The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime

The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women: How to Become Orgasmic for a Lifetime

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by Mikaya Heart
     
 

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Owning our desires should be neither embarrassing nor uncomfortable. Nor should they be subject to anyone else's moral judgment of what is right or wrong, good or bad, normal or abnormal. Combining communication and information is the key. By shrugging off the taboos against talking about our preferences and experiences when we're being sexual, we will take the first

Overview

Owning our desires should be neither embarrassing nor uncomfortable. Nor should they be subject to anyone else's moral judgment of what is right or wrong, good or bad, normal or abnormal. Combining communication and information is the key. By shrugging off the taboos against talking about our preferences and experiences when we're being sexual, we will take the first and most important steps toward ensuring our own fulfillment. The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women is an unflinchingly honest, responsible, and thoroughly comprehensive exploration of female sexuality. Topics include: The physical types of orgasm, such as electrical, flying, pounding, deep, waves, and blips; orgasm as an emotional release; the "elusive orgasm" and why some women have difficulty having one; how often we fake them and why; masturbation; multiple orgasms; the male-female dichotomy; penetration and the G-spot; defining the erotic; and the joy of sex toys.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
"Here’s a book every woman should have on her bookshelf. Or nightstand."
—Entertainment Realm

"This guide shows women how to ask for what they need and embrace their complexity, with discussion of multiple orgasms, how personal history shapes sexual experience and the power of fantasy."
—AVN

"This book has a lot to offer the woman who wants to understand and explore deeper into her erotic experience."
—The Dinah Project

"I think this book is a great place to start for women who are looking to improve their sex life, whether they already have orgasms or not."
—Buzz on Vibes

"I enjoyed this book wholeheartedly, and I think it will help a lot of women. In this book you will find new ideas about orgasm and why you may not be so different in your ways at all."
—Kissin Blue Karen

"The author, Mikaya Heart, definitely tried to cover a plethora of information and did a fabulous job of presenting things with an attitude of open acceptance. So many women don’t discuss many of the personal and intimate details of our sexual selves. This book helped me to recognize that I wasn’t alone in some of the things I have personally experienced. It also helped me understand why some women don’t appreciate sex as much as others. One of the most important things that I am taking away from this book is that we must express our desires and needs. If we do not voice our needs and ask for what want in a loving but direct way we are preventing ourselves from enjoying one of the most pleasurable things our bodies, minds and spirit can experience."
—Romancing the Book

"This book as a whole is an engaging mixture of practical advice and spiritual (in a broad sense) discussion."
—Kissed By Venus

"The book... offer[s] freedom to self-define what a healthy sexuality means for each of us, as individuals, without necessarily referencing a "norm." Is it worth buying? Absolutely!"
—Fresh Fiction

"Chapters cover anatomy and general techniques; the physical, “energetic,” and spiritual experience of orgasm; variations and problems; youthful experiences; relationship contexts; and concerns relating to penetration, the G-spot, female ejaculation, fisting, and anal sex. Several good anatomy drawings, numerous referrals to appropriate other books, a safer-sex appendix, and a comprehensive resource list round out the work. VERDICT Designed for women misled by notions of “one right way to orgasm,” Heart’s guide should provide something useful for nearly all self-helper women at any stage of sexual growth and of any sexual orientation. And while more illustrations would have been nice, the book’s relatively modest appearance could be a plus for some challenge-shy librarians. Recommended."
—Library Journal Martha Cornog, Philadelphia

"By diving so deeply into the types of issues that plague many women, Heart is able to show readers that they’re not alone if they have trouble getting pleasure, and for those that don’t, the author brings them to another level. By gaining an understanding of their emotional lives, personal histories, and belief systems, women can better know what works, what doesn’t, and why. Heart is an exceptional guide, and this comprehensive exploration of female sexuality is likely to become a well-used map to discovering new mountaintops in a familiar land."
–Foreword Magazine

"Mikaya Heart's Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women, will help women to release old taboos and fears so they can embrace sexual confidence and enjoy a fuller sex life. A must-read for any woman who wants to expand her vocabulary of sex."
—Betty A. Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One

"Mikaya Heart provides a fresh and illuminating look at that most elusive and tantalizing of
targets, the female orgasm. There are nearly as many varieties of orgasm
as there are women, and this book will open your eyes to possibilities
you never imagined."
—Janet W. Hardy, co-author of The Ethical Slut: A
Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventure

Library Journal
Not a focused how-to, this overview provides extensive information about varieties of and perspectives on female orgasm with the goal of normalizing women's experiences and offering options for enhancement. Since the first edition, titled When the Earth Moves (1998), life coach and author Heart (My Sweet Wild Dance) has reduced the autobiographical information and expanded and updated the experiential component through in-depth interviews with nearly 30 people. Chapters cover anatomy and general techniques; the physical, "energetic," and spiritual experience of orgasm; variations and problems; youthful experiences; relationship contexts; and concerns relating to penetration, the G-spot, female ejaculation, fisting, and anal sex. Several good anatomy drawings, numerous referrals to appropriate other books, a safer-sex appendix, and a comprehensive resource list round out the work. VERDICT Designed for women misled by notions of "one right way to orgasm," Heart's guide should provide something useful for nearly all self-helper women at any stage of sexual growth and of any sexual orientation. And while more illustrations would have been nice, the book's relatively modest appearance could be a plus for some challenge-shy librarians. Recommended.—Martha Cornog, Philadelphia
Kirkus Reviews

Heart (My Sweet Wild Dance, 2009, etc.)guides women through orgasm with thoroughness and sincerity.

At the beginning, the author writes, "I occasionally use the word fuck in this book, usually meaning the act of penetration. Like some of the other words we use when we're talking about sex, it can have negative connotations and mean different things to different people." Indeed, the author's ability to thoughtfully approach sensitive issues while sharing just enough of her own personal experience will immediately set readers at ease. Without judgment, she tackles the taboo with respect for women and their individual perspectives on sexuality and fulfillment. Heart's openness is most apparent in the section "The Spiritual Experience of Orgasm," in which she discusses the relationship between the mental and physical self. When sharing stories about sexual abuse, she does so in a way that offers acceptance. She encourages "sex that requires healing. It requires that you have a sense of absolute autonomy over your body, and if you are going to develop that, you have to get in touch with what your body wants."

Heart's comprehensive exploration of the female sexual experience will be a poignant guide for women of all ages.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781573447348
Publisher:
Cleiss Press
Publication date:
08/15/2011
Sold by:
SIMON & SCHUSTER
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
345
Sales rank:
245,539
File size:
530 KB

Meet the Author

Mikaya Heart (www.mikayaheart.org) grew up in a rural part of Scotland. She developed a deep love of nature from an early age, which sustained her through a difficult childhood. At York University, long before the environmental movement had started, she studied ecology. Unable to accept how disrespectfully our planet is being treated, she dropped out, finding herself most at home in the radical hippie culture of the seventies. In 1978, she came out as a lesbian, and in the same year, trained as an agricultural mechanic. Disillusioned with the homophobia and sexism in the UK, she immigrated to Northern California, where she ran an organic market garden, raised pigs, and built her own house out of recycled lumber in the backwoods. She is a keen writer and has always worked hard at her personal healing, often using shamanic methods. Since she was sexually abused as a child, this led to a book on women's sexuality, When the Earth Moves: Women and Orgasm ,published in 1998. Sex, at its best, is a profoundly shamanic activity, so this fitted well with the belief systems she was developing. Several of her short stories, and one other book, The Straight Woman's Guide to Lesbianism, have also been published. She has two books coming out this year, one on the art of being human, and the other on her travels in Indonesia and Thailand. A horse riding accident at the age of 48 led to profound changes. She sold all her property, in order to be absolutely free, and took off traveling on her own, visiting Asia, Australia, New Zealand, Europe, Hawaii, Mexico, North America, the Caribbean and Brazil. She finds it essential to spend time alone in nature, feeling the being-ness of a place, and consequently her traveling is usually about camping in the wilderness. One of her most memorable experiences was an eight day solo kayak trip in Prince William Sound, Alaska. Her favorite pastimes are dancing, singing, horse-riding, and kitesurfing, all of which she experiences as deeply spiritual. She now identifies most strongly as a marveling mystic, since she has a very powerful awareness of herself as a being of spirit, and is constantly amazed at the extraordinary beauty of this world. Kitesurfing is her greatest passion. She has become the woman who follows the wind, intent on experiencing the delight of dancing with water and air whenever she can. She built a house from all recycled materials and lives happily in Northern California. The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women "The author, Mikaya Heart, definitely tried to cover a plethora of information and did a fabulous job of presenting things with an attitude of open acceptance. So many women don’t discuss many of the personal and intimate details of our sexual selves. This book helped me to recognize that I wasn’t alone in some of the things I have personally experienced. It also helped me understand why some women don’t appreciate sex as much as others. One of the most important things that I am taking away from this book is that we must express our desires and needs. If we do not voice our needs and ask for what want in a loving but direct way we are preventing ourselves from enjoying one of the most pleasurable things our bodies, minds and spirit can experience." —Romancing the Book "This guide shows women how to ask for what they need and embrace their complexity." —AVN "This book as a whole is an engaging mixture of practical advice and spiritual (in a broad sense) discussion." —Kissed By Venus "The book... offer[s] freedom to self-define what a healthy sexuality means for each of us, as individuals, without necessarily referencing a "norm." Is it worth buying? Absolutely!" —Fresh Fiction

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loritatarsmith More than 1 year ago
This is one for every living woman. Every adult female I care about will be receiving a copy of this for either their birthday or Christmas, and I mean everybody from friends to sisters to daughters. It should be required reading for any sexually active female, even if that sexual activity is not shared with others, and so much the better if it is! 'Love it!
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