how we have been led to fear being defined as ugly ('ugliphobia'), and how this dread has become a universal problem. Comparing ourselves to impossible and ever-changing ideals of beauty, we endlessly cycle between efforts at self improvement and hopelessness.


What you will learn from Ugly as Sin is that overcoming ugliphobia begins with understanding the origins of the problem and learning that what we call ugly is not frightening or alien but part of being human. With searing honesty and empathy, Raiten-D'Antonio gives us the courage to redefine ugliness according to our own standards, while providing tools for finding self-acceptance and living in a world in which ugliness seems to be the ultimate sin.

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Publishers Weekly
In an examination that is equal parts cultural study and memoir, Psychotherapist and bestselling author Raiten-D'Antonio (The Velveteen Principles for Women) explores the U word and its implications in a society obsessed with beauty and youth. Raiten-D'Antonio has encountered ugliness, or "ugliphobia" as she calls it, in her professional work and her classroom. "Bigotry based on appearance seems to be the last socially acceptable bastion of prejudice." The author provides an important historical context of the concept of beauty and makes easy reference to pop culture; she discusses its power by examining her own personal relationship to beauty, including painful experiences with her appearance and, ultimately, her choice to have plastic surgery. An appendix features posts from women who responded to her female-empowerment Facebook group, leaving no doubt as to the importance and reach of this issue. With body-image ranked near the top of concerns among women (and men) today, Raiten-D'Antonio's contention that "everyone is ugly" is not only true but empowering, making her message of acceptance, healing, and hope all the more necessary.
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'The Bookwatch' edition: Self-Help Shelf

Ugly As Sin
Toni Raiten-D'Antonio
Health Communications Inc.
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0757314651, $21.95, www.hcibooks.com

UGLY AS SIN: THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW WE LOOK AND FINDING FREEDOM FROM SELF-HATRED is the first book to examine ugliness, how it's defined, and how it controls our lives. It's based on the author's research into bigotry based on appearance and some results come from the author's web-based survey on self-assessment and ugliness, which sparked hundreds of responses around the world. An intriguing survey results!

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780757393273
  • Publisher: Health Communications, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 8/19/2010
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 268
  • File size: 540 KB

Meet the Author

Toni Raiten-D'Antonio, LCSW, has been addressing self-esteem issues in men and women through her private practice, speaking engagements, and previous books, which include The Velveteen Principles and The Velveteen Principles for Women. She has a thriving private psychotherapy practice on Long Island, where she lives with her husband and two daughters. The Velveteen Principles combined have sold more than 100,000 copies in the United States and has been published in translation in Europe and Asia. Visit the author at velveteenprinciples.com.

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Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Part 1 Origins

1 Survival of the Liked 17

2 Beyond the Body We're Given 29

3 Ugliness and the Purpose of Disgust 39

Part 2 Ugliness and Culture

4 Medusa 49

5 Ugly As Sin 57

6 The Modern Medusa 65

7 You Have to Be Carefully Taught 73

8 Difference as Deviance 83

Part 3 The Ugly Effects

9 Codependence and Ugliphobia 95

10 Bigotry becomes an Inside Job 107

11 The Weight Problem 121

12 Acts of Desperation 129

13 Hatred in Action 143

Part 4 Overcoming Ugliphobia

14 Facing the Truth 157

15 Your Ugly Biography 167

16 Self-Care 181

17 Embracing Medusa 189

Epilogue: Pass It On 197

Appendix: Speak Out 207

Sources 229

Acknowledgments 237

Index 239

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  • Posted September 12, 2010

    Powerful! A MUST READ!

    What a relief it was, after reading this book, to finally accept that I can relax in my imperfections and accept myself and the ugly parts of me! Toni Raiten-D'Antonio has written an incredibly important book that should be read by everyone, and translated for other cultures so that we can all understand how the fear of ugliness plagues us all, and touches at the core of being human. Next to questions about mortality, the fear of ugliness is probably the most basic of all human experiences. In "Ugly As Sin" Raiten-D'Antonio discusses this topic from a historic perspective, documenting how "ugliphobia" has been used as a form of oppression for centuries. With honesty and frankness, she discusses how this fear affected her own life, and with great compassion, includes the stories of men and women all over the world who responded to her question of "When do you feel ugly?". "Ugly As Sin" is riveting, touching, unifying, and inspiring. It asks us to take a hard look at how we are manipulated by media, controlled by those who set the standards of "beauty" and "correctness", and defeated by our own families and peers who hold to these false standards. When we can embrace our ugly parts, we can finally be freed by this artificial separation and begin to appreciate the true uniqueness and beauty that is in each and every one of us. A must read!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 4, 2010

    Every woman should read this!

    As someone who has often felt less than supermodel-gorgeous, this is a book that cuts through all of the issues that we struggle with as women and gets right to the real truth about ugliness. Toni's words truly spoke to me: she does a great job writing about this intense and personal topic in a way that will make you smile and laugh as you turn the pages. This book exposes the sneaky ways in which we are encouraged to feel bad about how we look and gives us tools to fight the battle head on.

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